My wife has a severe anxiety disorder, but....?!
Question: But she doesn't want to take medicene and is not willing to talk with a counselor about. She has panic attacks, is anxious all the time, constantly uptight, raises her voice, is visually tense-- she stresses me and the kids out but she believes she can "control" her anxieties. Why would she not want to get help for this?
Answers: But she doesn't want to take medicene and is not willing to talk with a counselor about. She has panic attacks, is anxious all the time, constantly uptight, raises her voice, is visually tense-- she stresses me and the kids out but she believes she can "control" her anxieties. Why would she not want to get help for this?
It might help pointing out to her that..
1) She doesn't need to suffer so much in "handling" it her self.
There are so many other ways available, and not only medications that are used depending on the acute state of depression/anxiety disorders. That way should be considered as a TEMPORARILY relief of the anxiety symptoms.
2) Cognitive-behavioural therapy has proven excellent on disorders such as anxiety and no medication involved. By finding a psychologist that is specialized in this form of therapy, you can alter the anxiety in few weeks up to 2-3 months.
3) Parental issues and disorders such as anxiety affect the whole family, and children pick up on this so easily. By seeking out help and learn to live with the disorder, she can be a better mother and a wife to you.
4) She is not "crazy". Common issues in people of avoiding seeking out help for their issues is the fear of being labeled "crazy". Anxiety is on the other hand very common disorder.
I think most of all she needs to know that she is not alone in this, and shouldn't have to suffer so much in trying to fix something on her own. The heroin act is to step up and admit that she needs help. We all need help from time to time in our lives. Just takes guts to admit it - and accept it!
Because she wants to avoid the fact that something is wrong. You need to stress to her that her problems are causing you and your children great distress and is tearing you apart. You need to stress the urgency of it. I suffer from OCD and a moderate anxiety disorder. I was a mess before i saw a doctor, and the medication i am on has helped me alot. Evenutally i will go off it and control my anxiety, or i might not have it at all. Its sad this is effecting her. But reassure her, that whats shes got is an illness, and there is nothing wrong with being sick. Some people just need alot of support, especially with someone with an anxiety disorder. Everything things ten times worse......
to do that means she has no control of her self and enviroment around her. she needs to seek help before she gets too out of hand and harms someone and not know it or even mean to. for the sake of the kids please do whatever possible to get her help. in the long run she will thank you and she will know that you are doing it because you love her.
Because she feels anxiety about it? SOunds stupid but is probably true!
For some there is still a stigma associated with mental health issues. There are also a tendency to be in denial when dealing with mental health issues.
You can talk to a counselor yourself to develop a strategy for convincing your wife to seek help. It is in her best interest and the interest of your children for her to seek treatment so don't give up.
Because admitting you have a problem would be like admitting you are handicap. I am in the same boat, different reasons.... Not anxiety... But other health issues.
She should get meds... But only she can make that decision..... I feel for her and you... Maybe she can get meds and leave the counselor alone for now if the meds dont help.