I got into a self-destructive phase, got help...but now?!


Question: I got into a 'cutting' phase very recently, where i'd hurt myself every time i'd come across an issue that normally didn't bother me too much. Or I'd just do it as a habit. I wasn't sure if I was ok or not so I went out to get help. It was hard to get it out. After some encouraging words of "we'll help you" I stopped (before, I'd cut every day :S). Now I feel like I don't need help any more, and all I wanted was someone to pay attention to me. But the truth is, I was afraid of showing any of my friends, in fear of them thinking that I am a freak ... what should I do?


Answers: I got into a 'cutting' phase very recently, where i'd hurt myself every time i'd come across an issue that normally didn't bother me too much. Or I'd just do it as a habit. I wasn't sure if I was ok or not so I went out to get help. It was hard to get it out. After some encouraging words of "we'll help you" I stopped (before, I'd cut every day :S). Now I feel like I don't need help any more, and all I wanted was someone to pay attention to me. But the truth is, I was afraid of showing any of my friends, in fear of them thinking that I am a freak ... what should I do?

One of the best things I learned is that sometimes we really do need someone to "pay attention" to us. Our society puts too much emphasis on independence and the ability to "go it alone." But we need help and sympathy from other people. So even if part of your self-injury was the need for attention, that's nothing to be ashamed of. Everyone needs attention.

You have to decide how much you trust your friends. I personally have been surprised by how understanding people can be. The initial reaction can be a shock, but it feels really good to have it out of the way and not have to hide. If they're good friends they'll already know that you're not a "freak".

No, ur not a freak but u do have 2 see a psychiatrist even if u think, ur not having this urge any more because it can come back any time.It happens 2 a lot of people & u will get it off but should see the psychiatrist.

Dear friend.
If your friend's don't accept do way you're, their are not
your friends.

No matter what your reasons are....if you are hurting yourself you need to seek treatment right away.. Don't waste anymore time, it sounds like you want help...so go get it now.

Good luck.

I couldn't live with hiding the scars, wearing long sleeved shirts just aren't comfortable when its 100 degrees outside. You're not a freak, there are more cutters than you can imagine just inside your city. It doesn't matter so much that you cut. It matters why. Did you get to the core issue of why you want to do this? I know you probably have the answer, but it may be in a deeper place than where you can go alone. I would suggest that if this therapist is no longer working anything out for you, perhaps she/he has done as much they are capable and you should find a therapist that can hit different buttons and elicit more information about you so you can examine it, get rid of it, and replace it with something more positive.
peace

First off, you did the right thing by identifying your problem and seeking the appropriate help. That being said...'cutters' usually need long term care under the guidance of a psychiatrist. You may feel that you have things under control now that you've identified your trigger points but what will happen when another big issue or problem arises? You need to learn some effective coping skills as well.

As for telling your friends...invite them over to your house for pizza and tell them in the privacy of your own home. If they are truly your friends, they won't think of you as a 'freak'. In fact, they probably will admire you for having the courage to 'come out of the closet' with your problem. Once the word gets out about your self destructive phase, you're going to need the support of your family, friends and medical staff to help you through. Good luck.

Even though it may feel like a "release" by cutting and that you can solve your own issues now with out professional help, your further away from the truth than you know. I've been a self harmer for years and I am in treatment now, but I found that quitting smoking was much easier than stopping all SI behaviors. You will one day wake up and not know who you are and see all the scars, and wonder where you went wrong and then turn your anger into a hate for life its self, trust me, I'm doing it right now... I want the world to know I'm hurting and in so much pain psychologically that I've thought up some crazy ideas, and why?? Because I thought I had everything under control, when the truth is I had NO control and it's destroyed me..

Please get the help you really need, scaring up your body will only make this worse for you in time to come..

Good luck





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