Should i even care bout' her or forgive her!?!
Question: my aunt has tried 2 kill herself at least 6 to 7 times over the past 4 or 5 years. i don't think i could ever look at her face and not screamm and yell at her.
i would care less if i never talked 2 her again. the first 5 time were probly 4 attention. but now she really wants to kill herself.many of us have reached out to her. she has 3 girls.
the oldest smokes pot and drinks and she's almost 18, her other one also smokes pot drinks, and has been in the hospital various times for mental evaluation, and she's 16.
and then my other cousin is never home wich is actually better. my aunt and her 16 year old are both on meds. and the last time my aunt was at the hospital the TRIPPLED her meds.
*which last time is wut she overdosed on!* so should i even bother with them? does this make me a bad person?!
Answers: my aunt has tried 2 kill herself at least 6 to 7 times over the past 4 or 5 years. i don't think i could ever look at her face and not screamm and yell at her.
i would care less if i never talked 2 her again. the first 5 time were probly 4 attention. but now she really wants to kill herself.many of us have reached out to her. she has 3 girls.
the oldest smokes pot and drinks and she's almost 18, her other one also smokes pot drinks, and has been in the hospital various times for mental evaluation, and she's 16.
and then my other cousin is never home wich is actually better. my aunt and her 16 year old are both on meds. and the last time my aunt was at the hospital the TRIPPLED her meds.
*which last time is wut she overdosed on!* so should i even bother with them? does this make me a bad person?!
It doesn't make you a bad person to want to protect yourself emotionally. From the way you spell, I'm going to guess your pretty young...Keep in mind you really don't have a good understanding of whats happening with your aunt. It may be better of for you to stay away from her till she is stable. Only you can make that decision.
Being angry at her is not going to help. It sounds like you actully care very much about her.... If you scream at her it will reinforce the bad feelings she has about herself. If you cannot be caring and supportive, tell her you care then you should leave her alone. Don't make her feel worse than she already does.
We can't answer that question for you. Here's what you should be asking yourself. Can I live without any regret if I don't do anything to help them? It's sad that people with mental health problems usually get worse because doctors will push any "happy" pill on them, then trade them off, back and forth. There are 3 innocent girls that seem to be acting out, asking for help. If their mom ends up killing herself, what will happen to the girls? Who takes care of these girls now? It's such a sad situation, and to be honest, if it were only her then I might say forget her, but it's not. This affects a whole family.
There is an old book called "The Art of Loving". I think the author is Fromm? In short, the book reminds us that everyone's situation comes from someplace. Should you be mad at your aunt? Or is it your aunt's mom who screwed her up? Or is it her mom? Or her great great grandmother twiced removed? Or heck, is it Adam and Eve?
The point is that we have all arrived at this place somehow and that we are here for some unfortunate reason. What do we do now?
We could choose to be angry at the person, or we could choose to love them and more importantly perhaps, we could feel sorry for them.
Another important question to ask yourself: Is there anything you can do to help, or are you banging your head against the wall and frustrating yourself?
The first point is to relieve yourself of the anger you feel toward her. Just let it go. It may be the fault of everyone in the line and therefore nobody.
The second point is that if there is nothing you can do to fix it, so just accept it. HOWEVER, if it stresses you out too much, you may just need to walk away and not bother with them. You need to watch out for your own feelings too. People get so caught up in helping others that sometimes they forget to help themselves.
If she is seeing a doctor regularly, all that can be done is being done.
No. You should not ignore her. She probably wants help, but is too scared to get it. Doing that is probably a cry for help, so somebody needs to be there to support her.