Borderlines for how far do you keep on saying sorry if u hurt ur best friend'!
Question: i told him him I HATE U ,go away & the next day i felt sooo sorry for what ive said n i appologized n told him i lv him, dun go away but he ignored me... HELLP ...i wanna him back..
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i hav borderline personality disoreder / 19yrs n he is 18... he refused 2 answer ma phone calls n email..
Answers: i told him him I HATE U ,go away & the next day i felt sooo sorry for what ive said n i appologized n told him i lv him, dun go away but he ignored me... HELLP ...i wanna him back..
Additional Details:
i hav borderline personality disoreder / 19yrs n he is 18... he refused 2 answer ma phone calls n email..
For someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, it's important that all the people in your life are aware of the details surrounding your disorder. If it helps, send your friend some information regarding your problem.
Chances are, he already knows it. I'm guessing this probably isn't the first incident either. Unfortunately, borderlines tend to form conflict-ridden relationships. He's probably just tired.
However, if he's your friend he's learned to deal with it. Just give him some time and space and he'll contact you when he's ready.
Good luck.
You can't make him forgive you. All you can do is apologize. And forgive yourself.
You could apologise another one time, then leave it alone. If he does'nt come around he's just being childish! Or if he really wants to finish as a friend, he should at least explain why. I reckon as a "best" friend, you're owed that much!
Don't continue to apologize, for some people they need a while to get over things. If in a few days you have not heard from him write a letter again telling him how sorry you are, and then explain to him how much you have missed him. And leave it in his hands.
If he is your best friend, then just saying "I hate you" shouldn't cause him to not want to be friends with you.
You apologized, now let him have some time to vent. If he doesn't stop ignoring you soon I would recommend leaving him voicemail or sending him another email explaining that you have a borderline personality disorder and that can sometimes affect your personality and emotions. Also say that "I know that it doesn't change what I said to you, but I hope we can get past this. You're my best friend and I hope you realize that I would never intentionally try to make you upset."
Does he know you've got it? Either way just try explaining it, and how it makes you say things you regret or wouldn't usually - if that happens to you.
I know it's a bit simple to just tell you to explain, but it's only really you who can tell him, and you who knows what effects your BPD has. I have it as well, luckily the majority of my friends know about it and have a fair idea of how it can completely take over you.
To be fair, friendship is hard enough for both parties - even more so when someone has something like BPD. I don't know how bad this incident was but sometimes your friends just need a bit of time.
If you explain it and why you said what you did you'll probably feel better. Try not to dwell on it after that - easier said than done I know!