Help My Partner Gets Drunk Every Night?!
Question: He is getting worse i am getting up in a morning, and he is still drinking. been to various agency and because he says he likes being drunk thy will not help him, he is not violent, but i am worried health wise, every day he says no more but come evening he will just go get some cans and a bottle of brandy, i know he has got to want to stop drinking, we have talked about his stopping, and he agrees with me till night time any suggestions, sensible please, no bullshit, thanks xxxx
Answers: He is getting worse i am getting up in a morning, and he is still drinking. been to various agency and because he says he likes being drunk thy will not help him, he is not violent, but i am worried health wise, every day he says no more but come evening he will just go get some cans and a bottle of brandy, i know he has got to want to stop drinking, we have talked about his stopping, and he agrees with me till night time any suggestions, sensible please, no bullshit, thanks xxxx
Dont put him on antabuse! Make a deal with him, like he can only drink between certain times ie. not before 8pm and not after 12 midnight.
Only he can seek help for his problem..he is scared and afraid. Best way to deal with it right now is to make agreement, like days, times when he can/cant drink.
He should be having at least two drink free days a week, if he cant then agree to him drinking only between a very short period of time.
End of the day babe, you have gotta stick by the rules, if he doesnt then you have to spell out..and carry out the consequences.
Alcohol abuse is very , very common. If he cant stick by certain guidelines that you have set, then you will have to leave and seek out support for yourself x
take him to a daytime AA meeting.
Let him hear the stories of people who know what its like to want to stop, and then cant do it by themselves.
Every alcoholic knows what its like to want to stop, to know that its most likely a good idea, and then give up on the idea - - sometimes they go through that idea several times a day.
Encourage him to identify, not compare
He`s got to want to do it by himself - you cant make him do it! If not, you got to leave him but if you love him you`ll just have to stand by him and try and help him... loads of luck and love x
The world has came a long way. there is now treatment for this..
A medication called Antabuse has been made; with this the doctor should consider a Benzodiazepine like Ativan and Librium to help with the "jitters"
There is also an injection called Vivitrol.
If he drinks while on them, he will likely feel sick.... they can work in as little as 2 weeks.
What is wrong with him drinking every day ? i could see your point if he was being violent but as he isn't whats the problem ?
Why the thumbs down ? get a life ya sad bastards,Alcohol the cause of and solution to all lifes problems, copyright Homer J Simpson
Ah Peggy Sue, Peggy Sue, pretty pretty pretty pretty Peggy Sue...............did Buddy Holly sing that?
I don't know love. My father was an alcoholic - the worst kind - would not accept he had a problem. Cancer got him in the end.
I think alcohol is worse than hard drugs. Drink is the cause of such misery for millions of people worldwide.
If he likes being drunk then I think you're flogging a dead horse! There is one thing you could try but it's a kill or cure. Is there a way that you get him to keep drinking until he's sick? Then get him to be sick after every drinking session? Maybe you could pretend to drink with him but water your drinks down (or substitute non-alcoholic drinks).
The aim is to get him to associate drinking with vomiting. I don't know if that puts drinkers off but it might be worth a try. Could be utter nonsense of course but there you have it.
Best of luck Peggy Sue, Love Fanshawe.
Im afraid in this case it has to be cruel to be kind .You have to leave him and let him sort himself out.
If he dosent work how can he pay for the drink???do you support him with this habit?.
An alcoholic must want to stop and until he does there is nothing you can do for him .
Kick him out and give him no comfort zones let him sleep in the gutter,let him starve,let him get to rock bottom and then and only then he might want to stop and ask for help.
There is no easy way of course in the morning he wants to stop because he no doubt feels like shite come the evening he forgotten what it was like in the morning and craves for more drink and so starts again.
This is no life for you or him and there no way should you have to put with it .
Even if he stops you will never know for sure and really do you want to be a full time baby sitter???
For your own good and his just leave him and let him sort himself out .
Get your life back and let him slip down the slippery path to being a full time drunk because you cant carry his burden this is his problem not yours because if you dont you will regret for the rest of your natural life and wont be helping him, as I said you have to cruel to be kind.
If he does stop he must never ever have money in his pocket ,you will have to watch like you do a baby ,he will lie to you ,he will relapses,and he will always be only one drink away from another drink and he will always be a two bit drunk and you will suffer.
Anyway all the best and I hope all goes will for you .
I dont mean to sound like a cruel evil basterd but im afraid I use to have a partner that was a drug addict , a gambler and a drunk and like you I was always there and looking after the needs.
In the end I stopped and got my life back on track and you must do the same
It doesn't seem as if your partner has a job, so where is he getting money for the beer and the brandy? If you are the enabler in this relationship (by giving him the money), then he is getting mixed messages about quitting. You need to take a firm stand first even if it means that you leave him. When he hits rock bottom alone, he may be more willing to get help. Also, he needs to identify what triggers his behavior in the evening hours. Best of luck.