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Question: And yes I know this is the wrong category but I knew I would get alot of answers here.
here is my problem..... Ok recently I joined a Jewish youth group called the BBYO. My friend got me involved and said bc Ive been having alot of issues lately that being in a group like this would help. I begged my parents to let me join bc I really thought it would be good for me. Well being a Jewish program, it cost a pretty penny to join. I went to a bunch of meetings and even got on the board. But know Im really having problems. My depression and anxiety have gotten alot worse and I have a hard enough time getting out of bed to go to school. Im not sure I should even take on the responsibility of being in the group, let alone the board. I really dont know what to do. And there is a big weekend event called Tournies coming up that Im pretty much required to go to.
Please Help!! Thank you soo much
Oh and just to clarify bc of answers I got b4
-Im 15
- Yes Im going to a doctor and am on meds
Answers: And yes I know this is the wrong category but I knew I would get alot of answers here.
here is my problem..... Ok recently I joined a Jewish youth group called the BBYO. My friend got me involved and said bc Ive been having alot of issues lately that being in a group like this would help. I begged my parents to let me join bc I really thought it would be good for me. Well being a Jewish program, it cost a pretty penny to join. I went to a bunch of meetings and even got on the board. But know Im really having problems. My depression and anxiety have gotten alot worse and I have a hard enough time getting out of bed to go to school. Im not sure I should even take on the responsibility of being in the group, let alone the board. I really dont know what to do. And there is a big weekend event called Tournies coming up that Im pretty much required to go to.
Please Help!! Thank you soo much
Oh and just to clarify bc of answers I got b4
-Im 15
- Yes Im going to a doctor and am on meds
My Dearest Hannah, I too suffered a debilitating depression, the worst of it for six years where I couldn't get out of bed for months at a time, not even to wash or bathe. I'm a little older (36) & first would like to tell you that there is hope but the most important thing is to always be true to you and your needs, no matter what the consequences are. If you feel that your anxiety & depression are becoming worse then the cost is too high for you, get out. Hannah, reach deep down side of you, the answers are there. You are only fifteen with your whole life ahead of you, happiness is a journey with many little choices along the way, but those choices are YOURS and only YOURS. But enjoy the journey and remember, with regard to this 'Tournies,' you are not REQUIRED to do anything, you are the only one that matters. And by the sounds of it, your parents seem to understand quite well, talk to them. I truly hope I've helped you sweetie! I don't want your depression to progress any further than it already has, so please listen to what's inside your heart, it will never lead you wrong. If you feel like you need some backup, show your parents this answer, maybe it will help???
Okay, my first point is -- you joined a jewish group and yet you are ''predjudiced'' against jews as evidenced by your statement ''well being a jewish program, it cost a pretty penny to join." Have you thought about joining a group that you aren't nasty about and thus feel more at home with and less competitive in? This would decrease your anxiety, AND you can be in a group and be a member without getting on the board. Sounds like you are an anxious over achiever. Find a less competitive setting and stop trying to be the boss.
the responsibility may be a push to get you out of your depression and into this positive group. it may help you deal with your anxiety and depression, being around different people and realizing your own capabilities. i say go for it.
I think you should quit this whole program since you sound confused about it. Join in on a sport like Soccer and work at that until you are first string. Between the friends you make and having a sound body will help to make a strong and healthy mind.
I think you underestimate yourself, you may have found a very good forum for addressing your question. Maybe you should rely on your own judgment more often.
I'm not sure why you feel the need to follow your social group's advice on how to live your life just because you have issues. They are not necessarily the best source of advice. Do they really know you that they should give you advice? You can always research and look into something before you get too involved. Take your time. You're primary concern should be whether this is right for you. Is it? Is your heart into this?
If you're on meds, you shouldn't be spending too much time on other people's problems. You have enough of your own,or you wouldn't be on meds. Let's just take one thing at a time. How much time is this taking out of your schedule? Do you have enough time for quiet time? For homework? You don't have to do all this at the same time. You can come back and do this a year from now if you really want to. You know that don't you? You shouldn't be putting yourself under too much pressure. This may be a very adult responsibility, not something for someone with homework and a therapist.
Why are you on meds? When will you be getting off them? Are they working? Do you feel better? Why? If you don't have time to address these concerns, maybe you are doing too much. There are always plenty of groups and clubs to join. They're a dime a dozen. And they definitely do need people.
You may have a good head on your shoulders and any group may be glad to have you, but do you have to do all this right now? What do you want to be when you grow up? Are you going to college? This is more important.
It's more important to you. And you are the biggest concern here. Let's just slow down and have more of a plan. Let's not be too impulsive to impress our friends. When you find something that's right for you, you should know it. You should be thrilled to get up in the morning and do it again. Listen to your gut. You should know just what you should do next, because you know it's right for you. If it isn't, you shouldn't be doing it.