What would you do about this situation with a family member?!
Question: My son has adhd, and has been diagnosed appropriately.
I was having some light conversation with my son's uncle (father's side), and the subject of my son's behaviour came up.
He laughed at me and told me that ADHD is a fake disease, and no matter what I tell him he's not going to believe that it is. He told me that my son is just bored and a little active.
My son has struggled for years with this, and so have I. I had to pull him out of school in JK for it, and whithin the last year we have gotten a lot of his behaviour under control. He is 6 now.
I know that because he hasn't been around my son a lot since we moved from the area 3 years ago, and even when we lived in the same city, he saw my son maybe once a month.
But despite all that I had told him, he continued to laugh at me. And told me that he found that it was very offensive that I would believe that my son has ADHD.
I won't be talking to him for awhile, I'm very angry, and he knows that. What would you do?
Answers: My son has adhd, and has been diagnosed appropriately.
I was having some light conversation with my son's uncle (father's side), and the subject of my son's behaviour came up.
He laughed at me and told me that ADHD is a fake disease, and no matter what I tell him he's not going to believe that it is. He told me that my son is just bored and a little active.
My son has struggled for years with this, and so have I. I had to pull him out of school in JK for it, and whithin the last year we have gotten a lot of his behaviour under control. He is 6 now.
I know that because he hasn't been around my son a lot since we moved from the area 3 years ago, and even when we lived in the same city, he saw my son maybe once a month.
But despite all that I had told him, he continued to laugh at me. And told me that he found that it was very offensive that I would believe that my son has ADHD.
I won't be talking to him for awhile, I'm very angry, and he knows that. What would you do?
if it was me I would not talk to him
You do not need the extra stress of someone who argues with you about your boy. You know what you do and believe it so do not bother with people who try to talk b.s.
You should be VERY proud of your son
This is a hard thing to deal with and he is lucky to have you on his side
If you do have to be together however just don't talk about your son and if he tries to keep doing it...walk away
YOu will never change his mind if he is set in his beliefs unless and until he sees it for himself
Just tell the guy to get over it. You know that he has it. You are the one that has to live with him.
You won't be seeing eye to eye anytime soon. I would avoid seeing him for awhile until you cool down, then make sure you avoid the topic .Agree to disagree. It's hard I know. My husband has a brother I can't stand. Try and find things that are more neutral if you do have to talk with him
Arggggh I know how this is. Grit your teeth and have a beer until you get some time past you.
ignore him and take care of your child.
first and foremost, i would like to know, at 6 years old, what you have done for your child to "control his behaviour" have you just given him a pill like most other foolish parents?
There are different schools of thought on ADD and ADHD. Some people think that it is a crackpot diagnosis, and almost always, those people have never had to live with a hyperactive child.
I would just agree to disagree with him to keep the peace (but that's just how I am) He is entitled to his opinion, and you are entitled to yours. I assume that the two of you agree on most other things.
Your brother-in-law may be right regarding the ADHD, but he could have used a little more tact when discussing it with you. All of us have ADHD, but some don't know how to deal with it without using medcation. Pills are much easier than seeking behavioral remedies. In fact, doctors and teachers will encourage pills because its become accepted (and makes their job easier). But more and more people are frowning on over-medicating children. We're creating a generation of pill poppers who look to drugs for the every minor discomfort. My son bounced off the walls when he was 5 and was prescribed Ritalin. It made him drowsy and lethargic. I hated seeing him like that. I missed the activity and curiousity in his eyes. I felt so bad that I discontinued giving him the medication. A counselor suggested James (now 10) have one hour of "quiet time" every evening. No TV, music, video games, or anything which provides stimulation (sorry Mom, gotta do it too). My son learned how to calm himself and make the most of boredom. It was hard at first, but just enforcing the rules of it. He threw a mild tantrum which we overcame because I never gave in. After a few weeks his attention span increased and his hyperactivity decreased. He focussed more and angered slower. My husband even accused me of starting up the Ritalin again. The results were priceless. Now he's a 5th grade honor student who took up reading during his quiet time. It took some effort on my part, but was well worth it. I enjoyed TV in the evenings and video games kept him occupied while I cleaned, but I found the quiet time was beneficial for me too.