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Question: i graduated with a bachelors degree in 2005.
when i was finishing i really got deep deep depression, i never knew and couldnt understand how somebody ever could be so sad. i was suicidal.
anyway ive made a complete recovery for a while now, what helped was i went to do some more study in that time and i did a months work experience in a really fantastic place but i got fired after a month for coming in late too often, i recovered but it was difficult settling back to my usual self. the nice thing was i found a lot of positive people during then. the problem is at home when i was depressed my parents were going through some crazy stuff, a divorce, my dad was having an affair and he beat my mum and me like crazy. but i was building up to a complete melt down, i just waited until i finished university.
anyway im just very scared before my parents dont support me they never will. and im the first to get a job and actually want to move out, my dad ran his own business in asia.


Answers: i graduated with a bachelors degree in 2005.
when i was finishing i really got deep deep depression, i never knew and couldnt understand how somebody ever could be so sad. i was suicidal.
anyway ive made a complete recovery for a while now, what helped was i went to do some more study in that time and i did a months work experience in a really fantastic place but i got fired after a month for coming in late too often, i recovered but it was difficult settling back to my usual self. the nice thing was i found a lot of positive people during then. the problem is at home when i was depressed my parents were going through some crazy stuff, a divorce, my dad was having an affair and he beat my mum and me like crazy. but i was building up to a complete melt down, i just waited until i finished university.
anyway im just very scared before my parents dont support me they never will. and im the first to get a job and actually want to move out, my dad ran his own business in asia.

I'm encouraging you to seek some personal therapy to help you decide the direction you want to take YOUR life. At that you can explore if your depression is situational or something more chronic that you could deal with effectively through use of psychotropic medications and coping skills.
Take care of yourself.

Get a job and move out. You will be suprised at how empowered you feel when you take care of yourself and don't rely on someone else.

Your depression may leave, as you may be what's referred to as the 'identified patient' aka the one who acts goofed up when everyone else is really messed up but functioning in a system.

You will definitely feel better when you are taking care of yourself and your life. If you are smart enough to graduate college, then obviously the only thing holding you back is your emotional insecurity...not your brains!

You'll be amazed at how your depression evaporates when you take control of your destiny!

Be of good cheer. Things wiil get better. You now have an education and your future is assured, even if you have not found a place yet. Avoid arguing with others. Keep trying Avoid applying for or working at low pay jobs, if possible. That includes avoid waitressing or fast food if possible. It is usually very difficult to look for a job when you already have one.

Find a social life with good people. Find a second family ----------- from a church or YMCA, a social club, there must be somewhere in your area where you can find dedicated people.
By the way, ALWAYS capitalize I when writing. Never i. If you write a job application with i you will be unemployed forever!

Try to avoid controvery with your father. And, if he ever hits somebody either 1) call the police. or 2) wait until he goes to sleep and then severely but not fatally beat him with a large stick or heavy cooking pan. Be sure that you hit his nose and put three or four lumps on his head.

If you are suffering from depression then you will need professional help. Rumour has it that if you have had depression before then you are likely to get it again. I know, I have suffered depression off and on since 1987. Your father clearly does not like the idea that you could be more intelligent and the sooner you are out of the house the better.

Your depression could have been brought about during your younger days whilst at home and this study that you have been doing has actually given you an aim in life whence the reason why you felt good during the time of studying.

Your parents at the moment have problems that they need to deal with not taking anything away from you but it cannot be easy for either parent when divorce is looming in the atmosphere. By the way, big congratulations on graduating with a bachelors degree, fantastic.

Sounds like your mum has a lot on her plate too, try to be a little more supportive to her as again finding out her husband has had an affair and also experiencing domestic violence can be extremely difficult. Really the best thing for you is to leave home and if possible stay with a friend. Keep an eye on your mum as she will need your support too, in this testing time you may find solace in supporting each other.

You have come a long way and done extremely well, that is something to be proud of. Do not let your father take anything away from all the hard work you put into studying and I am sure you will be working soon. You need to speak to someone though about your depression as it has a very bad habit of creeping up on you without you actually knowing.

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You are a unique and special person that deserves a chance at happiness!! If you have gone through school and got a degree then I know you have drive and courage!! Summon up that courage and find a way to move out on your own!! I know you love your family but now you must make your own way in the world and by limiting time with your family for a while and moving out you may meet special new people that can help fulfill your life!! Your parents problems are their problems not yours - the best way to show your dad what you are made of is to move out and prove that you can take care of yourself and make a successfull life for yourself!! As you take things one day and one step at a time ( set mini goals and then celebrate as you meet each one ) you will regain your self confidence and self respect!! Others including your family will see that shining through. And many times as we get busy living life some of our problems take care of themselves with time!! Please note that we all get overwhelmed by life's problems sometimes and feel like running away or just ending it all; but this is not the solution to any problem. It would only make things even worse!! The loved ones you leave behind would suffer immensely and I do not know if you believe in God or fate or whatever; but I believe that each life is a precious gift and it is not up to us to decide when nor where we want it to end!! I believe that we each have a purpose even if we may never know what it is. Your purpose could be to help your mother with emotional love and support, it could be to show your father that you are better than he is, it could be that you will someday do something wonderfully important to the world or for a neighbor, it could be the child you may one day give birth to, or it could even be a stanger that you pass on the street and smile at thereby brightening their day!! We never know how many little things we do each day affect the lives of others!! And we do not have the right to second guess nor to short change the reason God created us. We have to trust and faithfully believe that there is a reason!! And when life gets us down we have to have the courage and the stamina to pick ourselves up and keep going on so that we will fulfill our purpose. Sometimes our paths are very difficult but they are ours to travel!! Sometimes the solution to our troubles are hard to find, but we must seek them!! You must ride out these bad feelings and keep busy til they pass and are replaced by new feelings, new interests, and new loves!! A world of adventure and excitment and love and friendship is out there waiting for you - Go Out And Get It!!!!! If you find yourself with suidcidal thoughts again call a friend til it passes or go on the internet to sites such as this and read about other people problems!! There is always going to be someone who is worse off than you and knowing that will make you feel better about your problems and it will also make you not feel so alone!! There are many of us with worse problems that are trying to go on and live from day to day!! You can do it too!! And if you are ever really seriously thinking of taking your own life go to the nearest hospital or a doctor and get professional help at once!! There are peple there trained to help with this!! Sometimes thay can even give you medicine that will help your mood and your outlook!! Many people take such medicine every day to help them cope with life!! Remember that we all need help sometimes!! Just have to ask for it!! Good Luck!!!

what is wrong with you you weirdo get a job and next time if you cant unswear a question best not say nothing at all dam ***

It concerns me that a university will give someone a Bachelors degree who cannot write a letter with the correct spelling and grammar.
So much for better education.

so, and wat u trying t say. that no 1 suffers in life, u should b grateful 4 the blessings. most people will never go t university.

firstly yes the depression will come back its a given .you seem to have crackedthat .. the way to make sure that when it does come back that you are ready for it (preferably with a bl***y big stick to hit it with). Parents are people too and this is probably why they appear not to support you some parents think that once you become legal you are not their responsibility.
in your situation i would and did:
1 Move out. find somewhere of your own but not too far away as that way you can still maintain contact with your family on your terms.
2 get in touch with all the people that made you feel supported be it from uni or the job you had.strenghthen these bonds.
3 look for a job that you are more than capable of doing on a part time basis ask for feedback from old job as to why they let you go so you can work on this (dont make a scene when you contact them )
and finally take care of you the world needs all the good people it can .





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