Im not sure of what to do!!please help me?!
Question: ok, well im not really sure were to start!! i really need help in weather or not to tell my mom to get some help for my brother.my brother is REALLY depressed.im the only one that he talk to about his problems,and maybe a couple of friends that are just like him which doesn't help! he hate absolutely everything about himself!! and i mean everything! he hates life,people,animals,plants, i can go on. ill just put it short, HE HATES EVERYTHING!!! he has cut himself a couple times. hes always telling me to get depression medicine but i cant because you need a doctors prescription and he doesn't like to talk to anyone about his feeling.im afraid that he is going to kill himself any day now.hes always telling me how he will kill himself. and im afraid that if i tell my mom that he will never love and forgive me again. plus if i tell them i know he will do something stupid. somebody please help me in making my decison!!! im so scared and sad!! :(
Answers: ok, well im not really sure were to start!! i really need help in weather or not to tell my mom to get some help for my brother.my brother is REALLY depressed.im the only one that he talk to about his problems,and maybe a couple of friends that are just like him which doesn't help! he hate absolutely everything about himself!! and i mean everything! he hates life,people,animals,plants, i can go on. ill just put it short, HE HATES EVERYTHING!!! he has cut himself a couple times. hes always telling me to get depression medicine but i cant because you need a doctors prescription and he doesn't like to talk to anyone about his feeling.im afraid that he is going to kill himself any day now.hes always telling me how he will kill himself. and im afraid that if i tell my mom that he will never love and forgive me again. plus if i tell them i know he will do something stupid. somebody please help me in making my decison!!! im so scared and sad!! :(
you really do need to tell someone. yes, there is a chance that he may do something drastic in response, but there is just as much chance of him doing it if you don't tell anyone. surely it would be better knowing that you have tried helping him. you never know, he may give the help a try. i didn't want to get help, i was terrified, but i just got worse, so bad that my parents eventually found out and got me help anyway. and i feel much better for it. it IS helping me. being able to talk to someone that is not connected is much easier. and when (and i say 'when' rather than 'if' in the real hope that you will help him) you tell your parents, you can keep on supporting him and reassuring him that it is for the best, and that you told your parents out of your love for him, not to get him into trouble.
his depression won't get any better if you leave it. please don't keep him suffering, get him some help.
you say he has cut himself. please try to get him to use alternatives, so that at least he doesn't end up with scars to cope with in the future. for example, snapping an elastic band against his wrist, drawing on himself with red pen, squeezing ice cubes in his hands. if you want more alternatives for him, email me.
Tell your mom.
hes an emo!!
i'd tell someone.
Do you love your brother? If you do, you will tell your mother to get him some help. Nothing good comes out of depression. Your brother will thank you in the long run. I am sure that he will be mad at you at first, but you need to do this. If he hurt himself, you would never be able to forgive yourself. Don't you think that your parents would like to know what is going on. Start off by asking your mom if she has noticed any changes in your brother and then tell her that you have and you think that they should be addressed by someone. He needs help and you need to see that he gets it.
Call here ASAP!
http://www.boystown.org/hotline/index.as...
Free depression hot line. Open 24 hours a day.
1-800-448-3000
Don't be scared to tell your parents. You are morally obligated to tell them. They can help and your brother he will thank you later.
You're in a very difficult position as your brother's confidante. Although he probably won't thank you for it, I honestly believe the best thing you can do for EVERYONE is to talk to your mother. You shouldn't have to carry the responsibility yourself and your brother sounds as if he is seriously at risk. Something needs to happen and it needs an adult to do something, quickly.
Be prepared for your brother being angry with you when it all comes out, but remember that you might be saving his life. Talk to your mother, emphasise to her just how near the edge you think he is, and ask her to act without actually saying that you have told her. He WILL guess, and he'll be angry now, but in the long run he will almost certainly be very grateful that you made sure he got the help he needed.
The scared sadness won't go immediately - you have had quite a tough time and if there is a counsellor at your school that you could see, then do so. You need to look after yourself, and ensure that your mother gets help for your brother.
You really need to get your mom to walk around the block with you while you quietly unload this information on her... this takes you out of "tattletail mode" and into intervention mode.
Young people do get into drugs, do commit suicide, do get depressed and do need help. Your brother needs this help now.
Mention to your mom that she may decide to take advantage of the school counselors and their access to the system to help your brother quickly.
u need to tell her what is going on he may hate u now but in the long run he needs u to do this b/c u can't do this on ur own. and he need some help now b/c he will go over his limit. get him some help now
Your brother is in so deep, he needs for someone to step-in.
You say quote:[ " im afraid that he is going to kill himself any day now.hes always telling me how he will kill himself. " ]
1st you must know that what your brother does or does not do, is NOT BECAUSE OF YOU. He makes his own choices.
2nd Listen to your own words. He needs help and he needs it now. You are old enough, you can make calls yourself. Call the national suicide / crisis hotline. Get the facts for yourself.
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If you are in crisis, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a 24-hour, toll-free suicide prevention service available to anyone in suicidal crisis. If you need help, please dial 1-800-273-TALK (8255). You will be routed to the closest possible crisis center in your area. With over 120 crisis centers across the country, our mission is to provide immediate assistance to anyone seeking mental health services. Call for yourself, or someone you care about. Your call is free and confidential.
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Why should I call the Lifeline?
From immediate suicidal crisis to information about mental health, crisis centers in our network are equiped to take a wide range of calls. Some of the reasons to call 1-800-273-TALK are listed below.
* Call to speak with someone who cares
* Call if you feel you might be in danger of hurting yourself
* Call to find referrals to mental health services in your area
* Call to speak to a crisis worker about someone you're concerned about
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And your question continues with quote [ "and im afraid that if i tell my mom that he will never love and forgive me again."]
Love does the hard things
when a person is not able to do it for himself.
Do what you have to do to protect is life.
Better that he is alive, and has the chance to get well in his thinking and feelings.
I pray you have the strength to follow through.