Postpartum depression, abusive relationship and suicidal thoughts....HELP?!


Question: I am currently about 4 months postpartum and I take Celexa for postpartum depression. I have a rocky and abusive relationship with my child's father, as he currently is taking ecstasy pills heavily and has become VERY abusive. Last Sunday he beat me with a belt and pulled a knife on me. I had to run out of the house naked to my neighbor's to get away from him. I left him, put him in jail and he bailed out. Now he is seeing another girl and it is eating me up inside. Deep down I know I deserve better but I don't know how Iwill live without him. In fact I don't really want to. The only thing that keeps me going is my kids, but honestly its getting harder every day. I keep thinking that i should kill myself, but then I wonder what would happen to my kids. So then I start thinking I should kill them too because life is just awful. I don't really want to do these things but it's like I can't control my thoughts, I'm even crying right now.


Answers: I am currently about 4 months postpartum and I take Celexa for postpartum depression. I have a rocky and abusive relationship with my child's father, as he currently is taking ecstasy pills heavily and has become VERY abusive. Last Sunday he beat me with a belt and pulled a knife on me. I had to run out of the house naked to my neighbor's to get away from him. I left him, put him in jail and he bailed out. Now he is seeing another girl and it is eating me up inside. Deep down I know I deserve better but I don't know how Iwill live without him. In fact I don't really want to. The only thing that keeps me going is my kids, but honestly its getting harder every day. I keep thinking that i should kill myself, but then I wonder what would happen to my kids. So then I start thinking I should kill them too because life is just awful. I don't really want to do these things but it's like I can't control my thoughts, I'm even crying right now.

For starters, you are doing great so far, by making the decision to make your kids the reason you are living today, you should continue to do that...Love hurts sometimes. But you should not let love ( your ex) determine your worthiness...That being said, suicide and killing your kids is not the solution...Although, you might think that it will take away your problems, image what it will do to those who care about you... I know right now you feel as if there is no way out, because you are contemplating suicide, but things will get better, Trusts me...It just takes time and determination...You're worth more than that....

for the mental health help, maybe a church can help you. Turn to God in your time of need for help - it has worked for me in the past. they have support groups and best of all, FREE. Also, if you aren't already, you need to be getting financial support from the father of the kids - if he wants visitation, it needs to be supervised, but that should be allowed too. Don't kill yourself or your kids. they are beautiful and someone would take care of them if something did happen to you (such as your family). try to get the thoughts out of your mind as you know they are all part of the depression caused by hormonal imbalances. I hope I have helped a little - sounds like you need more than anyone on a little answer blob can give. good luck.

Go to the ywca's website. ywca.org find your local shelter take your kids, a favorite toy for each of them and two changes of clothes and leave NOW!!!!

Don't kill yourself. Your kids love you. And if your thinking about killing them too, don't you think thats too extreme. There are a ton of support groups im sure in WI. Talk to friends and family. Hopefully you get support from them, and like you said you deserve a much better husband.

First things first, file for a PFA (Protection From Abuse Order) and keep that lunatic away from you. With police involvement, your application will be approved.
Next, find a job,keep taking your meds, see a counselor in addition to your meds, get a job, eat right and get/stay active. You are a parent now and you have no time for this. Life is hard sometimes.
Also, do what you can to make better relationship choices. If your child grows up seeing you get beaten they will think that this is what love is and the cycle will repeat.
Finally, if you do find yourself seeing no other alternative, call your local crisis intervention number or 911. There is help available. You and your kids deserve better.

deep breath.....................
Yes, you are in a very bad / stressful situation But, its good that your laying everything out on the table with how your honestly feeling ...........
It sounds like all of these thoughts that you are having are being backed up by feeling stressed and of course post partum, which is totally justifiable. You have every right to be upset and dissapointed with the realtionship you have with your babys father.............. But, you owe it to yourself and your children to not end your lives out of the mess that this man is putting you through. I get the feeling that you know this already and hormones can be tricky and play tricks with your mind /thoughts. Of course you and your children dont deserve this, its shard to see past all of this stress and ever think you will move on past this guy But, i promise you will.
When you do you will have a lifetime to look over your children and feel thankful that you are alive and living for them and their happiness.
Sweet heart you sound like a concerned women / wonderful mother who is in a bad situation But, I have faith in GOD that you will pull yourself and your children thru this !!! Your children keep you going , this i strue for soooooooooooooooooooo many women who are in bad/ unhealthy relationships with men.........................
My suggestion is that meds are not always the answer infact, medication wont solve your hurt/problems .................you need to just take one step at a time and get involved with people who can support you and help you through moving on ......................

1. Be strong.
2. Be calm & cool and make your decisions wisely
3. Stop the pills (they are harmful) drink a lot of water to cleanse away the pills effects from your body
4. Forget about your child's father and move on
5. You got a problem to solve. Solve it.
6. Your objective should be to set everything right for yourself and your kids
7. See if there is any financial aid...work it out
8. Always think positive. You fall, pick yourself up and move on
9. See if there is anyone in your place who can give guidance to you
10. Again I say be strong. I wish you well....





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