Where does your self esteem and self worth come from?!
Question: i know we all want to change things about ourselves, physically and mentally. since no one is perfect. also, how satisfied can we all be, when we are so bombarded by look like this person, follow this trend, have this, and act like this. so...i know self worth comes from compliments, that boosts someone's self esteem, but i know there is more to it. so...where does your self esteem/self worth come from?
Answers: i know we all want to change things about ourselves, physically and mentally. since no one is perfect. also, how satisfied can we all be, when we are so bombarded by look like this person, follow this trend, have this, and act like this. so...i know self worth comes from compliments, that boosts someone's self esteem, but i know there is more to it. so...where does your self esteem/self worth come from?
It comes from people who are not in competition with you for any thing, feel as a member with you in fidelity, loyalty against common enemies, a spirit of unity, realism, forgiveness and cooperation to defeat all safety issues and help each other to become independently self supporting.
I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful.
If not, it can't be helped.
(Fritz Perls, 1969)
'The key idea of the statement is the focus on living in response to one's own needs, without projecting onto or taking introjects from others. It also expresses the idea that it is by fulfilling their own needs that people can help others do the same and create space for genuine contact; that is, when they "find each other, it's beautiful".'
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gestalt_pra...
low self esteem and self worth come from being criticized and compared unfavorable to others when you are young.
I say this generality as my opinion
To have someone recognize your achievements and abilities builds self esteem.
Humans want praise, recognition, appreciation, and to be accepted.
The difficulty is finding a balance with accountability and levels of expectations.
My heart and raising my daughter
I think some it comes from the way we have been brought up, the people we hang around and form relationships with, our society, the media, how we see ourselves, our culture, genetics and just your general personality.
Me for example, my parents are divorced and my dad was never there for me. I am recovering from anorexia and depression and I find it hard to make friends. I have a perfectionist/high achieving type of personality and nothing I do is ever good enough and I find it hard to not hate myself.
I think personal experience and your relationships probably have the most to do with your self confidence/self worth. Especially when you have had hard life experiences, bringing your self-esteem up is that much harder when your terrible situations has pushed it down so much.
Hope that helps!
I can't speak for anyone else but mine comes from doing well in or achieving goals which I value or take pride in. I'd like to think ideally that my self worth would come from within and I wouldn't need compliments to possess self worth, but having those compliments is a nice confirmation or boost/confirmation that you might be in touch with reality.