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Question: I have sophia phobia with very bad low confidence, i have no friends and can't make new friends as i don't understand why someone would want to be my friend. I have been dealing with this for years and as a result of this i don't go out, only to work. A few months ago i told a women at work everything and with her help i have made appointment for the doctor and she has been there non stop but i always feel like i am bugging her too much even though she says i'm not and she would tell me if i was. She is too nice to say anything but last night when we were texting she made an excuse to end the conversation and now i feel awful and don't know what to do. How can i stop myself being too needy? How do i act in front of her now? Shall i just pretend everything that has happen didn't and that i'm fine? Please serious answers only


Answers: I have sophia phobia with very bad low confidence, i have no friends and can't make new friends as i don't understand why someone would want to be my friend. I have been dealing with this for years and as a result of this i don't go out, only to work. A few months ago i told a women at work everything and with her help i have made appointment for the doctor and she has been there non stop but i always feel like i am bugging her too much even though she says i'm not and she would tell me if i was. She is too nice to say anything but last night when we were texting she made an excuse to end the conversation and now i feel awful and don't know what to do. How can i stop myself being too needy? How do i act in front of her now? Shall i just pretend everything that has happen didn't and that i'm fine? Please serious answers only

well.... gosh i think you shouldn't say sorry ab?gain because when people say sorry over and over again that is what gets annoying not the actual company. act natural around your co-worker and everything'll be fine.

Relax your friend probably had things to do try not to worry this lady sounds a real friend and believe me they are hard to find just let it go over your head hope iv helped

Happy you don't sound it.
I think the main problem is you don't get out to meet people.
Once you start making changes you will see results.Make more effort with people. Spend more time with others and you will stop obsessing about yourself.

All the best.

Stop worrying about it bud, ya just getting 'paranoidal', sure you'll get over it!.....

just relax

Do you know what is your problem? Do you know why you are having low confidence? My friend, let me tell you, if you are feeling so low because you think you don't look good, here's a piece of my advice. You are the single, authentic product of god where there isn't one who look like you in this world. So, you should be proud of yourself then feeling low about yourself. If you are taking care of your hygiene and with a simple dressing and simple make up, there isn't anything more to feel down about yourself. If you can uplift your self-esteem then, making friends isn't hard at all. If your problem is something else then you should tell us more specifically.

My heart really goes out to you in this situation. Start with this thought from a favorite song of mine, "Everybody needs compassion, and a love that's never failing, let mercy fall on me."

Meaning firstly, don't feel as though you're the only one.
Everyone is messed up in their own way because this is a messed up world with people that are shot through with weakness from birth.

Secondly we need a love that's never failing to start the process of wholeness and that has to come from a perfect source that is outside of ourselves or any other imperfect person we know. We need to be impacted and in regular contact with a personality that is full of love towards us even though He knows us intimately, I speak of course of God. Not a concept or religious system but the living God.

Now it's quite possible you've already started that process but you're just still struggling toward making your identity in God a reality in daily life, I don't know.

What I do know is that interaction with the pure and wonderful personality of God in prayer and in the beautiful truths of the bible is what has brought me peace and countless millions over thousands of years of history and given me a confidence to be able to be who I am, in the good ways and begin the process of change in the bad. I definately think that recognition of need for change is so important, because psycobabble tells us that you and I are just fabulous the way we are from birth, we just need to learn to love ourselves.
This just does not ring true to me, God loves us where we are, perfectly and wholy but he loves us too much to keep us there.

Make it your life's passion to find out who this living God is, through the scriptures, through prayer and through friendship with others who are seeking Him and I absolutely believe you'll find your self and your confidence along the way.

I also offer myself to you for any friendly council along the way, not as an expert but as a fellow messed up human working towards wholeness, whose hearts cry is "Let mercy fall on me."





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