Why do i still think about the perosn who molested me 10 yrs ago?!
Question: sometimes i am very angry and i want to go just kill him and then i'll see him in town and i'll just put on this fake happy face and pretend everything is fine. i don't know what else to do anymore. my fiance is getting upset with me becuz i tell him how much i hate this guy and then i act like everything is fine when i see him and act all happy. plz tell me what to do. do ia have to go to counselling? this is ruining my relationship.
Answers: sometimes i am very angry and i want to go just kill him and then i'll see him in town and i'll just put on this fake happy face and pretend everything is fine. i don't know what else to do anymore. my fiance is getting upset with me becuz i tell him how much i hate this guy and then i act like everything is fine when i see him and act all happy. plz tell me what to do. do ia have to go to counselling? this is ruining my relationship.
Whoa some of these people are really f-d up. Do not have sex with him.Don't even talk to him, why do you act like its o.k. don't even worry if he thinks your crazy if you see him ignore him completely and if he tries to touch you or talk to you scream and run.Don't let him ever talk to you.Ever.
Counseling is a good idea
one part the healthy part knows what he did was wrong, the other 1/2 the 1/2 he owns misses him.....take back the halves...he owes you nothing and you don't owe him either
Most definitely go to counseling. This kind of thing will pretty much stick in your mind and consume you, as your finding out. Esp if you still see this person. There's a reason why ppl so often are told to get counseling after something like this happens, even if it does sound a bit cliche from the tv/movies.
Do you have the urge to confront him about what he did? I'm not suggesting that since he would probably deny it anyway. I agree with Wannaplay. Don't let the monster control you anymore.
Get over it, geez. 10 years? Whinge, whinge, whinge.
I suggest to go to him, and have sex with him, but literally give yourself to him, to make your mind think that he didn't rape you.
Then it should be fine.
It just might be worth a go to try and deal with all the anger you have. I am also a survivor and counseling helped me to get it all out & work it through my head. This person is still controlling you & ruining your present life. You have to see that you have the choice to change that and not live as the victim any longer. You have a chance to get some help and get peace for yourself and have a happy, fulfilling relationship. Don't let that chance go by.
counseling is the best thing for u to do. many people dont want to go to counseling because they think they are freaks or something but i think if u do it u are brave. ur brave to go and face ur problems. i think there is alot of things not reslove by just pretending that everything is alright. i think by pretending it is alright it is making the matter worst. so go to counseling and get help. dont let that man take u life away. he toke ur childhood or ur past, dont let him take ur future!
I hate to tell you that it will hurt forever. get some professional help. No more fake happy faces.