Help? Im 14 and suicidal. Dont know how to cope anymore.?!


Question: Im just going to skip to the point. Im 14 year old girl, i live in Liverpool England. Ive been drinking (i mean every weekend, heavily) for about 2 years. I drink to get away from everything whats going on in my life, ive also taken beak an i smoke weed most days. I feel like i dont get enough love from my family, my mum and dad argue non-stop and i HATE my dad. I have dreams of killing him. I feel worthless, i disgust myself. Ive had sex with 12-14 people, everywhere i go somebody recognizes my face and shouts slag at me. I know its my own fault for getting in such a state im unconscious and boys can take advantage.But anyway, one day i couldnt deal with it any longer and i overodosed on paracetomol and ibuprofen. That was about 4 months ago. Since then my lifes went 10 times worse, my Dads over-protective and i just feel worthless, like i wont go anywhere in life. The day will be fine n ill still go home and cry in bed.Sumfins missin i dunno wat n i want 2 go 2 heaven 2 find it. HELP


Answers: Im just going to skip to the point. Im 14 year old girl, i live in Liverpool England. Ive been drinking (i mean every weekend, heavily) for about 2 years. I drink to get away from everything whats going on in my life, ive also taken beak an i smoke weed most days. I feel like i dont get enough love from my family, my mum and dad argue non-stop and i HATE my dad. I have dreams of killing him. I feel worthless, i disgust myself. Ive had sex with 12-14 people, everywhere i go somebody recognizes my face and shouts slag at me. I know its my own fault for getting in such a state im unconscious and boys can take advantage.But anyway, one day i couldnt deal with it any longer and i overodosed on paracetomol and ibuprofen. That was about 4 months ago. Since then my lifes went 10 times worse, my Dads over-protective and i just feel worthless, like i wont go anywhere in life. The day will be fine n ill still go home and cry in bed.Sumfins missin i dunno wat n i want 2 go 2 heaven 2 find it. HELP

I used to hate my father when iwas young he used to beat me and I took drink and drugs as well.
I am 48 now and see things differently.
You are not worthless, you are looking for love and someone to tell you, you are specail and make you feel good about yourself but all that by happens by sleeping around is you feel used. You wont get love this way.
I have strong faith and know God loves me, and he loves you. When you know gods love it changes a person.
you are special make a list of your good qualities and read it often cos that will make you feel better about yourself.
Be postive about yourself say positve things about yourself don,t listen to people who say negative things, including your father he should give you attention and say good things about you. sounds to me he needs to go on a parenting course. People who are negative about others dont, usually love themself cos if that did they would be nicer.
Now learn to love yourself be a good freind to yourself dont,put yourself down. you are special and you don,t need another person to tell you how important you are God choose you to be born, he delights in you. you were put on this earth for a purpose. learn to love yourself look on the web on self esteem, theirs plenty of good ideas for building up self esteem. You are looking for love in the wrong places and will end up getting rejection and feeling bad about yourself.
Look after your body, love yourself cos you matter, dont let anyone treat you like you dont,matter.
maybe try to move out if you can find somewhere work at studies. i left school with no qualitfaction even lived on the street and later went to university. things can get better but you have to try. I have prayed for you and God is watching over you and loves you cos you are worth loving. Bless you one day you will help others through their suffering. because of your experiences.

get proffesional help

Stop drinking and weed and talk with someone who can help you.

I went through much of the same things. See a doctor, possibly a therapist. You may need to be medicated but you definately need to see a professional. And call a local suicide hotline. They can be some of the most helpful people in the world. If all else fails go see your local clergymen.

Relax... Read...Go to a village and work in a farm. Try it...

Dedicate your life to the warrior's code. Excel. Then, someday, you will die in battle, and we will meet in Valhalla.
There will be no sadness then.

join the army..it will change your life.

call: 08457 90 90 90 its the desperate samartitans number

You can find HIM at the, the one and only God! He's the one that can help. put your trust in him he';; show you the way. and about your dad being over protective, believe me a lot of ppl go thru that, thats just parents and they are doing it for your own good you just have to know how to have fun in a safe way without drinking and having sex. Find something that takes you time like doing crafts and go to church it will help!!!!! pray everynight. I'll pray for you!!!!!!!!

