My mum ill HELP?!
Question: my mums ill and well sometimes i dont know what to do i dont want to get into detail over the internet with people i dont know but it all started when my auntie died depression kicked the football in our house!! if you get me. Sometimes i feel like im in a box that made of chocolate and its a hot day outside !!! its affecting my school work my mums on the way to recovery but it takes a long timee what should i do till then ( p.s im scared of thiings like conciling!!
Answers: my mums ill and well sometimes i dont know what to do i dont want to get into detail over the internet with people i dont know but it all started when my auntie died depression kicked the football in our house!! if you get me. Sometimes i feel like im in a box that made of chocolate and its a hot day outside !!! its affecting my school work my mums on the way to recovery but it takes a long timee what should i do till then ( p.s im scared of thiings like conciling!!
I have worked with depressed people a lot at my job. It is a horrible illness and I am so sorry for you and your mom. I'm glad she is on her way to recovery. Is your dad in the picture? Can you talk to him? There is no reason to be afraid counseling, you might actually like it. Have you considered talking to your school guidance counselor? You might feel more comfortable in a chat room with other people in your same situation. Check the yahoo chat rooms. There are also hotlines for depressed teens. I'm looking online for you now. As I get more resources for you I will edit my answer. Good luck. I hope every thing works out for you and your mom.
http://www.focusas.com/Depression.html
dont be scared of counseling, all information is private, confidential and can be very helpful talking to a non bias person outside of your situtation, they could help you to get your life and your mom's back on track.
good luck to you and be strong
go see the school nurse. talk to your teacher. im sure they will help. no need to be scared of counselling. they are there to help you cope. take it easy. i know its hard to have a mum whos forevr ill. you feel you dont bond anymore coz they are in their own little world. but life goes on. take her to the doctors. she may need antidepressants. tell your dad, grandad, granma, another uncle or aunt. have you big brothers and sisters? tell a friends mum.they could help get her better by taking her doctors. she is goign through bareavement. it takes time.
Dont be afraid of a counselor or a group counseling for families. I will help and it can not be worse than where you are.
Do you not have family or anyone that can help??
Really; fibd a counselor and/or support group they can help you and may even have ideas on helping your Mom.
Good Luck; you are in a tight spotm, but you will come out ok
you need to talk to your mom and tell her that your really worried for her..and she needs to be brave and and chill.
she needs to have fun...
dont let her feel alone...
try to have people over for a while....
i dont care weather or not u give me best answer but i hope your mom feels better because i know how it feels when moms are not feeling good and kids are worried.
know that with time your mum will get over the losing her sister...know that for her to love your aunt that much is a good thing...means she loves you even more .....help her, talk with her ,be there for your mom...don't let her sink into that box of chocolate! and know this has really nothing to do with you...you have a choice to support your mum now or fade away
What you need is in length conversations with people to get your feelings out and on the table, period , plain and simple. Your fear is making you draw to the inside, which serves its purposes, but it tends to smuther out feelings of wanting to reach out....once you don't reach out, then you miss out on meeting peep's who feel just like you do and need someone to confide in as well.....while fear is fine and natural, it needs to have a swift kick in its rear end cuz it gets out of line....controlling, smuthering out the good, keeping people locked up inside a sweltering house if you know what I mean? Lets look at your ? from my point of view.......Your mom has had some serious problems, I don't need details, she's in counseling and on the way to recovery (because of her counselling)....but you are afraid of counselling. Fear is controlling you. You should like counselling at least in a non-personal way, it's helping your mommy to be better even tho it does take a while. What you should do is releaze that u r afraid, and that fear is natural and okay...I know lots about the mind and counselling, and I still have fears, fear is human......but fear itself once in awhile needs a spanking and sent to bed and grounded for 2 hours every day, so it stays in check, and remains proper. Every day between say 3 and 5 pm, practice grounding fear....no worrying, stewing, replaying issues or rehashing issues or going over he said, she said, I feel sad, the world is a cruel place to live.....the more you practice spanking out of control fears, the better you will get at grounding it, and the more sucessful you will be. Sometimes the brain needs trained. Expect to only make it a few minutes the first several go arounds, and if it helps, put on some music, run the block, get online or do anyhting u can to distract yourself from thinking about all the problems at home. All problems go away, the ones that refuse to go away are the ones we hide from. I don't think u need a counsellor, I think u need stress relief...and u can pay a counsellor to tell you how to relieve stress, but they will tell you pretty much what Iam telling you. Many a good book can be found in a library or a book store about stress and what to do about it, how do you feel about a book?