Really bad anxiety and stressed!!?!
Question: I get so stressed and anxious over things I shouldn't! It is affecting my sleep, It is causing me to feel nauseas and get diarrhea. Lately I have even felt suicidal like I CAN NOT handle my life and it isn't fair and I would just rather be dead than live it. I will wake my husband up so he is also losing sleep. I'm not trying to be selfish it just scares me when I feel like hurting myself. I have a doctors appointment today and I have been thinking about maybe some sleep medication, and anxiety medications because I just cannot handle this anymore- Does anybody have any suggestions for good medications that aren't too habit forming? Or any that I should avoid.
Also are there any websites I can go to for support? I don't want to call a suicide help line because I feel stupid!
I don't want to hurt anyone I love- But I just want to stop hurting!
Answers: I get so stressed and anxious over things I shouldn't! It is affecting my sleep, It is causing me to feel nauseas and get diarrhea. Lately I have even felt suicidal like I CAN NOT handle my life and it isn't fair and I would just rather be dead than live it. I will wake my husband up so he is also losing sleep. I'm not trying to be selfish it just scares me when I feel like hurting myself. I have a doctors appointment today and I have been thinking about maybe some sleep medication, and anxiety medications because I just cannot handle this anymore- Does anybody have any suggestions for good medications that aren't too habit forming? Or any that I should avoid.
Also are there any websites I can go to for support? I don't want to call a suicide help line because I feel stupid!
I don't want to hurt anyone I love- But I just want to stop hurting!
I went through similar things when my anxiety flared up at first. I am on Avanza ((mirtazapine). It is one of the 40 or so anti depressants, but it used for anxiety a lot. I found it really good. I was on Zoloft and Effexor at first but they elevated my anxiety. I also take Xanax (kalam) 1/4 tab. when anxiety is really bad.
In Australia there is a sight called "beyond blue" that offers help, but don't feel stupid about phoning suicide help lines, They are there to help when you are like this, you need the support around you now. ( I have phoned and it does help. )
All the best and remember you are not your own, there are many of us in the same boat, I took comfort in knowing that and there really is alot of support for you, eg Yahoo, there is always someone to talk to you in a similiar position.
Ativan is a good anti-anxiety medication that lasts for about 6-8 hours and doesn't drop you, but gradually wears you off. Xanax lasts for a less amount of time and take you up, but then drops you making you feel bad again, so you take another...then it drops you...take another....kinda like cocaine.
You should get some meds to make you feel better now. An anti depressant takes about a month to get in your system and start to take effect.
Maybe you should go talk to someone too. Combination drugs and therapy is a great, great thing.
I get like that too if you want me to be honest...I don't go to the point where I wanna kill myself, but the anxiety and nausea definately happen...there comes times where i end up watching TV to get my mind of things till almost 4 in the morning....
Definately sit down and talk with somebody...even write down how you feel when you get that way and maybe something triggered the anxiety (i.e. a bad dream)
See how that works...good luck with things..
I take Cymbalta for my anxiety now and from my post partum depression.. I love it.. I have noticed myself be happier and a little more carefree.. I have also tried lexapro and it made me feel very blah so i stopped taking it. Cymbalta of course takes a while to get into your system before you start feeling anything and the first few days you feel a little sick to your stomach and might have a little of the shakes but it goes away. it is also helping me sleep and helps curbs the appetite. I did go off of it for a couple of years because i felt like i was able to deal on my own and i was. But now things are stressful again so im back on it.. all pills are going to be different for different people so this is ofcourse only my story.. but yes what you are feeling is normal for some people and it can be helped but you have to be willing to get the help. look into your options and get lots of different opinions. my favorite websirte is www.wedmd.com i get a lot of answers from that website.. good luck..
You can just google for anxiety support websites but you can also email me if you need some support. I was in your shoes. Now I just get minor anxiety here and there but nothing major, no attacks or anything like that.
You can take drugs if you have to as a last alternative but I do not recommend it unless you are sure you have tried every other alternative there is out there. Taking drugs only made my anxiety worse because I don't know what the hell I'm taking and after what happen to Heathe Ledger, you're better off staying away from that stuff. Besides, even if you take the drugs, anti-depressants takes about a month or two to feel the effect and you can't wait that long. and drugs like Xanax will work for attacks but it only works for that one attack. what happens when you get another one? More drugs? Do you wanna become a drug addict? and depend on these things?
It's a vicious cycle. You don't need it.
You just need to learn to calm down and know that you can NOT die from having an attack. when it comes, tell yourself, this will pass and 'float' with it. The reason why it's so bad is you are trying to fight what's going on. Your body can not function correctly when your brain is going hay wire on you.
You have to remember that you yourself is doing this to your body. And you are now letting your body take control of your emotions and its never ending. Are you able to get to a bookstore at all? I forced myself to drive to the bookstore but if you really can't, ask a friend or relative to take you there. Read all you can about anxiety, grab all the books you can and read read read. There is no miracle pill out there and you can't expect the anxiety to disappear today or tomorrow. However, if you're strong enough and you believe in yourself, I can guarantee you will get better sooner than you know it.
After reading books about it, I got a good night's sleep and my anxiety is gone. It comes back once in a while but it's just minor. I know how to prevent it and control it now. You just need to learn to breathe properly, that's all. Breathing improperly can cause your anxiety to get worse, because you arent breathing enough oxygen in to your tummy. Once you master your breathing, your anxiety will be gone before you know it. I enjoy reading so I felt a lot better while I was reading all those books because I could understand what anxiety is and that it's nothing serious, I'm the one whos causing it, and if that's the case, I also have the power to make it go away, and then control it if it comes back.
Two books: "Calming Your Anxious Mind" and also, The anxiety and phobia workbook. You definitely want the first one. After reading that book and doing the meditation exercieses all day and night, I finally got a good nights sleep for 12 hours!! OMG what a relief!! More effective than drugs! Once you master the breathing exercises, if you ever get an attack, just do the breathing and the attack will go away before you know it. Works faster then xanax! and no side effects!!
Buy the two books, cheaper then medications and safer. Then come home, and make sure you are not bothered, find a safe comfortable spot preferably on the floor so you can sit and practice the meditation and breathing exercises. Just remember the secret is breathing past your lungs in to the tummy. Breathing only to the lungs is the cause of panic attacks, people panic and breathe to quickly and don't know that they are breathing improperly. Master this, breathing slowly of course, counting to 1,1000 all the way to four inhaling then the same exhaling breathing to the tummy sitting down while meditating. Master this and you will be better before you know it! Hope this helps! I'm here if you need me!!
Good Luck!!
P.S. Calling the suicide line is NOT stupidity, its bravery and i feel if it makes you feel better calling it, you should, all it is is people on the other side answering calls and just talking to you, people who cares, wants to listen, and talk about anything that bothers you. That's all, no big deal. And its anonymous so you have nothing to worry about. :)