I need help. I really have a problem. I am depressed.?!
Question: Ive been obsessing over a girl who doesnt like me. She keeps talking to me, but when i asked her if she did like me, she said she only liked me as a friend.
Ive been literaly obsessing over this, and when it finaly hit me that she didnt like me, im really depressed and down. No happyness. . I feel like i dont have a purpose. I dont have very many friends. And ive never had a girl friend, always wanted one ... but no girl ive ever had feelings for had those in return.
I really always want more out of life, and i never get it. I have no one to talk to. And just when i thought i was getting something, it was my imagination.
Ive had other girls like me, this is why i thought maybe she did. But Ive created my own fantasy and dug myself into beleiving it.
I really feel depressed. and feel like i do not have a purpose in life. Im serious.
Answers: Ive been obsessing over a girl who doesnt like me. She keeps talking to me, but when i asked her if she did like me, she said she only liked me as a friend.
Ive been literaly obsessing over this, and when it finaly hit me that she didnt like me, im really depressed and down. No happyness. . I feel like i dont have a purpose. I dont have very many friends. And ive never had a girl friend, always wanted one ... but no girl ive ever had feelings for had those in return.
I really always want more out of life, and i never get it. I have no one to talk to. And just when i thought i was getting something, it was my imagination.
Ive had other girls like me, this is why i thought maybe she did. But Ive created my own fantasy and dug myself into beleiving it.
I really feel depressed. and feel like i do not have a purpose in life. Im serious.
First off if you'd like to talk my Msn is The_Comanch3@live.com
second... Don't stress over it... see what my problem is, is that I have very low self-esteem, yet somehow I have this belief that I'm good looking enough to have rather high standards, lol... but for the most part, I have no confidence.... I'm 18, I've never had a girlfriend (well one, but it lasted a week, and I avoided her because I didn't like her) I just had my first kiss 2 nights ago... a bit of advice on the kiss, don't stress, everyone told me that you will naturally know what to do... Of course my situation was like 1 in a million, that Hollywood would have even been impressed by... my point in telling you this, is that, This girl has told me before that she didn't like me like that.... and whatta ya know, we ended up kissing, unfortunatly it wasn't a relationship starting kiss. Um well I hate to do this to you... but although you should stress about the first kiss.... just hope that you aren't such a bad kisser that its a turn off for her.....(Stupid little... Grrrrr, yeah, that would be my situation... and I've never felt so low, because it was amazing, not just the kiss but how it led up to it) .... Anyways.... so, even though she said no... it does not mean no.... (for me it was a No, then a yes, now a no =[ ) I also have hardly any friends, mainly because of alcohol, my BEST friends parents said they couldn't hangout with me, and alot of my acquaintances/friends kinda went with em =( but if you feel like talking, hit me up
take one day at a time and live life at ur fullest good luck and god bless :]
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You sound exactly like my friend. My advice: Look outside the box and go after someone different or someone you never thought you would like.
you need a really good friend... email me and we can tlk i no how u feel i just went through that w/ my guy and it sux i actually went on antidepressants so im here anytime just drop me an email and ill listen
wow dude. get over her. forget about girls. dont think about girls and your life will be great. it works. go out tomorrow and ride your bike in the sun and think about what a nice day it is. this will work
good luck in your quest to happiness.
---foley1241
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This is a normal reaction to rejection, I love that "lets be friends" crap... Couldn't be a worse way to put it. Time goes on bud, you'll find someone else, even my ugly butt has had some really good looking women in my life, it's all about moving on and staying positive. I moved to a little town in Nebraska... For 7 years I was a "narc" for no reason, I couldn't walk out of my house without being beat, or called something... talk about going from popular and having friends, girlfriends to no social life at all, the good people wouldn't hang out with me because I'm a "Junkie" and the Junkies wouldn't hang out with me because I was a "narc" 7 years later the guy gets out of prison and tells them I didn't do it... they wanted to be my friends, I told them to screw off! I had been alone for so long... then I met marcia, we got engaged, moved in together, had a baby boy, then I walked into her screwing my worst enemy... Life goes on bro, I'm still here, I hate a lot of people now because I know their bullshit games, but I'm holding up, You can E-mail me anytime you need to talk homie. Forget the chick bud!
Well, first off, you maybe like her alot, but if you hangout with other girls, maybe you'll realize that maybe she really isnt for you and that you just got to keep looking and stuff. If she doesnt like you then thats her problem, just go out with other girls and get this one of your mind.
how does Kristen D's answer help anybody but herself (more points)
Well it would help to know what ur age is cuz sometime girls dont wanna go out with guys cuz they think they're too young to date or like maybe her parents dont want her too. But if that isn't the case then its probably because she likes u as a good friend and doesn't wanna ruin the friendship. Like she looks at u as a friend and she probably thinks it would be wierd, awkward and just not right if u guys went out.
So she did not like you, well never mind lifes to short pull yourself together and get back out there and try someone else
Try doing something you like. Put yourself on a routine exercise eating right, etc. even if you don't want to and go see a professional counselor.
well sometimes a good friend becomes more don't give up hope most of the girls i dated i was friends with first relax and don't push it if its meant to be it will happen for you cheer up
well ill try to help if your friends you should take at least alittle ore time for a girl to like you go hang out with here
Just stick through the bad times, there's always light at the end of the tunnel. One day you'll be happy with another half, don't hurt yourself over someone who doesn't care. Even if it means waiting for months or possibly years, one day fate will find you 'the one'. have faith, hold your head up high, of course you have a purpose. Your purpose currently a mission to get through this awkward time and learn what true happiness is again. Nothing is impossible, it can just require deep thought and most importantly time.
