How can i stop being jealous of really rich people? help! i HATE IT!?!
Question: i live with just my dad and he makes about 80,000 a year not including stocks and stuff
but its just him paying for everything((i cant get a job yet cause of school))
our house is just a ranch style 3 bedroom 2 bathroom house and we r redoing the kitchen and stuff
i think is a averege size house!
today i was with this girl to do a project for school,she said we could do it at her house. her mom picked us up in a HUMMER and went to there 3 story house!
i cant help but be jealous! help please
its takeing over me!
=(
Answers: i live with just my dad and he makes about 80,000 a year not including stocks and stuff
but its just him paying for everything((i cant get a job yet cause of school))
our house is just a ranch style 3 bedroom 2 bathroom house and we r redoing the kitchen and stuff
i think is a averege size house!
today i was with this girl to do a project for school,she said we could do it at her house. her mom picked us up in a HUMMER and went to there 3 story house!
i cant help but be jealous! help please
its takeing over me!
=(
Practice being thankful everyday, preferably first thing in the morning so that it sets the attitude for the day. That's common advice in many schools of thought, including self-help and religious-based philosophies. We can choose to fill our minds with anything we want, and if you choose to think about all the stuff that you're "missing out on" then you will find yourself full of jealousy. Conversely, if we choose to think about all the ways that we are already so very blessed, then we will cultivate feelings of fulfillment and happiness. It's a pretty simple idea really: whatever ideas you allow in your head is what you will be thinking about, feeling, and acting on!
When you first wake up, and any time you find yourself feeling jealous of other people's stuff, make a mental list of everything you could possibly be thankful for. I mean EVERYTHING; waking up to another day, the fact that your body is working, that your dad is alive and employed, that you are able to attend school and get an education, that you have access to the Internet and a place to ask questions like this, that you can read/write/communicate with others... stay focused on all of those positive things EVERY DAY and you will find your jealousy disappearing bit by bit.
Why Certainly's input was also great :) "Stuff" is just that! As you get older and look back, you will find that "stuff" rarely makes an appearance in your best memories. Our positive relationships with people and pursuing our talents and goals are the ingredients of real happiness, and the things we remember with most fondness.
Good luck in working on this; you can easily do it with practice and perserverence!
Sometimes things aren't as they appear. A lot of people with huge houses and nice cars are in debt up to their eyeballs; it's all about appearance to some people. I used to want a lot of money when I was younger, but now all I want is peace of mind. Strive to find the kind of work you love, stay out of debt, find love, and make a comfortable life for yourself. Hummers and three story houses (whether paid for or borrowed) won't keep you warm at night.
your really ******* stupid,do you realize that there are people much less fortunate than you.GET A LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! some of you bichez on here are stupid
Oh my God. You have to be kidding me, right?
You are rich yourself, and so is your Dad. 80K dollars per year is an extremely, extremely high amount of income!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
My whole three unit family earns about 25K per year. That is THREE OF US.
For one thing, you are probably spoiled rotten. You have so many things to be thankful for, but you just aren't. You just are not grateful for what you already have.
WAKE UP. You have so many things going for yourself. Quit feeling sorry for yourself, and focus on reality!!!!!!!!
I cannot believe that you actually have the audacity to post this. I cannot believe it.
You are extremely blessed and well provided for. Show some gratitude, and thank God that you have so much.
It seems to be the American thing... to have it ALL! You will get over it... you are young yet and have plenty of time to prosper financially..
Money isn't everything.
by becoming rich yrself. Its a psychological fact that one gets jeolous of something one need or desire badly and one does not hv
I've known people from all economic levels and let me set you straight - rich people are NOT HAPPIER than the less wealthy - in fact, I think they are more often LESS HAPPY.
There are far more important satisfying aspects of life than being able to buy a lot of stuff.
i have a 3 story? its really not that great, kind of gets boring. Theres nothing you can do except get a good run up and down stairs. Just think of it as boring. Cause it really is.
Houses, vehicles (thoroughly environmentally-polluting ones, at that) will NEVER be a substitute for the things that really matter. No-one on their death bed thinks "I wish I'd had more money". What people wish they'd had more of is love, fun, friends, laughter.
Quite often when people are jealous of money, it is because there is something they are lacking and they put it onto money because it's obvious and easy. But my hunch is that what you really wish you had more of, underneath it all, is your dad's time and your mother (I don't know where she is, but whether she's absent and you see her often, or not at all, or dead, you haven't got what everyone wants, a mum who's always there for you).
If this is making sense to you but you can't change how you feel, you might want to try counselling. Is there a counsellor at your school?
Alright $80,000 a year is really above average... I live in North Carolina and a single person working makes on average $26,000.
People think I always came up from a wealthy family and people think I didnt have a worry in the world. My parents have a really huge business. My mother drunk and mixed it with pain meds and she would say the most hurtful and bad things and it hurt so bad. I still havent fully recovered. I still talk to my mom and we have a good relationship but nothing can take away what she done. She has cleaned up now.
I am saything this because bad this can also happen to people you dont think can happen to.
Be appreciative of what you have. Use that as a motive to do your best and be able to have that when you get older.
Jealousy is hard to cope with.
Perhaps if you become her good friend, you can spend more time at her house.
Think about the things that you may not know about her.
Maybe her parents are never home because they have to work all the time to keep that big house.
Maybe she is alone quite a bit of the time.
I am sure you have heard that expression, "All that glitters is not gold." This could apply to her.
Material possessions are nice to have but happiness from the inside can affect our whole outlook on the world around us, including this girl's big house.
Relax, things aren't always what they seem. I see SO many clients - wealthy people, doctors and lawyers - come into my office and tell me they recently declared bankruptcy. They bought more than they had money for, so they got everything taken away.
Anyone can get anything they want nowadays - lenders give even people with bad credit the stuff they want, like cars and houses. That doesn't mean those people can afford it, though.
It isn't worth worrying about it. Just because they have more money doesn't mean they are happier or even as happy as you. Let it go and get on with your life. That is where it's at.