I'm not sure what resources are avaiable in the UK. Is there a school counselor you can ask for help? Ask if there's a therapist you can meet with to talk about how you are feeling. Look online to see if there are any hotlines in your area for teenagers or people who feel suicidal. Either of these might have connections to people who can really help you. Good luck.

What you're looking for isn't in heaven, I'm sure of that. Get some help, talk to somebody. Any family members besides your parents who will listen? Go to a doctor if you have to. Hang in there, life sucks when you're a teenager sometimes. It gets much better though.

I am so sorry to hear this. Its all not your fault, I hope you know this. You shoul find someone to talk to, someone you can trust and someone that will listen to everything you ve got to say. School psychologist? your GP? close friend? or call help line and stay annonymous. Good luck honey x

pray. you are 14 and have such a long life ahead of you. it sounds like your dad has a right to be overprotective now. Don't be upset with him for trying to look out for you. QUIT DRINKING --- it will only make depression worse. ANd by all means, quit having sex. That will do nothing but make you feel more alone. just find peace in God (you said you were going to heaven... so, i figured you could pray to God and ask for some help through this.) I'd also talk to your family openly about how they are reacting towards each other is affecting you.

I hope everything works out okay.

plz dont do that =O..all it will do is give ur family problems..you wont even go to heaven that way..the best thing to do is talk to someone..theres teen hotlines that really help...call 18004483000...they really helped me out..along with my psycholgist...talk to ur dad...he wont be overprotective when u seem to be better!! im here if u need someone to talk to

Please call one of these numbers. 1-800-784-2433 or 1-800-273-8255

I would, first, quit drinking and smoking weed to get your head clear to proceed onto step 2...

Secondly, you need to talk to someone who can help you, someone you can trust, whether it be a professional or maybe even a close relative.

Lastly, please please change your attitude. I am not trying to sound rude or anything...but I once learned that attitude is 80% of everything you do....so I'm thinking if you change your attitude, you will start your life's journey to a much better direction! Take it one step at a time and you will get there!

I think you already know the answer - you need professional help for your depression, low self-esteem, substance abuse and possibly other problems. This all seems to go deeper than teenage hormones. What happened after your OD, were you not offered any treatment? Also you imply that you may have been sexually abused while drunk, if you have good reason to suspect this then you also need to address that and also find out if could have been infected with an STD. I would advise talking to your parents but if you cannot then make an appointment with your GP and tell him/her EVERYTHING. That is the only way you will get the help you need. Good luck.

If you kill yourself you will not go to heaven. You are breaking your contract with God and he will not forgive you. Sounds like things are pretty ruff, but then again it sounds like most of your problems are brought on by you!!! Only you have the ability to change your life. Stop the drinking, have a little more respect for yourself. Find a counseler and begin dealing with your depression. Think of it this way. IF you were to kill yourself then you wont be around to see all the wonderful things that will happen later in life. You may become a billionaire. Please seek help, you DO deserve to be happy. No one is born happy. We all have to find it. Some have an easier time then others. Another good thing to remember is God will only give you what you can handle. And whatever does not kill you WILL make you stronger.

This is a hard one to answer. You have to find that answer, sweetie. everyone is going to say "find someone to talk to", sometimes it helps, and sometimes it doesn't. You can try to find something to take your mind off it? Don't forget, life has just started for you. You have atleast 75 years left in you. Don't you want to know who your grandchildren are going to be?

