Im really depressed and feel suicidal?!
Question: hi
iv come here coz i need some advice. About 18 months ago my life couldn't have been any better i was living with my girlfriend who i loved i had an ok job and everything was great. Until november things went sour, we broke up, i moved back to my dads house, where i have to sleep on the sofa, i got sacked from my job, i got assaulted by a guy and im getting charged for it. Then in december i got a new job, i had an ok christmas and things weren't going great but i was getting by. Then yesterday out of nowhere my boss sacked me, i came home and my dad tells me he dont want me staying here anymore. (long story, I know)
I feel like getting anti depressants but dont want to go doctors coz im too embarassed and i feel like i will overdose if i get them.
Answers: hi
iv come here coz i need some advice. About 18 months ago my life couldn't have been any better i was living with my girlfriend who i loved i had an ok job and everything was great. Until november things went sour, we broke up, i moved back to my dads house, where i have to sleep on the sofa, i got sacked from my job, i got assaulted by a guy and im getting charged for it. Then in december i got a new job, i had an ok christmas and things weren't going great but i was getting by. Then yesterday out of nowhere my boss sacked me, i came home and my dad tells me he dont want me staying here anymore. (long story, I know)
I feel like getting anti depressants but dont want to go doctors coz im too embarassed and i feel like i will overdose if i get them.
Do not be embarrassed to go to the doctor for help.. It takes a very strong person to say "Please Help" Anti Depressants are the only reason I am still not laying on my kitchen floor crying over my divorce. I too thought I had the perfect life. Husabdn - Kids, Dogs , cat, and a gold fish.. Till my husband started drinking heavy - being a womanizer and a complete loser.
Go get the help you need. SUICIDE IS A PERMANENT SOLUTION TO A TEMPORARY PROBLEM. Stand up and say I AM BETTER THAN THIS! I AM GOING TO GET MY CRAP TOGETHER.
Start with a doctors appointment. I wish you the best in life... I am just starting to live life again after 5 months of serious depression - and I couldn't be happier - Single and Alone, but very very happy!
Good luck, you will be in my prayers.
Just hang in there.... bad times come and go, just like the good times.
you cant overdose on antidepressants...go get some...
then go to your local council and tell them your dad is chucking you out and you will be homeless,then they can start the rehousing procedure..it takes a while...they will offer you a bedsit or something...its better than the street.
lif gets better mate...it cant get worse...can it?
Firstly, i'm so sorry to hear about this, i have been on anti-depressants in the past and they did work for me but i came off them as i was pregnant! don't be embarrased to tell the doctor how you feel, it's their job and their there to help, they see people like you everyday, maybe counselling will help you too? you really need to get some professional help.
As Rassle has said, go to your local council and explain your situation. Hope things turn out okay for you x
You have to go to the doctor tell him how you feel,,GOOD LUCK
hii..
i know how you feel..
we all go through tough parts during our life and i have been there also..
the best thing to do is look for a therapist, try to see him/her once a week and talk to them as if they are the only people you can talk to, they will understand and will help you.
but for now try and lay low for a while..
good luck hope i help.
Suicide is not the answer my ex partner killed himself.
Your confidence is a bit shattered at the moment. Take one day at the time. Speak to your GP, and make changes to your everyday life
If your negative about everything nothing good will happen.
You have been through a lot but things will get easier.
See your doctor, there is nothing embarrassing about it. Doctors see lots of depressed people all the time.
Think to yourself how fast things have gone wrong for you. They can change for the better just as fast. You never know what is around the next corner. When you feel you have hit rock bottom, there is only one way left and that is up. Good luck and see your doctor
bad luck? u hadn't walked a good 5 steps in my shoes,but i'm not a quiter,you?
If you were sacked from two jobs and your father kicked you out, you are obviously doing things wrong. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and try to change the things you are doing wrong. Good luck!
Suicide is more prevalent in the 16-24 yo males than any other group of people. This I believe is because blokes cannot talk to anybody. Society dictates that we have to be tough and stand alone. Unfortunately it's rarely possible. Everybody needs somebody! I am now married for the second time. When my first wife announced that she wanted a divorce it wrecked my entire universe! I rang the Samaritans about 6 months into a very difficult divorce. They were there for me when I felt that I could not speak to my Dad or my Sister.
My second wife is ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL. She is everything that the first one could only have drempt of being. Even when life seems totally **** I promise you that you'll rise above it. Look after yourself buddy and don't bother with the drugs. According to todays' press they don't work anyway!
I will look for other questions/answers from you on this site to check your okay.
Best of luck buddy!
Really sorry to hear you are finding things hard at the moment! i agree with most of what the other answers say, there is nothing embarrassing about going to the doctor about mental health, going about crabs now that embarrassing. Further more id like to add maybe you should get some self help!!! try focusing your energies on sport or recreation or developing your own personal interests. Find what makes you happy don't be dependant on your Dad or Partner or your Boss. Be proud of who you are and find what makes you drive forward in life, it may not be staring you in the face but at least your searching. the fact that you posted this Blog is a sign that your not a quitter!!!!
Also keep away from Drugs in any form for a while.
