Anorexia makes me happy. please answer?!
Question: i'm not asking for sympathy here i'm asking for help.
everything in my life stresses me out, i guess i have some stress issues. my mom yells at me EVERY SINGLE DAY and my dad just ignores me because i get c's in school and i "failed at the one thing i have to do in life" (school). i'm really sick of all the **** of life. i never have time for anything it seems and i'm always rushed. the only way i feel in control is by starving myself. i don't even know why but knowing i went the whole day with nothing makes me feel so good. when i don't i get suicidal and cut myself all over. please help i'm so tired of living like this. every day sucks and all i can think about is dying. i'm 13 and i have no idea what to do. anorexia ruined my life and now i can't go back to what it was before. why do i like to be anorexic and what can i do to help myself?
Answers: i'm not asking for sympathy here i'm asking for help.
everything in my life stresses me out, i guess i have some stress issues. my mom yells at me EVERY SINGLE DAY and my dad just ignores me because i get c's in school and i "failed at the one thing i have to do in life" (school). i'm really sick of all the **** of life. i never have time for anything it seems and i'm always rushed. the only way i feel in control is by starving myself. i don't even know why but knowing i went the whole day with nothing makes me feel so good. when i don't i get suicidal and cut myself all over. please help i'm so tired of living like this. every day sucks and all i can think about is dying. i'm 13 and i have no idea what to do. anorexia ruined my life and now i can't go back to what it was before. why do i like to be anorexic and what can i do to help myself?
You're not anorexic yet as you still feel in control of what you eat and why you do it, and that is why it makes you happy.
But in truth it does not make you happy it just makes you feel more in control, its like having an obssessive compulsive disorder only things in your life happen at such speed that people around you dont notice. Everyone wants a piece of you and the only way to feel incontrol, is to deny yourself a piece of you...
The trials you face we all face them. and we all find different ways to cope, cutting yourself and not eating is the way you found to control something that above else only you have control and that is your body and health!
You have recognised that you have a problem and that is excellent, well done. What you now need to do is find professional help, because you feel that you cant cope with the pressure alone. Try talking with the school nurse or counsellor, also try your doctor...normally i would say try talking to your parents but they sound very demanding and they probably would be at loss as to how to deal with a child like you.
Try also talking to a family member, or possibly one of your friends parents/ older sibblings, but make them promise to help you...
Please look for help dont give up, try also phone helplines like childline and samaritans,etc...
You'll get better, many people do.
Good luck
The same reason cutters like cutting -- it makes them feel in control. A doctor and/or psychiatrist consultation is the best first step for you going ahead.
Most anorexics like being the way they are because there are other things in life that they cant control but they can control there eating, that is why anorexia is a mental and physical illness! I suffered from a mild version of anorexia for a year when I was in grade 5, and was exactly how you say you are, eventually i just felt so sick and so hungry I ate something, but most cases arent that easy. To help yourself you really need to seek help from a counsellor, therapist or psychologist (they are all different), I would start off with a counsellor, do you have a school counsellor that you can speak to? Remember, they are not allowed to tell anyone anything you say and can get in alot of trouble if they do (unless they believe that you are a real risk to yourself or others), speak to the counsellor about everything, she may also refer you on to a psychologist or therapist too. Seeing a dietician can also help, as they can start you on an eating plan that is small but health until you work up to eating properly again. Speak to your mum about it, and make sure you tell her you are not making anything up for attention and that this is all real!
If you dont want to seek help though any of these people, try on your own, start by eating a small amount every day for a week, then try eating more the next week and keep that up!!
I hope all goes well for you, you can email me to talk if you want to!!
Good Luck!
See a therapist who specialises in eating disorders. I had anorexia as a teenager, but I never sought help. I tried to pull myself out of it by eating like I used to. As a result I ended up bulimic because I couldn't handle food in my stomach. It took me years to escape from that cycle. I finally gave up caring about what my body looked like and the control I had over it. My metabolism was so ruined I ended up fat. That was when I just started balancing out - when I let go of the battle. I am now 33 and have never had to worry less. I eat what I want and don't gain weight. The sad thing is I never had to. Genetically I was always slim anyway. All in all, it was a big waste of time and a waste of my youth.
Don't try to tackle the problem on your own. You need professional help. Believe me. It's all in your mind!!
Food is necessary. It's fuel for your body. Nothing more.
omg! okay being 13 you shouldn't develop this habit! if ur christian think what god thinks about this! Read the bible(book of john is good to strat) and try to do things like praise and worship! You should talk to your parents( if ur comfortable) try to do your best in school! talk to your friends about it! if you have any questions jus email me! gods_gurl7@yahoo.com (and try to see a councler)
good luck and god bless
i'll be praying for u!ALOT
brittni
Therepy, therepy, therepy!! I too was anorexic, I went from 168 to 83 lbs. Please, I beg you get help. The quicker you get help the better prognosis will be. God bless
I used to be anorexic. I was for a year and a half. I know exactly what you're talking about. You need to stop now before it gets worse. I really shouldn't even be alive my entire body was like a second away from shutting down when I finally starting eating something. Atleast eat something small...yogurt..jello..pudding..somethin... and drink water! start with that and gradually get up to speed again. trust me you do not want to go down this road! teenagers are put through too much stress. Try talking to your parents and calmly explain to them that you are trying. I would tell them what their stress on you has caused you to do. It will open their eyes.
You need someone to love you. Find Jesus and love him, than you cna love yoursefl and someone else.
I have an eating disorder as well. I think it would help you if you went to a pyschologist, and then they could create a team for you to get you better. My pyschologist has made a team for me. And what I mean by a "team" is a doctor that is specialized in eating disorders, a dietition, and the pyschologist. I really think you should do this. You can't beat this on your own. I know how hard it is to ask for help. But you have to do it, if you want to get better.
As you're reading this, take a deep breath. Don't worry so much. Life can get tough, but when you feel like it's out of control, talk to friends or a trusted adult (like a parent, if you feel comfortable or a counseler). Sometimes, the best way to feel better about something is to tell someone about it. Don't keep your problem a secret. Someone out there can help you. :) This isn't a problem that you should carry alone; or else you'll feel like life is even more out of control. I'm a Christian, so I really suggest reading the Bible. Seriously, you have no idea how much it helps me every day. I would suggest starting with John if you do. I'll pray for u!! :)
Firstly, your life isn't ruined. At 13 your life hasn't even started yet. How can you hope to be in control until you are in a position to make your own choices in life, make your own decisions, have sole responsibility for yourself.
It will come in time. But at 13, this is the time you should be making preparations to take control when that time comes.
You are also at a time in your life when you are making the transition from a girl into a woman and that can be a very difficult time for some people.
If you can't talk to your parents then go and tell your doctor how you feel. He/she will be able to get you the help you need and doctors are bound by patient confidentiality so your parent s don't need to know if you don't want them to.
It is never too late to make a fresh start....good luck.
Watch movies with Scarlett Johansson,
See about getting a therapist.
Research the physical effects of anorexia. [hair loss]
Decide if you would like to grow old or have children.
Decide of you want to be beautiful forever, or just for now with anorexia.
FIND SOMEONE WHO HAS BEAT THIS DISEASE TO TALK TO.
I can only do what i can because i had an eating disorder when i was depressed, but i was very lucky that i got over it along with my depression very quickly.
I hope this helps, that's all I'm trying to do.
email me if you need me, promise?
Anyone can be skinny as can be by starving and dieting but curves are priceless things to be thankful for, to love and make other girls jealous of.