I think you need to talk to someone about this. My friend was sucididal and took a drug overdose. He had so many problems he kept inside and it got to him in the end. I know it can be hard to see any way out of situations like this but you just have to try and think that not long in the future you'll be old enough to get away form everyting and no one will know you. You can make a knew life for yourself and it can be where ever and whatever you want it to be. But to do that you just have to stick it out where yo are for a little longer. Please don't think your worthless. No one is. If your dad is being over protective that just means he loves you (as much as you might hate him) You can look back at this one day and say it made you a stronger person. Try and throw yourself into a hobby, I use painting to escape any **** that happens to me but writing is really popular. Try talking it out to someone on the net or something. You jjust have to have some faith in yourself, your probably stronger than you think. : )

have you ever thought of moving? if everyone recognizes you, and you dont like what comes to mind, why not just get a clean start?
i dont recommend running away, just talk with your mom about it if thats who you feel more comfortable with
your in a new place, you could make any impression you want.

everythings not lost, you still have sooo many years to make things the way you want them
dont give up now

i think you should tell your mom everything and get professional help

OK - you are 14. think about how much better your life can be once you are able to take control of it. your parents are overprotective for a reason. don't kys...its so not worth it. think about how much fun your 20's can be if you take the right path. you already recognize the wrong so that's the first step. knock off the drinking and the drugs and go see a doctor that can put you on prescription meds. then maybe see if you can go to a boarding school or something just to get away and then when you are old enough get out of that town if your reputation is tarnished. students find comfort in boarding school especially when they "hate" their family because they become like family and support eachother. that or stay with family that don't live near you. a fresh start in a new area with a new prospective on yourself and life is way more exciting than laying lifeless in a coffin...don't you think? don't quit life - your problems are small considering how bad it really can be...

First you need to find something to live for and once you find it you'll know. make it a goal to locate this. It could be anything. I can relate to you problem a little bit so hang in there. I recently stopped drinking and have not for three months. Also go to church and find some one to talk to. .................If you need any more help message me at my e-mail

I have an idea...If you're within walking distance of a doctor's office/clinic, go. They won't turn you away if you tell them what's bothering you. If you're not within walking distance, see if there is someone who can take you. You need to talk to someone about all of this. I know you probably don't have any money for a doctor since you are only 14, but trust me. If you go somewhere and tell them that you are suicidal, and they can't help you, they'll get you someone who will help you. Or call or go to the police department. I'm sure they'll be glad to help you, too. Sounds like your parents won't listen if you tried to talk to them. It also seems like you need to get out of that house. Maybe their problems are making you this way. Get some help, sweetie. It's out there. Maybe you can talk to your counselor or principal at school. There are plenty places you can go. Think positive and only positive things will happen. Good luck.

first things first stop and take a deep breath
no sit down and think why your feeling this way and try to see if thers a way you can change it
the last thing you should do id feel so desprite i advise you go and see a dotor who can refer you to get help
please stop on all the drugs iv lost ppl i love to drugs and thats not a path you want to go thru
please talk this thru wiv sum1
good luck x

Get a reality check and clean your self up a bit.

Go talk to someone, England has a national health system last time I checked, so it shouldn't be that hard to see someone. When you overdosed, the hospital should have set you up with some metal health services, which will give you a better quality of life.

Don't overdose on Ibuprofen, it'll destory your liver.

Please look at this website: http://www.metanoia.org/suicide

If you're still suicidal, call a hotline - you can find one at http://www.befrienders.org - or email the Samaritans at jo@samaritans.org

If you're still suicidal, go to your nearest hospital.

im the same age as u and i think u just need to let urself be a kid try to give up drinkin n smokin and maybe the sex wait till ur older to grow up. u shud get away from home maybe if u have a older sibling u can go away for a few weeks dont try and kill urself wot if ur wrong wot if there is no heaven u wud die for nothin life is the most important thing to anyone. the missin thing is probaly love if u dont feel loved go to parents and ask them if they love u and if they say yes ask them to stop fighting. and if u are in love with someone tell them because u never no if u dont try. also u shud take advantage of guys not the other way round, as they are the stupid gender. hope i help

if you r even thinking ur crazy then tell a support group or sumthing b4 it to late! get help fast!

Umnn Yu sound like you just want attention.. n if yu commit suicide you wont go to heaven..clearly said in the bible.. dude get a life





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