Depression: i wanna be...THIN!?!
Question: Ok so I'm 14 about 5'4 140-150lbs the last time I checked. The problem is that I look in the mirror and I'm horrified by my own body. Now recently my mind has been playing tricks on me too making me look like an elephant in the morning sometimes.
I am morbidly depressed all the time especially in P.E. seeing the wafer thin girls prance around topless, and it doesn't help that my mom buys me oversized clothing (like XL-XXL) when I where a size L or M w/o any muffin top.
She says its my breasts (36DD) which I understand it can be uncomfortable and all. But she makes it seem like I weigh 200lbs!!! It's like oh, "Well lets get these pants in a size 13", I wear a 7, 9, or 11 depending on the type of pants/jean style.
The point is how can I feel better about myself my self image and esteem is abnormally low. people sometimes joke about my weight and my mom doesn't help...I don't eat alot so don't think I'm some piggy. I am anti-social and overly-sheltered so I can't leave my home
Answers: Ok so I'm 14 about 5'4 140-150lbs the last time I checked. The problem is that I look in the mirror and I'm horrified by my own body. Now recently my mind has been playing tricks on me too making me look like an elephant in the morning sometimes.
I am morbidly depressed all the time especially in P.E. seeing the wafer thin girls prance around topless, and it doesn't help that my mom buys me oversized clothing (like XL-XXL) when I where a size L or M w/o any muffin top.
She says its my breasts (36DD) which I understand it can be uncomfortable and all. But she makes it seem like I weigh 200lbs!!! It's like oh, "Well lets get these pants in a size 13", I wear a 7, 9, or 11 depending on the type of pants/jean style.
The point is how can I feel better about myself my self image and esteem is abnormally low. people sometimes joke about my weight and my mom doesn't help...I don't eat alot so don't think I'm some piggy. I am anti-social and overly-sheltered so I can't leave my home
you know what I know the felling
you are not Fat by any standards you could afford to lose a pound are two but you are at the moment a healthy weight
and if you are wearing a size 7- 11 pant you sound skinny to me.
I had the same problem growing up , I too am a little top heavy
and my family loved to point it out .
but you need to learn to love yourself you have to live with you for the rest of your life, you cant change that .
and in all honestly if you were to ask some of those girls if the could change
some thing about there body's they would want to make that area bigger.
it is not healthy to constantly compare yourself to others, because you can never be them you can only be you , so be the best you. (cheer UP)
I think if you were to get into some sports or preforming arts it might help.
and just let your mom know that you are a sensitive about your body image and would like her not to talk about your weight ,your bra size and prefer not wearing over sized clothes because they don't flatter your body
well hun I hoped this helped
if you NEED someone to talk too e mail me ,I am always willing to help if I can =)
aww, dont worry about what you look like.
im guessing you are just bigger boned,
a lot of my friends are like that,
they arent fat, but they are just built stronger.
tell your mom that you dont want oversized clothing.
its ALL your breasts.
150 pounds for your height is not fat. Please put this silly idea away and start valuing yourself. If you start accepting yourself then others will accept you. Stick thin is NOT attractive. The jokes are probably rooted in jealousy. I hate to hear about girls with lovely personalities who are hiding away from people and life because of societies and their own obsession with weight.
Cut the junk food out,chocolates, dessert and only eat fruit in between meals. Cut your food intake by half ( main meals), No sauces/gravy.Skim milk, drink plenty of water.Cut down cheese and yogurts and bread.
Okay here is the deal. You have a bangin body and I'll bet the wafer thins are DYING to have boobs like yours. They probably haven't developed as early as you and in the next year or two you will get come more people catching up with you. It sounds like your mom wants to hide your figure with bigger clothes but you need to stand firm and tell her that you want to wear clothes that FIT. There is no shame in wearing clothes that fit you and you might have to remind your mom that next time you go to the store. I am 31 and had a figure like yours (and still do). I promise that it gets easier and you will learn how to wear clothes that accentuate your figure without looking too trampy or too 'old lady' looking. I would stick to fitted style knit shirts (not like a big straight cut tee shirt) with a deep Vee and a cami underneath with a shelf bra for extra support. The shelf bra also helps your boobs to look nice and round. Also, Old Navy tees are really good for now while you are younger.
Best of luck to you!! I know it is really hard for you right now, but pretty soon, you will be loving life!!