How can I feel good enough?!
Question: My friends and life in generally sometimes makes me feel inadequate. That I'm not good enough for anyone. Especially when I can't do things as well as everyone else or people don't want to come over.
How do I get over this feeling of inadequacy and make myself happy? I never feel good enough.
Answers: My friends and life in generally sometimes makes me feel inadequate. That I'm not good enough for anyone. Especially when I can't do things as well as everyone else or people don't want to come over.
How do I get over this feeling of inadequacy and make myself happy? I never feel good enough.
surround yourself with better people. If someone makes you feel inadequate, you need to get away from them. They are not good friends. Figure out what you can excel in.. if you dont know try different activities until you find something that you enjoy and find easy... it wont be something that will occur overnight... this will take time.
Take sometime and really think about activities you might enjoy... it might be art, sports, community groups, church.. make a plan and write out things you might be good at.
Hang in there and surround yourself with people who are kind and not rude. You will get through this.
i have the same problem
but everyone has something better than someone else, just some have more than others
don't take this the wrong way, but helping other people, be that in community service, or forums like this helps your self-esteem a whole lot
smoke some drugs...no just kidding..everyone is unique in ther own way. just cuz you may not be able to do everything someone else can do doesnt mean they can do everything you can do..just believe in yourself..honestly everyone is important and should feel happy..hope i helped..
You may have to get your mind off of people and what you think they think of you. find something you enjoy doing like a hobby or do your homework with care and what ever you do even if it is by yourself be content with it. God loves you.
Poor thing. I used to think the same way. The truth is, you are no better and no worse than your friends, however, if they are making you feel that way on purpose, YOU ARE BETTER THAN THEM. You are unique in your own way, we all are. Why don't you work on your stronger points, like maybe you write well or sing well, maybe you are in touch with things others aren't.
I can tell you one thing about yourself and I don't even know you, you have a BIG heart and are probably a very giving and careing person. You are probably very easy to talk too, and people since that but you don't even realize that. I can tell that you are very humble and down to earth. Buck up little champ! You are special and I hope you realize that one day!! Good luck and God Speed.....
I felt like that for a long time; until I realized that I had it better than everyone in the first place.
Knowing what truly makes you happy, and then spending your time achieving your own happiness is what will make you feel good enough.
Forget everyone else. It's all about YOU.
The problem is the friends, not you. Friends are supportive & encouraging, not exclusionary or into putting people they call friends down. Its time to spread your wings & find a different group to fly with. Growing up is hard enough when you're all on the same team. Don't set yourself up for failure by bad choices!!
Truly, only you know what will make you feel "good enough" and you need to learn how to make yourself happy.
Self esteem comes from you, not other people. Relying on your friends to make you feel good isn't right. Maybe that's why noone wants to come over.
There was a cartoon on Nickjr, and this little guy kept saying "play with me" to everyone he ran into. Of course, no one wanted to play, because no one wants to be pressured into playing. So after he can't find anyone else, he finds a puddle and starts playing in it. He is having fun and laughing, and then the others ask him, "can I play with you?"
I don't know why you are so low on yourself but there are many books about how to change your self esteem.
What I will say is that your happiness depends on you, Learn and become good at things that are important to you, be a person you are proud of, and find things you enjoy doing. Then other people will see who you are and want to play too.
I remember back in the later 60's where I was involved in fish tanks.... Kids picked on me too.. Well You never said what your interest was.. It don't matter what it is.. You have to go forward.. Don't let them punk kids rule your you future... I feel that you know something.. If you need to.. Call The Police... Just you be you..
DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHER PEOPLE!! If you do this often your self-esteem is bound to get hurt. Would you compare your friends to see who is "better" (more worthy) than whom--would you treat yourself the way you would treat your best friend, telling them they're not "good enough" of a person?
Really, you are not "them," you did not have the same preparation or motivation or whatever led other people to have the results they have. ONLY compare yourself to yourself - in other words, FOCUS ON YOUR OWN PROGRESS and not in anyone else's.
Also, focus on the good things about yourself. A good self-confidence booster is looking in the mirror and repeating uplifting affirmations to yourself, such as, "hello, gorgeous!" or "I'm a nice person, I'm a hard worker, etc. etc." and at night writing down a list of all the things that *you* DID do well that day (i.e. got things done on time, had fun, helped someone, tried my best, etc.).
Most importantly, appreciate yourself for WHO YOU ARE, you are already a worthy person and your self-esteem can't revolve around your achievements or how well you do things. You're not perfect, you won't always be the best or at anyone else's level, but you are good. Always remember that.
We all have thoughts we are inadequate but some people just don't them seriously! That's the key--when we get in a low mood we have a bunch of unhealthy thinking that is trying to trick us. Don't pay attention to it! Wait for your natural feeling of self-esteem to come back. It will! Its the default state you were born in. That good feeling inside you can't be destroyed. Don't get fooled by those moments when you're down and have all sorts of negative thoughts--remember you are the author of your thoughts! Just let them float by. Try it!
keep your head up get out there have some fun
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You don't believe it? Okay, then how can other people believe it? So, first belive it yourself and then other people will begin believing in you likewise.