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Question: I know I just need to stop all contact with a ex bf, but there's somthing I want to figure out first so i know if he or what kind of illness he really has.
he has many, many times been caught being a liar and cheat. those times he gets caught, he starts screaming at the top of his lungs, doesn't let you get a word in edge wise, then to always finish, he says i'm the one who needs help!!
yes, i need help in knowing why i keep dealing with him.
any how, he can be screaming like a mad man and for instace if the phone rings, he can answer like he's this real nice sweet guy!! like..........wow, where did the wild mad man just go too!!
He puts on this front like he's this sweet adorable man, but is whacked!
does anyone really know what he has as a mental thing?
please no guesses if you can, send me to a\sght i can learn what he really is.
Answers: I know I just need to stop all contact with a ex bf, but there's somthing I want to figure out first so i know if he or what kind of illness he really has.
he has many, many times been caught being a liar and cheat. those times he gets caught, he starts screaming at the top of his lungs, doesn't let you get a word in edge wise, then to always finish, he says i'm the one who needs help!!
yes, i need help in knowing why i keep dealing with him.
any how, he can be screaming like a mad man and for instace if the phone rings, he can answer like he's this real nice sweet guy!! like..........wow, where did the wild mad man just go too!!
He puts on this front like he's this sweet adorable man, but is whacked!
does anyone really know what he has as a mental thing?
please no guesses if you can, send me to a\sght i can learn what he really is.
What he has is a sociopathic personality disorder. Google it and I bet you will learn more than you ever wanted to know. The two main characteristics are charming fronts and total lack of empathy so they refuse to accept responsibility or consequences of their bad behavior.
He's a lieing abusive jealous jackass.
Get away from him. Men like him can be sweet because they want to hide their true side until they get you addicted to them.
Get rid of these guys, they are no good. They have no mental disorder, just jackassness.
Lots of people (unfortunately) have the skill to tell you just what you want to hear. I can remember someone that did that, and as soon as your back was turned he did whatever he wanted to do. When things are going his way, everyone's having a good time, he fits right in. But when he has to speak up and say,"No, I'd rather not." He won't speak up or say anything.
Don't let the manic energy fool you. His denial is just a denial no matter how many words you can or can't get in edge-wise. So he's stonewalling you and shutting you out. It's an old trick, lots of people do that. It doesn't make him any less a liar or a cheat and he knows it.
His manic energy is typical of a bipolar disorder. His mood could swing from extreme to extreme and this is the high energetic phase, while maybe he doesn't do well on his own. He may not take loneliness or isolation very well and he could be very manipulative. He spends a lot of time socializing treating everyone pretty much the same way and he has no sense of right or wrong, just what feels good. In a low mood, he may find himself all too willing to do anything. There is no wrong when he's getting off on it.
I'm dwelling a lot on what is probably a double standard. I'm guessing this is what is stuck in your crawl. That is not necessarily indicative of a mental illness. But it could be what's making you so upset, moreso than his mental state. A bipolar person can be very charming and very appealing and they have a way of being striking or maybe giving off a strong vibe. Once you get sucked in, it can be a hard fall coming back down to earth again.
You think he is exciting and he has a way of exciting you just being around him. That seems true of someone that has sinned unforgiveably, but you forgave him anyway just to have him do it again. It may be true you don't need to concern yourself with his problems as much as determining what it is that makes you put up with him when logic would have told you to walk away from that as soon as possible. He just isn't worth it.
I know some things can be easier said than done. It's easy for me to sit back and be objective about someone else's feelings, but it's different when you're caught in the middle. I hope this encourages you to look at yourself and stop reacting. For right now, it may not make you feel any better, but maybe you have some assurance that this too shall pass. You'll find someone else. He might not be as exciting, but if he's faithful and he's good to you, at least that would be a big improvement.