Go for a run every morning.
all the best
Please SEE and TALK to a Dr ASAP. I hope you can find a good counselor who will listen to you---alot of us (including me) just need to be listened to by people who care. Others on Q/A are in your shoes, my dear, and not all with a long life ahead. So please give your young self a chance and get some help. Lots of us have been and are exactly where you are, or worse, and we survived. God bless! xo "Gran"
http://www.metanoia.org/suicide
http://www.befrienders.org
Many of us, particularly those in the throes of deep depression, consider ending it all: I certainly did, at one time, but I could remember those times when life was very good, and I knew that if I just managed to hang in there, while the dark clouds of depression scudded past, things would get better. And they did! You can speed up the process by applying the treatments for depression, to be found on page 2 of this website. If the urge becomes overwhelming, call an ambulance (or phone 911 in the U.S.A., 999 in the U.K., or 000 in Australia), or take a taxi or public transport to the nearest public hospital emergency room, or mental health facility. Don't drive, yourself, unless there is no other alternative, because people thinking about suicide are often unable to give the serious business of driving their full attention, and so, may well become a danger to others, as well as themselves! It is always best to see a doctor first, as severe, or clinical depression, is often the root cause of thoughts of suicide, and it needs to be established whether there is any physiological cause, such as a thyroid disorder. Otherwise all the therapy/antidepressants in the world won't help. It is important to find a good therapist, but it obviously means that your choice will be limited, if you live in a small, isolated community. View: http://www.getmentalhelp.com/ or http://www.athealth.com/ and thoroughly examine http://1-800-therapist.com/index.html Phone: 1800 843 7274 (U.S.A.) HOTLINES: The following hotlines and phone numbers are there to help you: http://www.suicidepreventionhotline.org/ & http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html U.S.A. Nat. Phone: (800) 442 HOPE or 1 800 827 7571. Also: http://teenline.org/ Phone: (714) NEW-TEEN. and http://www.girlsandboystown.org/ Phone: 1 800 448 3000 and TDD: 800 448 1833 and http://www.lollie.com/bluesuicide3.html AUSTRALIA: Phone Lifeline on 131114. EMAIL: Ask4help@yellowribbon.org Phone: 303 429 3530 http://www.yellowribbon.org/ or: jo@samaritans.org web address: http://www.samaritans.org/ (202 branches, in North America, the British isles, Australia, New Zealand, and Hong Kong). At http://www.befrienders.org/support/index... there are email addresses for around 30 countries, in 22 languages. At http://www.comfortyourheart.com/ there is advice for those affected by suicide, its effects on other people involved, and some informative statistics, and more. Use the multidimensional approach to treating depression, including occupational therapy (keeping busy, so you have little time for unproductive introspection), relaxation exercises, either 4, or more Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, (some people take up to 10, depending on size, and potency) or preferably, "krill oil*". Work your way up slowly to 20 - 30 minutes of exercise daily, depending on age, and physical condition. Don't rely on antidepressants, which are only effective in the long term with about 30% of people, have side effects, like sexual dysfunction, and are unsuitable for young people, causing a demonstrated increase in the rate of suicide, homicide, and aberrant behaviour. You can, however, include supplements such as Inositol, SAMe, or herbal remedies, like St. John's wort (Hypericum Perforatum), which has been demonstrated through independently conducted German double blind testing to be effective in many cases, including clinical depression. American testing, which I strongly suspect of having been influenced by those with a vested interest in maintaining/increasing their billions of dollars of profits for antidepressant sales, has (not surprisingly) shown it to be ineffective in clinical (major) depression. Counselling, in the form of Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Cognitive Behavio(u)ral therapy is advisable, at least in the early stages, after which it can become a bit "same old, same old" for some people, and lose effectiveness. Closely examine the http://www.1-800-therapist.org website, and I suggest setting an initial limit with the therapist of, say, 6 months, so they have no (unconscious) reason to try to stretch it out, indefinitely, as some do. Go to the searchbar* at http://www.mercola.com and enter: "EFT". Give it a good tryout, preferably through a registered practicioner: there is a locator for the USA there. In Australia, there is http://www.findatherapist.com.au/ Phone (Australia) 1300 365 411, and www.naturaltherapypages.com.au See http://www.babcp.co.uk/ in Great Britain. In other countries, type the term: "therapist", followed by your country's 2 letter code, for example, if I was in New Zealand, I would type: "therapist;nz" and then enter it by clicking on the green "go" arrow, on the right hand side of the address bar, to use the search engine, (for those of you new to computers) or press the "enter" key. The WebFerret search engine consults several other search engines, and collates the results. Try yours, Yahoo, AltaVista, or Entireweb, otherwise. If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, instead of taking 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol/l. It should be above 32 ng/ml. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult, to achieve. You can also enter "depression", or "Seasonal Affective Disorder" in the Google, or Wikipedia websites. Detailed information on the above may be found in the blogs of detlef schtraka, and shaneris, at www.myspace.com
I am thinking.
I might kill myself very soon because I have a severe depression, financial problems and I was recently dumped and I am still in love.
My life is a mess.
Hi there i would just like to say that the last thing on your mind is for you to feel embarrassed about going to see anyone about how you feel. You have put your question right here for thousands of people to be able to read. To me you have made the first step to get over that embarrassment and that is a vital step. the next step is for you to go to see your doctor and let him/her decide if you need to take anti-depressants or if they think that you need to see someone else about the way you feel, if this is the case then please go as the people your doctor will send you to see will be well trained and able to help you deal with these feelings. i hope you will seek their advice and i hope to see you here again with with some good improvements to your feelings
Hope this helps :)
I'm sorry you feel like that.
I'm in a similar situation and it's crap. I've always had depression and sometimes it gets reallllly bad so bad that like you I wish it could be over. But that's not the answer or solution, you have as much a right to live&be happy as anyone else. Please go to your GP because they really can help and they deal with it often so there's no need to be embarrassed. Since you don't want to take medication they can refer you to a psychiatrist or counselling which is very good once you find someone you're comfortable with.
Ps feel free to email me if you need to chat
You should get Anti-Depressants. YOU need them. Tell you're Doctor exactly how unhappy with life you are, thats the first thing. He has to know everything. Tell him you're suicidal & feel like life is just to much to bear and you desperately need HELP Big time!!!
I really hope you feel alot better very soon, let us know how you are getting on? Never give up on Life, its all we've got darlin'. Take Care.
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