Anyone who feels anxious???!
Question: Ok so this may dribble on but I feel I have to get some off this off my chest....I have always been very shy and part of tht was me but while in primary school I had a very nasty rumour started about me that I was a lesbian and it wasnt just a rumour people wanted to beat me up....people threw thinga at me and pretty much i became a bit of social outcast at 10......when I was 13 and going to high school I thought the rumours would cease as alot of the Kids were going to other schools but the rumour followed and I copped it through High school too.....I met a guy at school and we are now married and have a son...after the birth of my son I became very anious and sought some help....a phycoligist said I was anxious and to deal with it by addressing whatever makes me anxious....everything makes me anxious to a point...right now I have to move in a few weeks and I am continually hyper yet tired and feel like I have to poop all the time....It drives me nuts and gets in the way of living
Answers: Ok so this may dribble on but I feel I have to get some off this off my chest....I have always been very shy and part of tht was me but while in primary school I had a very nasty rumour started about me that I was a lesbian and it wasnt just a rumour people wanted to beat me up....people threw thinga at me and pretty much i became a bit of social outcast at 10......when I was 13 and going to high school I thought the rumours would cease as alot of the Kids were going to other schools but the rumour followed and I copped it through High school too.....I met a guy at school and we are now married and have a son...after the birth of my son I became very anious and sought some help....a phycoligist said I was anxious and to deal with it by addressing whatever makes me anxious....everything makes me anxious to a point...right now I have to move in a few weeks and I am continually hyper yet tired and feel like I have to poop all the time....It drives me nuts and gets in the way of living
While there is no single, sure fire solution for anxiety, there are a number of steps a person can take given their preferences, resources, time and motivation. What works best is up to you and ultimately, that is what it will come down to: you.
It sounds as if therapy provided you with good ideas for dealing with anxiety. Maybe more would be helpful. There are also medications available. Your primary care physician can help you there. Do inquire with your doctor or clinic about reduced price options if you lack insurance.
Okay, I'll get a little more personal now. You say that you are twenty-five, married, with a child. Congratulations, you have made quite a life for yourself already. I can see that you are a very capable person. You are.
But maybe you haven't decided this about yourself yet. This is the tricky part: no one else can. I know, it sounds too easy, too hard or too simple, but ultimately belief in yourself is a choice. Not one made in isolation of course, but a choice made with the encouragement and support of the people in your life, with the assistance of therapy and/or medication, a choice made in conjunction with diet and athletic activities, and/or accompanied by religious or spiritual guidance, and/or through the achievement of an advanced degree or certification, just to name a few things.
But regardless, you will have to choose to admit you are in control of your life, (and from the looks of it, whether you admit it or not, you are doing a fine job). This is what cures anxiety.
Oh, BTW, do not count your days as if they are running short. This is always a distracting illusion, even if you happen to be ninety years old. Instead, imagine each new moment for what it is: an instant not limited by any previous moment--- whether five seconds or five years ago. The present is a clear space for going in whichever direction you choose.
Take care.
i have anxiety and let me tell you its horrible!! Are you prescribed any medications? I know a lot of people dont like taking them but they really help. My doctor has me on a antidepressant because it helps anxiety and it is more for a long term treatment. Then i have klonopin which if for when i get the attacks it takes them away within 10 minutes and it just relaxes you. They are addictive but it is all in how you take them. I have been on them for a year and i have no signs of addiction. Anxiety does get in the way of life. I had my learners permit too and it just expired i am TERRIFIED of driving. I suggest getting on medication it will really help you out a lot. I hope i helped answering your question and good luck!! =)
It sounds like you've been anxious for a long time. That tells me that your anxiety will probably not go away quickly. Your psychologist has given you one suggestion that can work; but, it been my experience, you will have to deal with each of your anxieties one at a time. It usually doesn't matter which anxiety you start with. I would suggest that you deal with the one that is bothering you at the moment. "Deal with it" can mean a number of things depending on the orientation of the therapist. I usually recommend that people deal with their anxiety by looking at what they are anxious about exactly (for example, what about the birth of your son were you anxious about--whether or not you'd be a good mother, would something happen to him, why was he crying and what to do to sooth him, etc), where or when they first learned to be anxious about that particular issue (was it in your family of origin, was it when you son first cried, was it when someone criticized what you were doing with your son, etc), what facts thet remember that surrounded their first experience with that specific anxiety (be careful, this question isn't what triggered the anxiety, it is much broader: what were the facts of the situation that preceeded the anxiety (what was going on when they first became anxious about this issue), what were the facts that occured along with their anxiety, and what were the facts leading up to and following this specific anxiety calming down)? Once you know some of those facts, you can better decide what, if anything you really needed to be anxious about, if those facts still apply today, and what options you might have for dealing with that specific anxiety today. One woman worried for years that her husband might be laid off. After she began thinking about it more rationally, she realized that there was nothing that she could do about that possibility, and she noticed that there were several options if he did get laid off. At that point she said she stopped worrying about it unless her husband brought it up, and then she only worried about it briefly. As you learn more about your various anxious reactions, watch for patterns that transcend them. Those patterns will give you more information about what makes you anxious and can lead you to still more options for managing your stress. Obviously, this method of dealing with anxiety will take some time and a good therapist can greatly facilitated the process.
Another way "to deal with it" is to look at the stresses in your family of origin (both the family that you were born into and your extended family--grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins) and how they were dealt with. Don't worry about whether the family was faced with the same anxieties that you are faced with, just notice how the family responded to the stress.
There are only four ways that humans automatically bind off stress: conflict, distance, over and underfunctioning, and triangling in a third person. These strategies don't fix the problem. They merely shift our focus away from whatever we're anxious about and onto something or someone else so we don't have to think about, and thus can't "deal with" or fix the real issue. For example, I become annoyed with something that my wife did or didn't do, but rather than speak to her about that little or embarrassing annoyance, I blow up at her over something else. I become stressed about something with one of my relatives or friends, so I stop talking to the person involved. I get anxious because my child is struggling with his homework or taking too long to complete it; so I take over and do it for him--I overfunction for him which only works if he underfunctions which is not the same as struggling or taking time and eventually completing his homework on his own. I come home upset about something my boss or coworker said, and I either start a fight with my wife over anything or get her to side with me in judging the other person as wrong. All four of these strategies interfer with or make it seem unnecessary to confront and resolve the actual anxiety, and that sets a pattern for how we will deal with anxiety in the future. These patterns are often seen repeated generation after generation. If you become aware of the patterns that you use to bind off anxiety (most of us use at least one of the four if not all four), you can begin to watch for them and eventually develop ways to avoid these automatic reactions and then you can begin to actually confront and resolve or learn to tolerate your anxieties. The parents of a child would spend hours at night fighting with their son to get him to stop whatever he was doing and get ready for bed. The result was that he often missed his bed time by and hour or more which, of course just made his parents more anxious about him getting to bed on time the next night. One night they figured out that they were overfunctioning for him. That night they told him once that his bedtime was twenty minutes away. They said nothing more and left him alone. He finished what he was doing and was in bed on time. They stopped over functioning for him, and he took the responsibility upon himself, or perhaps he didn't have to take the time to defened himself against his parents. Speculations about why the boy behaved differnt are not as important as noting the process that lead to something different happening.
Learning about how your family of origin handled anxiety can be very useful to you in figuring out what your are automatically doing that "drives [you] nuts and gets in the way of living."