I,been fighting my partners demons for twelve years.?!
Question: my partner was treated like a slave by her mother and stepfather,he is a waste of air.he threatened her with abuse and messed her head up to a major degree to complex to explain her ,my problem is that the anger instilled in her by these one cell organisms is vented at me.i am the one closest to her so this is as it should be,only after trying for so long to help the wonderfull person that is behind all this anger i am starting to feel that it is pulling me down ,i cant afford for this to happen as we have two stunning children and i need to make sure they are taken care of .so i have brought all her troubles to a head by refusing to accept her rages and retaliating by showing her how pointless her rage and arguments are,this is not going down well at all,she has a emergency referal to a psycoligist we are waiting on it happening meanwhile our relationship is like beruit on a bad day i am struggling to hold it together,i dont want to walk ,with the end of the tunnel so close,help...
Answers: my partner was treated like a slave by her mother and stepfather,he is a waste of air.he threatened her with abuse and messed her head up to a major degree to complex to explain her ,my problem is that the anger instilled in her by these one cell organisms is vented at me.i am the one closest to her so this is as it should be,only after trying for so long to help the wonderfull person that is behind all this anger i am starting to feel that it is pulling me down ,i cant afford for this to happen as we have two stunning children and i need to make sure they are taken care of .so i have brought all her troubles to a head by refusing to accept her rages and retaliating by showing her how pointless her rage and arguments are,this is not going down well at all,she has a emergency referal to a psycoligist we are waiting on it happening meanwhile our relationship is like beruit on a bad day i am struggling to hold it together,i dont want to walk ,with the end of the tunnel so close,help...
It takes a certain kind of man to take the steps you've taken
In spite of the past, you haven't given up.You are right, the children should come first. Stay strong, and stay calm yourself.I know its not easy sometimes The authorities automatically assume its the man.
She has to admit she has a problem or at least that she can, and will try, and has to do better at controlling herself.
She must deal with the source of the anger and rage. It is good that she is going to get help because it really sounds like she needs it. I've seen my partners demons, and some of mine too. The light is on. Keep going.
Hope this helps
I don't think it would be a bad idea for YOU to see the GP to see what support YOU can get-you certainly need and deserve some!!-explain the whole thing to him/her and get the support you need-turn to any family who are approachable-this can be a big help,,,, remember battered men exist too-and mental cruelty is no less painful than being stabbed
I wish you all the luck in the world x let me know and feel free to message/mail anytime x x -you have very lucky kids x x
keep it together. There may be a light at the end of the tunnel. Let her seek professional help. It may be learned behavior or she may have some sort of imbalance. As long as she sees someone and follow through with each appointment things may get better.
you are a good man...my partner is the same for me-i am now on the(long)road to recovery and i often wonder how she copes-i really wish there was more support for the friends/partners of mental health sufferers like myself.i belive that there are online forums for peeps like yourself but i havent tried any....good luck to you both for the future-may it be a long and Rosy one!
I can totally relate to your circumstances. Just remember, that even though she will see a psycologist, it could take many months or years to get her troubles resolved depending upon what her condition/ailment is and IF she is receptive to receiving proper treatment. It is important for you to know that this obviously affects your kids, and their emotional stability as well. If your need to eventually move on from this, realise that it may be the best for all concerned, even if it is only temporary. Do not feel guilty about this. At some point it may become a health issue for you and your kids as well. The stress, depression, anger, guilt can become overwhelming. Please take care of you and your kids' needs as well. Hang in there.