How can I make myself want to go out?!
Question: Im 16, and Im fine with going to school, because I know I have to, and even with going to friends houses. But I just don't want to go out.
I was like that a bit for a while, I remember when I was really small feeling the same way about going to watch movies.
But now, espescially at night, I just can't force myself too. The second a friend brings an event up (my friends almost always only go out at night) I immediately lie, and come up with what ever excuses necessary.
It got worse when I went to this party thing, I spent the day before crying and wishing I didnt have to go, and since then it's got worse.
Its not terribley bad, its not like I have a phobia or anything, I just dont want to go out, and I feel like Im losing friends over it.
What can I do? Please don't tell me just to force myself to go out, it really doesn't help, and I dont really get asked anymore because my friends know I wont come.
Answers: Im 16, and Im fine with going to school, because I know I have to, and even with going to friends houses. But I just don't want to go out.
I was like that a bit for a while, I remember when I was really small feeling the same way about going to watch movies.
But now, espescially at night, I just can't force myself too. The second a friend brings an event up (my friends almost always only go out at night) I immediately lie, and come up with what ever excuses necessary.
It got worse when I went to this party thing, I spent the day before crying and wishing I didnt have to go, and since then it's got worse.
Its not terribley bad, its not like I have a phobia or anything, I just dont want to go out, and I feel like Im losing friends over it.
What can I do? Please don't tell me just to force myself to go out, it really doesn't help, and I dont really get asked anymore because my friends know I wont come.
Let me guess...it's practically impossible to leave the house at these times, but once you do leave, you are Ok - for a little while, anyway.
This is avoidance behavior and I had the same problem (still do) since I was your age. I'm 25 now. I must INSIST - in fact, I COMMAND you! - to get help with this from a counselor. Whether it's caused by social anxiety, anxiety in general, or something else (I can't say for sure, as I am unable to define my own issues with it) you NEED to get help. You have to.
I was like this all through high school. After high school graduation, there wasn't any structure and all the people I was "forced" to maintain social contact with (via classes) were gone. I was left with two friends that stuck with me even though I still continued to turn their invitations down 9 times out of 10.
Years later, I am still reeling from this and still have only a couple friends. My boyfriend is patient with my not wanting to go out, but it's hard for him because he is so social. (He is one of those 2 friends from high school that stuck with me, BTW.)
My stuggle is nowhere near over yet. I get counseling for it (have an appointment today, in fact.) I just want to make sure that no one else goes through what I did. You have time to curb the avoidance behavior, only being 16. So PLEASE get some counseling. It won't go away on its own. If you ever want to talk, drop me a line.
Sweetie, You need counseling. You are suffering from depression. I don't know your age, but please make an appointment with your doctor or have your parents to do this for you. I don't believe you are in a serious situation. Has something happened to you when you went out that upset you? Please talk to someone about it...someone you trust...a parent..? You still go to school and to see friends, so don't worry too much. I just think you should get to the bottom of this before it gets to be a serious problem. Good luck Sweetie. You will be fine!!
maybe you have social anxiety.
there has to be a reason you dont like to go out. and you know it.
Social phobia can only be treated through experience or medication. Take your pick. I would go with going out until I got comfortable. What you are describing is like laziness, the more you are lazy, the less you want to work because you are accustomed to being that way. You will be stuck until you make a change.
just get up go by the window breath take a bath do not sit down of too long then take out a good out fit call a few friend and the party has began need more help cassie3351126@yahoo.com