Am I overreacting about this?!
Question: okay so heres the deal, I feel like I don't know who I am. My mother is Irish, My dad is german, I have never ever seen my dad is my whole entire life but people say that I'm german not irish, this really depresses me and makes me want to kill myself because i feel irish, my mom and her family raised me as a proud irish catholic but my brother, my stepdad and many other people say that i'm german, i don't feel like i am, i know nothing about german people and i don't like german people, i think theyre weird, i want to have a kid one day i want it to be just mine and because of not knowing my dad i feel like dads are nothing and you don't need one, people say that i am german or sometimes if they even say i'm half i feel depressed like i have no clue who i am and i want to just commit suicide, i look exactlyy like my mom so i have never even acnoledged the fact that my dad is german because theres no point of even caring. his irrelevant to me. is this normal or am i over reacting???? :'(
Answers: okay so heres the deal, I feel like I don't know who I am. My mother is Irish, My dad is german, I have never ever seen my dad is my whole entire life but people say that I'm german not irish, this really depresses me and makes me want to kill myself because i feel irish, my mom and her family raised me as a proud irish catholic but my brother, my stepdad and many other people say that i'm german, i don't feel like i am, i know nothing about german people and i don't like german people, i think theyre weird, i want to have a kid one day i want it to be just mine and because of not knowing my dad i feel like dads are nothing and you don't need one, people say that i am german or sometimes if they even say i'm half i feel depressed like i have no clue who i am and i want to just commit suicide, i look exactlyy like my mom so i have never even acnoledged the fact that my dad is german because theres no point of even caring. his irrelevant to me. is this normal or am i over reacting???? :'(
I do think you may be overreacting a little.
But remember, the Irish traditionally trace their lineage through the maternal line, not the paternal line.
no you are not overreacting one bit, you have every right to feel depressed about this.. you are irish, i'm irish and i think your irish.. an irish woman had you therefore you are, don't worry and be happy.. you are not german! your dad should not be blessed to have a kid for no reason, he has never been there for you so don't worry what people say, ignore them.. they are DUMB!!!
I think you're overreacting just a bit...
Kiss me...I'm Irish too.
seroiusly? you are overacting! just be irish, forget the german part. don't have a kid til you get your mental instability under control.
I think that while it's definitely important to you, you may be overreacting a bit.
If you're Irish, hey, that's cool. Be proud to be Irish. You definitely have at least a half-Irish ancestry and there's nothing wrong with embracing it. I'm guessing you have your dad's German last name. If this is truly a source of great woe, consider changing it when you become of age. Take on your mother's maiden name or something. I feel like, from what you've said, part of the reason you are so adamently against your German background is because you're angry with your father for abandoning you and your family. All you know is your Irish roots and you don't want the German ones.
Unfortunately, you will always have a German heritage. But you don't have to acknowledge it.
I think it might be beneficial for you to talk to a counselor about how angry it makes you. Things like "I want to just commit suicide" frighten me and I think you need to talk to somebody about these issues.
You have a lot of resentment toward your father, and that is checkering your feelings about your heritage. There's nothing wrong with being part German, part Irish. Both are in your blood. Noone can tell you what you "are", so stop listening to those twits. No, German people aren't weird, so stop using your anger toward your father to promote that feeling.
BTW, Dad's are something. Dad's teach you how you should be treated by a man if you have a good one. I didn't have my father growing up, it was more important for him to chase tail than to be home. I grew up fine without him, but I do acknowledge the Dutch side of my ancestory. My mother has Blackfoot Indian heritage, so I know I'm a bit of both. Where do you think I get my great baking skills, that paternal side of my bloodline!
Really, where your ancestors come from has no bearing on how you should see yourself. Judge yourself on who you are INSIDE, the way you treat others, and you'll find all the other crap means nothing. My son's father died of cancer when he was very young, so he never knew him. His "Dad" is Irish, I look nothing like either indian or Dutch, and I couldn't care less what my son looks like, as long as he's happy, healthy, and loved. His "Dad" loves him, cherishes him, and has shown him to how treat women with respect and caring. Yes, Dad's are important to a child's development, if they are good ones.
Your not over reacting if its bothering you this much - I think you have been raised in an irish catholic way so thats who you are right now - Things change when you get older - you may fall in love with someone of a different background and decide to convert to that and raise beautiful children! Just because you look German doesn't mean anything - Think about al the kids who are adopted into different colored families! They grow up just fine....Relax and Good Luck!!
It si o.k. I don't know why you hate men so much though. A boy needs a father, a girl may not, trust me on the boy.Embrace your irish side and forget about german. It's o.k. you are not a mongrel or anything your heart is irish, be proud.I know I could be a good father so i know others can too, people better than me.You are irish so be irish. You don't need to hrt yourself. Its o.k. forget about your dad , your mother raised you so tell everyone to shove off.