Would it be considered disturbing to have a child sitting on your lap while you !
Question: My partner who suffers OCD recently told me of a flashback he had where he can remember sitting on his nans lap while she used the toilet. He also remembers children doing odd things to him in the toilet when he was in junior school. However, he isn't 100% sure whether any of this is a real memory or something that he dreamt. He also thinks that if this is true, it might be the reason why he has a toilet fetish. Either way, this all makes me cringe, especially since he told me about it after we had intercourse! There are some things that a partner just shouldn't be told! I am very supportive of the intrusive thoughts he has due to OCD but I feel this is going too far.
Answers: My partner who suffers OCD recently told me of a flashback he had where he can remember sitting on his nans lap while she used the toilet. He also remembers children doing odd things to him in the toilet when he was in junior school. However, he isn't 100% sure whether any of this is a real memory or something that he dreamt. He also thinks that if this is true, it might be the reason why he has a toilet fetish. Either way, this all makes me cringe, especially since he told me about it after we had intercourse! There are some things that a partner just shouldn't be told! I am very supportive of the intrusive thoughts he has due to OCD but I feel this is going too far.
how old was he when he was sitting on gramma's lap? 4? That's not such a big deal, especially if he was a really active little boy. Gramma could have wanted to make certain he wouldn't tear apart the bathroom while they were in there but needed him in there to keep an eye on him, so she sat him on her lap. It not totally out of the ordinary. As for his fetish with toilets, there are people out there have have incredibly unique fetishes, I wouldn't dwell, maybe he could turn his fetish into art (I'm serious)..that's if it is a more simplistic type fetish like collecting toilet seats or the whole toilet, if it's more dramatic like playing in it or always wanting to sit and eat or have sex in it or something to that degree..then that is truly unhealthy and it would be recommended to seek some help...as for the kids and that info, if he's not sure, why dwell on it. Move on, it very well could have been a strange dream of mixed memories and thoughts. Who knows? If it bothers him or you this much then perhaps counseling sessions are in order. If not, then move forward and be well!
Good luck.
I dunno the answer, but bonne chance!
Yes I think it is. And he has a toilet fetish? Like, he likes to have sex on the toilet? Is he seeing a psycologist? Psyciatrist? I would recommend he go see them.
In a loving, healthy relationship you should be able to tell your partner absolutely anything. You should feel secure and comfortable that they will totally understand and won