My sons cutting?!
Question: I recently noticed marks on my 15 y.o sons arm. I think he's cutting
himself. He recently told me he was gay, and after I couldn't accept that fact he began cutting. I hear him in his room every night crying himself to sleep. He's depressed, and confused. Do you think I should take him to a doctor, or what?
Answers: I recently noticed marks on my 15 y.o sons arm. I think he's cutting
himself. He recently told me he was gay, and after I couldn't accept that fact he began cutting. I hear him in his room every night crying himself to sleep. He's depressed, and confused. Do you think I should take him to a doctor, or what?
Help him find a good therapist, preferably someone in the Gay/Lesbian community. Having someone to talk to who truly understands gay issues is vital.
People cut themselves because they are such immense emotional pain, and don't feel like anyone understands the pain. Cutting releases some of the pain as well as leaves an actual, visible mark that shows the world he is in pain. (Of course, your son would likely say that he cuts himself because it makes him feel better. The rest is sub-conscious.) If you see new marks from cutting on your son's body, don't ignore it. Say "it looks like that hurt. Would you like me to put some antibiotic or a bandage on it?". If he says yes, then do so. If not, then just say "ok. just let me know if there is anything I can do to help." and drop the subject. This way you aren't ignoring his pain and you aren't making a big deal out of his cutting behavior.
Be sure you get him that therapist. Medication won't solve his problems, but talking to someone not emotionally connected to him about his life and feelings will help. You may also want to find someone to talk to about your feelings- it doesn't have to be a therapist, it could be a close friend or family member who is non-judgemental. Take care of yourself, and you will be able to take better care of your son.
take him to a pschiatrist immediantly
no actually a schyiatrist so he express his feelngs
Well of course he is cutting. You don't accept him for who he is as a person. That must make him feel all alone, and heart broken, and depressed. I know the feeling when some one doesn't accept you for your personal preference. It's very hard, especially when your own mother can't even accept you. What he needs is love, acceptance, and patience. He needs some one to talk to. He needs you to be there for him. Also, he may need to see a psychiatrist, maybe get him on some meds for depression? Because cutting often means idealations of suicide. Good luck, and please be there for him at this difficult confusing part of his life.
Yes, I think your son needs to talk to a doctor or counsellor. I would start by talking to my family doctor and seeing what (s)he recommends, and then making an appointment for your son, taking him there to make sure he goes.
He has obviously been under a lot of stress lately - if you are worried enough about him to consider taking him to a doctor, you might want to rethink your stance on his sexuality. What is more important - the fact that he is gay or the fact that he knows that you love him unconditionally?
Please get some help for him. He is putting himself in danger. And if you are really having a hard time with his sexuality, you might want to consider seeing a counsellor to help you deal.
You should talk to him first. I'd give it awhile before confronting him though. The worst thing a cutter wants is to be found out. Be supportive and be comforting. Ask him how he's feeling, ask him what he thinks he needs to feel better, let him talk about his feelings and most of all, make sure he knows that you're okay with his sexuality (if you are).
Cutting is just a coping method. Yes, it's serious, but it's a delicate issue. Your son won't stop just because you or his doctor wants him to. It's something you'll have to work together toward, and he'll have to want to recover. Talking to a doctor is definitely important, so talk to him about seeing one.
i had a friend that told her parents she was a lesbian and her mom was okay with it, but her dad was really harsh about it...and she got really depressed and ended up suicidal and she's gone.... no offense, but the reason why he is doing this is because you really hurt him. he told you because he couldn't keep a secret from you, his parent. you don't need to take him to a doctor,he needs family love and support, not professional help. you need to be a good parent and love him for who he is. you need to talk to him about this....he's probably crying because you were too harsh. you can cure his depression by loving him and showing him that.
Yes, go see a doctor immediately. Start with your family doc or pediatrician. This is serious. I would be so sad if my son were gay but I would accept it and reassure him with lots of love. I have a 15 year old son and teen life is already confusing enough without being gay as well. I wish you and your son the best.
i think you should accept your son
it doesn't matter if he's gay or not
he's your son and you need to be there for him
apparently you rejecting him after he told you he was gay
got him depressed. help him out and take him to a doctor immediately!!! if you keep waiting he might even attempt suicide
he needs to see a dr, and probably a psychiatrist, get him help immediatly
talk to him and say you think it is ok that he is gay and ask what the cuts are from -BOND WITH HIM-
yes you should...and then you both need counseling...he needs you to accept him for who he is and he needs help dealing with all of this.....get him help for both of you.....MOM of 6
He is your son accept him and love him he needs you your his mother do it work it out