HELP! I'm really stressed and need to relax?!
Question: reasons for being stressed:
1. senior in college
2. taking 20 units
3. sharing a room with an 18 year old who acts like she's in high school
4. having 4 roommates that hate me
5. my bf lives 330 miles away
6. I don't have an adequate place to study
7. I don't have a bath tub to take a bath
PLEASE HELP
Answers: reasons for being stressed:
1. senior in college
2. taking 20 units
3. sharing a room with an 18 year old who acts like she's in high school
4. having 4 roommates that hate me
5. my bf lives 330 miles away
6. I don't have an adequate place to study
7. I don't have a bath tub to take a bath
PLEASE HELP
here's what i do when i'm stressed:
-go for a run or workout with my iPod turned up all the way. it's time just for me and i don't have to talk to anyone. then i come home and take a hot shower then paint my toenails and watch a chick flick while eating cookie dough or something that you don't always eat [ice cream, brownies... etc], call your boyfriend and talk about stuff that's not stressful, like movies that are coming out, a new song you heard on the radio, something new you've tried...
another thing you can do is spend the day at the spa.
or find a cheap hotel and get a room for the night, take your bathing suit and hit up the hot tub and/or the pool, then go to your room, get a pay-per-view movie and have the night to yourself.
best of luck to you!
:)
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Do all your homework in the library. The most important thing for you is to graduate.
Talk to a Dean. Usually there are study halls.
Don't react to your roommate. Tell her you need to do a little reading. Can we talk tomorrow?
Take deep breaths and go to bed. A hot shower should help.
Get some headphones and listen to music when you want alone time or feel stressed.
Find outlets for your stress and frustration. Take a daily walk or jog.
The study hall idea sounds good too.
Plan your personal time around the other girls going out time. You know when they're out partying you'll have the place to yourself to relax.
Good luck!
Well, let me tell you a roommate story to relax you. My first year of college, I did the pseudo-dorm thing at ASU. It was slightly off campus housing, close enough to walk, but cool enough you could say you lived in the commons (very important if you are a freshman;-). I moved into this apartment half way through the year, and the person who I shared a room with was a bit resentful because he had the room to himself for the last six months.
Something was off about this guy from the beginning, but I just couldn