Self Cutters and Burners?!
Question: Please don't take this the wrong way..I am not trying to be insensitive, but lately I've been very depressed and I have been suicidal in the past....I don't want to go to those extremes anymore..but I need to do something to fight the inner pain (God, that sounds EMO but its true.) How do other self cutters and burners get the strength to do so? What does it feel like does it hurt for long? It keeps going through my mind of doing either. I just smoked a cig and held it to my inner hand..but I couldn't do it.......
I'll probably get deleted from this, but perhaps something will come out of this post...like I said I'm not trying to be insensitive I'm only being honest.
Answers: Please don't take this the wrong way..I am not trying to be insensitive, but lately I've been very depressed and I have been suicidal in the past....I don't want to go to those extremes anymore..but I need to do something to fight the inner pain (God, that sounds EMO but its true.) How do other self cutters and burners get the strength to do so? What does it feel like does it hurt for long? It keeps going through my mind of doing either. I just smoked a cig and held it to my inner hand..but I couldn't do it.......
I'll probably get deleted from this, but perhaps something will come out of this post...like I said I'm not trying to be insensitive I'm only being honest.
Most people who cut themselves do it to allow their inner pain to ooze out of their bodies. It's symbolic in a way. They aren't concerned with the actual event, it's the aftermath that they are looking for. It's like the overflow valve on a water heater. The valve allows some of the water to escape so that the whole unit doesn't blow up. What a cutters valve releases is unbearable pain that has built up inside the person.
For most of us, the very idea of cutting into our own flesh is repugnant. This is as it should be and your reluctance to burn yourself is normal.
Instead of thinking of ways to deal with your pain and depression,( ie. Cutting, Burning, Drugs, Alcohol, Sex) try looking for a long term solution for your depression. Find someone you can talk to and take the needed steps to regain some control of your life.
pray. short and simple. pray.
Been there, done that. DO NOT start cutting/burning. It only leads to more intense stress. Try to journal, draw, play an insturment, ANYTHING.
please, find some help, I've been there done it, and screw people who call you EMO. you know, we are all people and emotions are life. please, don't let it get bad, don't hurt yourself
As a recovered self injurer, I suggest that you shouldn't start. It leaves ugly and embarassing scars and just isn't really worth it.
Don't do it I don't see the pleasure of pain. Go join wrestling to get all your angers out.
dont even think about harming yourself.
it is not even worht it.
i used todo it and i dont anymore, but i have to live with it every day of my life when i see the scars that it left.
i have to deal with hiding the scars it left EVERY day of my life
it is not worth it.
please dont do it
Some people who are self harming to deal with pain have serious trouble, mentaly, some dont even relise there doing it which saddens me that they are harming themselfs and nt conches of it. In my eyes it wont help at all, You reely need to be in somones shoes to know if it wrks or not, my opinion is that its not anywhere near the best way to deal with things, Read a book, listen to some tunes, dont try relise the anger,forget about it without even trying :)
well i would say that the temptation to want to cut wont be there for as long as the scar will.
and i want to say i wish you luck. and its great that your not cutting or anything thats great of you.
Friends have been my only salvation. I don't have very many of them, but I've found if I can get ahold of somebody when I'm at my worst, just being with somebody and talking to them is enough to make me feel good enough to not want to hurt myself anymore.
I've been depressed most of my life, and I'm always at my best when I'm incredibly busy and distracted. When I was in college, I had very little free time, so I was hardly ever depressed. Once I graduated, I spent a long time unemployed, and so I got worse. As long as I've had people I could rely on, I've been able to make it through the rough spots.
I've been an ex-cutter for a year and a half now, and the tricks are finding ways to keep your hands busy (such as writing, playing an instrument, knitting, or even just painting your nails!) but the most important trick is to really want to keep away from those habits.
It's tough but it's possible =) Good luck!
try hurtin urself by not taking a sh*t and holding it while u go out and do ur day!
Please don't start.