Challenging mom?!
Question: my mom is challenging. she has been diagnosed as a rapid cycler but i think she may be boderline or something. her moodswings are really bad and have affected my life greatly. i have done much to work through it, but she now just annoys me. i should be patient, but it is hard. how can i have a relationship with someone who is jekel and hyde? i often wonder what my life would be like if i had had a steady-eddie type mom. anyone relate and or have any advice?
Answers: my mom is challenging. she has been diagnosed as a rapid cycler but i think she may be boderline or something. her moodswings are really bad and have affected my life greatly. i have done much to work through it, but she now just annoys me. i should be patient, but it is hard. how can i have a relationship with someone who is jekel and hyde? i often wonder what my life would be like if i had had a steady-eddie type mom. anyone relate and or have any advice?
If you are over 21, you don't have to be involved with your mother daily. You can move to another city and keep busy doing may other things. Visit your mom when you are feeling strong and can deal with her. You could insist that you will not visit unless she deals with her problems and sees a doctor. Unfortunately, when in a manic phase, people think they are perfect, know everything, can do anything and don't need any medication. She may need a case manager to coordinate her care if she cannot take care of herself. Some states won't appoint one unless she is hospitalized first.
If you are under 21, talk to a school counselor, your doctor, her doctor, an aunt, a neighbor, or even call Child Protective Services. You can live with another relative if you are not getting cared for properly. A child cannot and should not be responsible for caring for an adult, even if they are their parent. A child needs proper parenting and care to develop into a healthy, capable adult.
I understand, but you just have to put up with it... she is your mom, and you love her? Love her for everything she is, and dont try to change her or anything!!!
My mother was just like that...since I was a little girl *I am twenty five now*..I had to cut ties the last five or so years because she was just too much for me and I was wasting a lot of emotion on her...I don't suggest you cutting ties-my mther had just done horrible, horrible things throughout the years..I do, however, suggest that you really have a sit down with her and see if meds. can help her..if she is already taking some-I'd suggest a change in meds...hope all goes well, wish you the best!
It is unfortunate that you are having to deal with this. I'm sure your mom doesn't want to be dealing with this siutation any more than you want to. Your mom is probably struggling with this herself and I'm sure she doesn't want to act like this towards you. Just try to deal with her the best you can, but most of all, try to be there for her as well. She probably needs you more than you know right now. Both of you can get through this and be lucky that she is still here. Sometimes when we are young, we wish our parents were different or not around, but remember they will not be here forever, so try to get through this period the best you can and let her know that you are there for her. Good Luck! ;).