How to deal with a verbally abusive father?!
Question: How to deal with a verbally abusive father?
I can't take it anymore. My father has been verbally abusive to my mother, and me for basically my entire life. I've gotten to a point where I don't know how to deal with him anymore. I do not live at home anymore(thank god) I'm now 18. The problem is how my father acted my whole life is effecting me now. Can anyone relate?
Answers: How to deal with a verbally abusive father?
I can't take it anymore. My father has been verbally abusive to my mother, and me for basically my entire life. I've gotten to a point where I don't know how to deal with him anymore. I do not live at home anymore(thank god) I'm now 18. The problem is how my father acted my whole life is effecting me now. Can anyone relate?
Absolutely I can relate! Abuse causes low self esteem. It's difficult to have a good relationship too. This is because you have not been exposed to a normal loving family. Those negative tapes just keep playing through your head. That's why people turn to drugs & alcohol. Live your own positive life. Maybe you & your mom could meet for lunch or go shopping together? That's good you're away from the abuse. I hope your mother can get away from him too.
i relate perfectly well to you and it took me a long time to learn this and it is hard to hear and hard to do but it can be done
You have to forgive him and then your heart will be set free
You are not forgiving him for what he did to you but you are forgiving him for yourself to get peace in your heart
can you understand that or do i need to clarify more
you can consult a councelor, yea my parents are the same way but you should have to ignore. If you can't change the way your parents act, you have to change the way you act.
Hun I can relate. I know what it's like to have a father like that.
If you want to move on you need to let everything go.
try an intervention get friends and family in one place maybe that might help
I think good for you for your awareness and wanting to make a change. My family has some history of not respecting one another and releasing anger in unhealthy ways. I would think that your father at this point doesn't realize or maybe he does that he probably feels very powerful when he gets to speak his business. There is a good book by patricia evans on verbal abuse. it talks about control. I think the best thing we can do for ourselves is educate ourselves. Also another good one is nasty people by jean carter That is a book you might find in the library. A good saying my GP told me is "DON'T WRESTLE WITH PIGS" (not that your father is a pig) you both get dirty and the pig enjoys it.
In my family yelling and swearing has been an accepted practice but we are trying to change that. Well I am trying to change my behavior and that is all I can do.
You should tell an adult or counsler. if you ignore it will eat you up. try to get a family member to talk to your father. and talk to your mother about leaving your father if she ignores it you must let it go, forgive your father, and live life
yes it could have adverse effcts but what you mustremember is that you are not your father and you will be responsible for your actions not him . so if you want to go on thinking about your father then it will take longer to release all the anger that you have kept inside of you forgive him and yourself for what you went threw and go on with your life
Ok, you need to get help RIGHT NOW if he is abusing you!!!
I am a nurse and i deal with this all the time. Many people (children, adults, teens, etc.) have been lead to death with abusive parents. Take your father to court and press charges on him.
you must be strong and break the cycle or you will end up being like him without realising it then its to late tell him straight change or get out of my life as long as he is around it will be hard for you he also has to realise what a tw-t he has been before he will change im sure a lot of people can relate to your situation