Depression/ alcoholism?!
Question: Im 19 and had depression for what i believe 3 years without getting help ive found drinking and smoking my way of coping with it for the last 2 years, though i wouldnt drink alot id still have a drink every other day and probably 15 fags/cigs a day. I have stopped both for last 2 months and other then feeling down i cannot control my anger though i no it is no excuse, i have got such a short fuse now how can i cope with this and not shout and family and my girlfriend i dont want to lose her as shes only reason i didnt overdose talking to her is main way im coping with it but i keep losing my temper easily though of course id never lay a finger on her before you say id never hurt her. what can i do to take my mind of feeling angry or sad?
Answers: Im 19 and had depression for what i believe 3 years without getting help ive found drinking and smoking my way of coping with it for the last 2 years, though i wouldnt drink alot id still have a drink every other day and probably 15 fags/cigs a day. I have stopped both for last 2 months and other then feeling down i cannot control my anger though i no it is no excuse, i have got such a short fuse now how can i cope with this and not shout and family and my girlfriend i dont want to lose her as shes only reason i didnt overdose talking to her is main way im coping with it but i keep losing my temper easily though of course id never lay a finger on her before you say id never hurt her. what can i do to take my mind of feeling angry or sad?
It's really tough to quit two bad habits at the same time, and that's probably a big reason why you're feeling bad. For the smoking, you could try going on nicotine replacement, but if you stopped smoking two months ago, you're probably past the window for that. A big thing is that you've given up the 'crutch' that helped you cope with your psychological issues, so those problems are coming to the front. I would see a mental health clinician for help. Your drinking and smoking may have helped with your symptoms, but that's not a healthy way to live. Quitting them is a good start, the next step is coming up with a more healthy way to deal with your depression.
You need at least 6 months, before you feel better, trust me!!
Go see your doctor, you`ll get help.
Probably your depression is worse with your body coping with no alcohol and nicotine.
good luck
I am glad that you quit smoking, bravo!! And that you have given up alcohol :) Good for you!!
The next step to a healthier YOU is:
You need to learn how to keep your emotions under control.
The best, and most effective way I find, is practising Yoga and Meditation every day.
It will also help you to better cope with the withdrawal symptoms you might experience from not drinking and smoking.
You might also consider attending a Stress Management programme and/or an Anger Management programme. Those programmes will help you to identify the anger or/and stress you are having.
Wishing you peace and happiness :)
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At your age, this condition is quite common. The hormones in your body are running rampant and everyone has gone through it. Just try to practice something that will allow you to get your aggressions out in a better way than to take it out on the people who care about you. Try sports or get a punching bag. Start to do anything that will allow you to get the violent thoughts out of your head. It works and you might just come out of it with a better body!
Now that you stopped all of the behaviors that were masking your problems you will have to figure out what is the real reason you are feeling depressed. Please go and see a doctor. Even if you go on medication for a little while to stabilize your mood you will feel a lot better. Good luck.
I have been sober now for about eight months now and its my experience that it does not get any better. When I drank It made me feel good. I always drank better when I was in a good mood and accomplished something at work that day. So I always made a point to work and be as positive as I could so I could drink when I got home. Now I have no reason to even get up. My life when I drank most people would of considered a waste but I loved it. It was what I looked forward to everyday. I am saving a little money but I had plenty to start anyway other then that I see no benefits of sobriety. I was never a violent drunk or a mean drunk either. I all I was, was a drunk in His own slice of heaven.
These are some helps for permanent cure
Yoga, meditation, Pilate
Breathing exercises
Tapping technique and EFT
Affirmations and Self Hypnosis or Self Talk.
Reading good books like