Worried about family friend's mental health??!
Question: So a couple of weeks ago the girlfriend of a long time family friend on hubby side had a baby. The baby was put on respirators and the dad gave permission after a while to take them off and see if she could breathe on her own. She ended up passing. Now he calls himself a murderer. He and his girlfriend (live-in) didn't even have the nursery totally ready but now they are finishing it and putting pictures of the baby in it. I am afraid they are going to drive themselves crazy. Anyone have any advice to relay?? They both blame themselves b/c he told them to pull [plug and she did like every drug under the sun while she was pregnant. I don't get along with her very well but I still feel bad for them.
Answers: So a couple of weeks ago the girlfriend of a long time family friend on hubby side had a baby. The baby was put on respirators and the dad gave permission after a while to take them off and see if she could breathe on her own. She ended up passing. Now he calls himself a murderer. He and his girlfriend (live-in) didn't even have the nursery totally ready but now they are finishing it and putting pictures of the baby in it. I am afraid they are going to drive themselves crazy. Anyone have any advice to relay?? They both blame themselves b/c he told them to pull [plug and she did like every drug under the sun while she was pregnant. I don't get along with her very well but I still feel bad for them.
Most hospitals have list of grief councelers for such tragic times but of cource they have to be willing to go. They are dealing with it there own way and it may be all they can handel for now. They both will need to realize they have to improve before trying to bring a child again. There isnt a lot you can do except meantion grief counceling and let them know you are sad for them BUT life has to go on and improve theirself for next time.
It's part of the grieving process. Just let them finish the nursery.
With a situation like that they are in mourning and it is normal from them to place blame upon themselves and try to get back what they lost they are simply going through a grieving process, but understand if there relationship becomes effected they may need to seek counseling for their relationship. they lost apart of themselves and they are simply grieving a loss of a child.
hopefully they can use the nursery for the next baby