I am an abusive girlfriend - I need help.?!
Question: I verbally and sometime physically abusive to my boyfriend of almost three years, especially when I drink alcohol. I have decided to stop drinking because of this, he says I get mad at him for no reason even when sober. I love him so much and I hate hurting him. I only have realized now how bad this is. I want help. I don't want to loose him.
Answers: I verbally and sometime physically abusive to my boyfriend of almost three years, especially when I drink alcohol. I have decided to stop drinking because of this, he says I get mad at him for no reason even when sober. I love him so much and I hate hurting him. I only have realized now how bad this is. I want help. I don't want to loose him.
Changing your behavior is a long process and some people find they can't do it without outside help. It does not mean you are "crazy" if you get help to change. Just like if you go to a physical therapist it doesn't reflect badly on you, going to a behavioral or 'psychological' therapist doesn't either. We feel it does though only because some of the stuff discussed is very embarrasing.
what's your question?
if you are serious, then I suggest you get yourself to a cognitive behavioral therapist, he/she will be able to help you understand your underlying anger and teach you skills for dealing with it in a more productive and positive manner.
this is a great start cuz you know your doing something wrong and you WANT to fix it. Just try relaxing yourself in a -situation and i think its awsome that he's still with you even thoughh you do this. Go to a threapist and I wish you the best of luck!
Becoming Te-total shows your commitment to your relationship. Hopefully your boyfriend will see that, also, think about your actions before you make them.. I make that mistake alot. Maybe if you have no control over your moods, you should see a doctor as you may be hormonally in-balanced.
go to alcholic AA classes n tell them u r trying to quit drinking and tell them y n how u r wit ur man when u drink...ask um wut trigers it n how to stop besides the not drinkin nemore thing..c wut they say n c if they can help u........
if you really want to help yourself then maybe you should talk to a doctor
I would talk to your GP and see if they can refer you to an anger managment group. They really do help as I was the same at one point in my life.
Have you asked yourself the important question; why do I get physically violent and hurt people I love?
This would be a great place to start along with no more drinking. You need to understand why you do it. Are you afraid of something? Do you feel the need to test his love for you? Do you feel the need to control him?
Go the Alcoholics Anonymous and seek some help there. It is free. Blessings.