There is always somebody for somebody, trust me. You will find a girl who loves you and adores you for . And as for this depression, you have to think of the positives in life. I was ina bad depression for while, and i just made my self more active to get out of it, I also talk to a theropist. You should talk to one, trust me it helps.
Honestly mate, speaking frmo experiance, you will get over it.
If you think that you are up to her speed then take her out and make a move, sure you might get rejected but you will know you tried and you wont regret it, also others wont call you a fag.
As for the friends, if you're struggling to find friends then try and develop a sense of humour, and uniqueness, thats why i have quite alot of friends.
Never buy friends.
try talking to a different girl or something, get your mind off her.
ok... This might be the most difficult thing to do in your life so far. ask her if she has a moment to talk.. then tell her how you feel. the feeling that will be felt afterwards will be a big relief.
You do have a purpose in life. To live life. The girl may not like you as a girl-friend/boy-friend thing. But she is your friend. That is where most long lasting relationships start, as friends. Don't be to hard on yourself. It gets better. Good luck dear.
you have to realize shes just a girl and in couple of months she wont even matter. live your life to the fullest and you know what shes not the one for you. dont think about other people and what they think or how they feel, you is who matters. you need to get yourself occupied with other things. find a hobby, and sooner or later life will be better. it always is.
omg. this kinda sounds like me when i was young. trust me all the girls that do and has turned you down will end up liking you later it happens. Im not ugly from a long shot and have had ppl tell me i was ugly and other crazy things. i have had boyfriends before (more than i thought) and now i am married. there is somebody for you trust. if she doesnt like you then its a good thing. its usually good when you dont get the things you want. you may not understand it now but you will later on. trust .
hey, you don't have to tell us you are serious,, there are people there for you. I felt the same EXACT way for a while, i thought i would never have a GF. it just took osme time, get to know your closest friends even better, and don't fret over it. Having a Girl, is really not that great. You will def. find someone, i PROMISE, you, everyone finds someone right for them. And no matter what you believe in, you were put on this planet for a reason, you do have a purpose, if you didn't have a purpose then you wouldn't be here. SO also, don't ever let a girl make you depressed. Good Luck, and don't be sad.
Chill out and take it easy man, if that girl doesnt like u then its her lost and u go find someone eles, dont force urself to be so stubborn. there tons of ladies out there, u just need to take ur time to find ur perfect match =) u cant rush things, and dont think about it too much, and let it come naturally, and trust me u will find one when ur least suspected =)
Well, it now appears that you can not turn to antidepressants because they do not work
The best cure for depression is to know that depression will fade, that it is a temporary problem that you should not take action that would be permanent or long lasting to avoid a bit of pain now.
Discomfort of rejection is the stuff of so many ballads, it is almost everyone's pain, so everyone responds to those ballads. But it fades.
dont let a little problem like that kill your life.
u do noooot know how more depressed other ppl are.
"live life to the fullest"
im not much of a happy person myself.
i go to school and dont talk to anyone.
i get home and do homewrok.
and thats basically my routine every single day.
but if ur REALLY depressed, join TWLOHA.
http://twloha.com
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Ok. You're going to be fine. Are you saying that your only purpose in life was to find this girl and like her whether or not she would like you back?
If I were you I would be happy that she is not "playing" you. You would be worse off if she actually took the time to have you take her out to expensive dinners and events and THEN find out that she liked you only as a friend.
Ok, so this girl is not for you. That means she has opened the way up for you to freely go out and find the girl that is. And the girl that is right for you will be 10 times or more better than this one, plus, she will be crazy about you.
So rather than focusing on the past, look to the future and meanwhile make yourself a better person, perfect yourself, so that you have even more to offer the right girl when you meet her finally.
Sometimes we don't get what we want out of life.Your friendship with this girl may after a while turn in to love on her part.Keep going and she will come around and learn to love you.Good luck and never give up.
Don't wrry.. =]
You have 2 choices.. You can keep fighting for her or you can move on.. =]] I know you like this girl and you want to be with her, but as everyone says there is sumone out there 4 you. You can keep fighting for her if you really like her. Ask her if it can be like a friend date. I had the same problem with my friend.. Keep fighting and you will probably will get her! =]
Good Luck! =]]
You are serious as I am. I don't know how old you are but let me tell you something I like a dude who doesn't like me. I am 34 no children no home and no job but I still standing as a human being who believes that my time will come one day. So, do the same! Don't kill yourself for someone who doesn't feel the same way as you. Just move on until your time will come. Good luck!
you wont be thinking about it in a year... dont worry about it man... love hurts thats the point... dont let a girl controll your world like this, you should try doing something that makes you unique.
that will help you appreciate you for the good stuff and this stupid girl didnt see.\
GL girls are mean
You're not depressed. You have a situation that makes you unhappy. Everyone gets those. In fact, yours is pretty minor compared to those who are loosing loved ones, or homes, or something else they love and need. I don't mean to belittle your feelings-- I'm sure they're deep and real, but you need to but them in perspective. Depression on the other hand, is often a chronic and inescapable mental illness from which there is no escape. Trust me-- I've been depressed for years on end for no good reason. That's something you don't want to face. Don't confuse life's problems with something so serious. This will pass. In the end-- you're a lucky one.