How can i stop or help this girl with her mind?!
Question: Following on from my question,"if you were a girl, would u do this? is it normal?".My ex left a question on here saying i was `obsessed`,added her friends to my Myspace,and she had to move house for fears of her safety,asking about bringing Police in.This girl has made my life hell since we first met.Mentally torturing me with her friends and even though I am over it now,she is paranoid and STILL wants to hurt me more.She is bi-polar and has a history of depression caused by family and fake friends.The friends she talks to now tried to break us up,hurt her a lot with lies and she erased me from her life.It hurt me and I fell apart for a while but I am ok now,I know she didnt deserve me.I mean,how can I add her friends if her Myspace is private!or add pictures to my music page(which we made together and she says is now fake!).Her sick friends keep sending her stuff pretending to be me and sending me stuff to act on.I havent spoke to her since October.Now shes blaming me for bad studies!
Answers: Following on from my question,"if you were a girl, would u do this? is it normal?".My ex left a question on here saying i was `obsessed`,added her friends to my Myspace,and she had to move house for fears of her safety,asking about bringing Police in.This girl has made my life hell since we first met.Mentally torturing me with her friends and even though I am over it now,she is paranoid and STILL wants to hurt me more.She is bi-polar and has a history of depression caused by family and fake friends.The friends she talks to now tried to break us up,hurt her a lot with lies and she erased me from her life.It hurt me and I fell apart for a while but I am ok now,I know she didnt deserve me.I mean,how can I add her friends if her Myspace is private!or add pictures to my music page(which we made together and she says is now fake!).Her sick friends keep sending her stuff pretending to be me and sending me stuff to act on.I havent spoke to her since October.Now shes blaming me for bad studies!
Change your myspace, if you can save all your files in your old myspace and transfer into the new one, change your myspace name and let her hit her own bottom. Sounds like you were a big cushion from her mental illness, so she ended up using you as her medication. MOst bipolar people who are not medicated right, do make bad choises of friends and seem to choose people that are bad for them, because they themselves are so out of character, being bipolar. I guarantee you, that once you are completely out of her and her friends lives, she will go into a downward spiral, you have ot accept that as part of her recovery process, and once she hits her bottom, and ends up in a psyche ward, she'll get on the right medication, dump her fake friends, and be a totally new person. She may even come around to you again, once she is on her right medication, and thank you for cutting her off. Then you can make the choise whether you want to be with her again. Sounds like she is in a huge manic phase and her friends are feeding into it. Just tell her you need to stay away from her while she is in this manic phase and once she gets help for it, you'll be in her life again. Never accept a manic phase in anyone...it could end up turning violent and terribly abusive. I should know, my long term boyfriend is BiPolar. When he has been manic in the past, I dump him and he usually comes around after he gets medicated and thanks me for not being apart of his mania.
Alright, this really isn't your problem. I know you don't want her saying things about you and you're mad her friends are causing trouble. However, you have to let it go and realize they're all being childish and immature. Tell yourself you're not going to be drawn into their games. If they want to talk, let them. If your ex wants to accuse you of things, there's nothing you can do about it but act maturely and prove her wrong.
It's frustrating when people are saying things about us that aren't true, but that's what people do, and they're always going to do it. You have to do your best to ignore it and just live your life regardless of what they say.
Normall girl thing, they dont hurt with words and numbers, mentally hurt you, they do not use fits and get it over and done with like boys theu want to add salt to the wond.
Sounds like she is jelious of you and still like/loves you but since you dont love her she want to get you back
the police cant help unless the phisically hurts you
but i suggest try to get ur friends behind you and show you have power and arnt helpless, if you make yourself look defenceless they will hurt you more
Girls are so cruel sory you got such a Biach* for a girl...
Hope this helps and if you need more help just ask me k?
Bubbles
XoXo
ok number one she has bi polar which is a problem on its own, and my advice is sever all ties with this girl, erase ur myspace and make a new one, and dont except her or her friends, i dunno how myspace works but with facebook if u dont accept people they cant look at your page or leave comments so maybe change to there, well i think if people are silly enough to keep believing rumours then there not your friends, if u live near her i really would stay away from her, if u keep ignoring her she will go away, i hope this works out for you
Hey,
I would close your MySpace account, avoid her, and move on. You are no longer in a position to help her with her mind. If she has you down an a bad person she won't take advice from you.
Can you avoid the whole situation? If not, tell her that you don't want to cause her any more grief and that you should both call it quits. If you want an easy time, tell her it's all your fault and you take the blame for it all. It doesn't really matter that it isn't - what matters is getting some normality back into your life, so who cares if strictly speaking you are blaming yourself for something that wasn't your fault?
There are literally thousands of new people out there who would not put you through the kind of stresses you are going through now - dealing with someone with depression is incredibly hard, and the harsh reality is that only they can really help themselves. Unless they want to do that, you can only prop them up so far. Find somebody new who makes you laugh, not makes you stressed.
dude there is nothing you can do.Distance yourself from this person as much as possible. For your sake and hers. IF this girl is lying about you then the best thing to possibly do is stay away from her in every way shape or form. If she tries to contact you change your number email ETC any time she talks to you record the conversation and save emails to prove and show you are not the aggressor. Find some one that makes you happy. This is kinda a real personal problem which you should rely on family and friends for support as they know you and can direct you best.
As for the friends contacting you file a police report against them the Ip of any email can be traced or simply mark it as spam. IF it becomes too harassing you should file restraining orders on them. Make sure it's definitely needed because this stuff can mess up other people's lives considerably. The best course of action. Ignore and stay away. Move on. take some time to make you happy.
sorry mate to tell u this but the only way to do this is to send her flowers and u need to talk to her in person face to face u need to tell her everything dont hide anything from her just say it all friends can be enemys if u can try to use some of the sutff to ur advantage and if u gets the police involded so what theres alot of other people in the world
so good luck mate try with ur heart if u love her so much it will happen