I dont know whether im having depression or post natal depression.?!
Question: Im 29 weeks pregnant with my 2nd hubby.I have another 3 kids from my previous hubby.The problem is since my early pregnancy till now,im having financial problems and other problems too.I am the 1 who have to solve the problems by myself.Sometimes i just feel that its useless for me to have a hubby since im the only one who have to crack my brain to solve everything.Sometimes i do feel that i cannot accept the baby in my stomache.And i kept talking to myself that this is not my baby...I did tell my hubby that its better for me to die than to live cos i cant take all these burdens anymore...I hope anybody out there can help me solve my question.Thank you..
Answers: Im 29 weeks pregnant with my 2nd hubby.I have another 3 kids from my previous hubby.The problem is since my early pregnancy till now,im having financial problems and other problems too.I am the 1 who have to solve the problems by myself.Sometimes i just feel that its useless for me to have a hubby since im the only one who have to crack my brain to solve everything.Sometimes i do feel that i cannot accept the baby in my stomache.And i kept talking to myself that this is not my baby...I did tell my hubby that its better for me to die than to live cos i cant take all these burdens anymore...I hope anybody out there can help me solve my question.Thank you..
Sweetheart...the problems you are having...financial,emotional etc... are having a profoundly negative as well as detrimental effect on you,your unborn baby as well as your older children...you as the mother have to do whatever you have to, to protect and care for your kids...they are first and foremost.If your 2nd husband is more of a burden and not helping you out financially and emotionally...you don't need him around...this may sound harsh, but it sounds as though you should tell him to leave.Does he work? Is he at least trying to provide? If not you shouldn't accept his irresponsibility...he needs to go. This baby you are carrying is YOUR baby...he/she needs and deserves your love...Do you have family you can turn to? Someone who can help you through this difficult time? Don't ever believe or tell yourself you would be better off dead...that is NEVER the solution..YOU are needed and loved by your children...where would they be without you? Turn to your family or your Church congregation...Just remember these troubles are temporary and this to shall pass.Turn to God and pray for help and comfort...HE will be there for you when it seems as though no one else is! May God Bless and be with you honey.
Depression is depression. If you don't seem to raise your mood level, many times it's a chemical imbalance that will only get worse without help.
I am sorry to hear you are going through so much. I had to start doing things on my own when my husband left me with 5 young kids but and it was hard, I talked to my mom and sisters and God. i keep working at my problems and realized I can't let life get me down. I hope you can have someone to talk to when things get bad. i will listen. Email
I think it's only called post-natal when AFTER the birth.
My sympathies for your tough situation. Please see your doctor and tell him/her everything and please ask about some sort of respite care for yourself. If you'd rather be dead, then you need help for your depression. Your stress is immense and unless your circumstances alter DRAMATICALLY, I don't imagine any improvement in your mental state.
Also, please ask all friends to help with child care-let them know you are desperate.
Some budgeting agencies will actually take over your financial control, whether to pay debts, or just bills. Your income may mean that there will be little money left to buy basics like food, and if so, the budget people may be able to enlist a church agency to help with food parcels. The lack of money can be pretty depressing, but wringing yourself inside out to "make it work" is worse on your mind, when you have so much to contend with elsewhere.
This IS too much for you to do alone at the moment- I think you need responsible people to take some of that burden off you.
With good care and other plans in place to remove some of your stress, there is DEFINATELY hope of good recovery, so enabling you to enjoy your new baby. You deserve that! Best wishes.
I'm sorry that you are having such a rough time. Everything seems so much more when you are pregnant with the hormones and all though. I think you should talk to your OB about what you are feeling. When I was pregnant, my hormones got the best of me and I basically "lost it" so to speak. I felt so sad and cried all the time, had severe anxiety, and felt like I was seriously going crazy. They ended up putting me on Prozac while I was pregnant and it helped a ton. The stress of what you are feeling is worse than being on an antidepressant. Please get some help, most likely it will only get worse as the pregnancy goes.. especially once the baby is born.