Why is God giving me MORE than I can handle?!
Question: My life is a mess! My daughters are out of control (10 & 11) and my sister and brother-in-law (who we live with) are NEGATIVE and full of DRAMA!
I am so miserable; and do my best to stay positive and keep everyone intact. Yet, inside I feel like I am FRAZZLED and falling apart! I am so tired of crying.
Why can't people ACT RIGHT?
Answers: My life is a mess! My daughters are out of control (10 & 11) and my sister and brother-in-law (who we live with) are NEGATIVE and full of DRAMA!
I am so miserable; and do my best to stay positive and keep everyone intact. Yet, inside I feel like I am FRAZZLED and falling apart! I am so tired of crying.
Why can't people ACT RIGHT?
im very sorry for you.. it doesnt sound like things are wokring out to well for you, but god doesnt give people more than they can handle, trust me..
things will start to look up.. it may take awhile, but praying works, so u should really try doing that
You live with two people who are negative and full of drama and you wonder why your daughters are out of control?
Tweens and teens are learning their independence. They can be difficult at this time.
You have the option of living with only your children. You may have less to spend when you move out, but you have the choice.
You are going to have to create a discipline plan with your daughters and YOU have to stick to it.
Good luck.
You need to seek counseling - Mon a.m. call a clinic, or a doctor, or a hospital to get a referral to someone that can give you counseling. There should be a mental health counseling center somewhere in your area. You don't deserve to feel this way - good luck.
I don't think you stay positive, I think you need to break it off in someones behind. You need to some how get out of the living situation with the negative people. Also, I don't know the full situation with your girls, however, they are 10 & 11 it will only get worse if you don't get a handle on it now. This is not meant as a dig towards you, having been there personally, but have you considered a parenting class. My husband is in the military and is gone all of the time and my girls were putting me through hell. I took a parenting class and it really helped. They still try to give me problems, however I am in control now and they are very aware of this. I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out for you.
You need to work on problems when they FIRST pop up. In other words, if you don't take care of little problems they tend to become BIG problems. If your girls are only 10 and 11 if you don't take control NOW, that is a problem than can only get worse. Stop everything and have a family meeting. Tell them what you have been doing is not working and that things have to change. Tell them what you expect of them and what the rules are going to be and what the consequences will be if the rules are broken. Don't do this when you are angry. Say "at 6pm we are going to have a family meeting. Everyone has to be there."
BE THE PARENT. TAKE CHARGE. Your job is not to be their best friend but to parent. You are to raise them to be responsible adults. If they are responsible, the odds are that they will be happy too. Have you noticed that people who's life if full of drama are rarely happy people? They may thrive on melodrama but isn't that tiring?
If you don't have a job, get one and work when the kids are at school. Living on your own is easier than depending on relatives and you will feel better about yourself too. If you are going to teach your kids to be responsible, they are going to be looking for your example. Parenting is more than just disciplining children.
you dont need counselling. it's the situation thats the problem, not your reaction to it. most people would feel the same as you do right now if they were in your situation. can you get your own place, your own space? leave your sister and her man to it, they can take care of themselves. sometimes you gotta be selfish.
B/C GODS A LIE, THERE IS NO GOD
the only people who say God doesnt screw with us, or isnt even real for that matter, are people who havent had the pleasure of his...ahh...blessings