How Important is 90 meetings in do day when doing the 12 step program!!?!
Question: 90 in 90 is a good ideal, not always possible for any number of reasons. Medically speaking, the 90 day period is important as a "brain recovery" period. Emotionally, sociologically, and educationally, it is about the right amount of time for a person to become integrated into a group and to hear how others are working the program. I suggest that you try Al-Anon for family members. This will provide your wife with additional support from you, and will also do a great for you in working through your own anxiety about her disease. Good luck!
Answers: 90 in 90 is a good ideal, not always possible for any number of reasons. Medically speaking, the 90 day period is important as a "brain recovery" period. Emotionally, sociologically, and educationally, it is about the right amount of time for a person to become integrated into a group and to hear how others are working the program. I suggest that you try Al-Anon for family members. This will provide your wife with additional support from you, and will also do a great for you in working through your own anxiety about her disease. Good luck!
That's a personal issue that SHE has to deal with. Newcomers are recommended to do 90 meetings in 90 days, but with work, kids, etc. that's not always possible.
What IS key is that she has a sponsor and is talking with her sponser every day.
As for you.....let her alone and let her do her program. Focus on Al-Anon and your recovery, because those around alkies tend to get as mentally sick, or even sicker, than the alcohol/drug user.
You, and your wife, will be in my prayers.