Getting over friends death?!
Question: I have asked a question about this before and I was advised to be nice and honor her death. Use what she taught me and teach someone else. Here is the question asked before:
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I have tried to get over it but now I am completely heart broken. I cannot stop thinking about her and I have cried myself to sleep for a week now. I have no idea what to do. I just want her back in my life so badly. She made me where I was today and I just can't let that go. How can God take her away after all the good she has done. With out her, I don't know where my life would be right now. How could all of this happen so sudden? I'm not afraid to admit it. I need help but I don't want to go to a counselor. I need to find tips on how to get over this by myself and grow stronger. Please help me.
Answers: I have asked a question about this before and I was advised to be nice and honor her death. Use what she taught me and teach someone else. Here is the question asked before:
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I have tried to get over it but now I am completely heart broken. I cannot stop thinking about her and I have cried myself to sleep for a week now. I have no idea what to do. I just want her back in my life so badly. She made me where I was today and I just can't let that go. How can God take her away after all the good she has done. With out her, I don't know where my life would be right now. How could all of this happen so sudden? I'm not afraid to admit it. I need help but I don't want to go to a counselor. I need to find tips on how to get over this by myself and grow stronger. Please help me.
cry as much as you want too...but think of how you guys spend happy and sad days together listen to music that both you guys loved and cry when you get sad and laugh when you think of something that both you guys laughed about....the reason you feel like the way you do is maybe she hasnt gone yet and is still around thinking how much she misses you too.......thats way do what you feel is right for you and let her see how much you miss her.....when your ready to let her go she will leave knowing you had her on your mind and heart the whole time..she is with you and feels what you feel.....but love each other and you both will be able to carry on without each other only be together in your hearts and souls.im sorry so very sorry.but she loved you you know that.
She is still with you. She can still hear you. She is not sad she is "living" it up. You can talk to her anytime you want. Stay close to her by doing this. Just know you were very lucky to have her for the time you did.
I hate death I really do. I'd be lying if I said I was the first to say it never gets easier. It's been almost 5 years since I've seen my father and it hurts just as bad as the day he died. I have learned that he's happier now. I think this world is just full of so much pain and heartache that they are better and safer where they are. I pray for their souls and pray they watch over mine. You can't get over someones death.. But you can learn to face and deal with it over time. It won't go away but it will become more bearable. I still cry almost every day.. Nothing will change that. It's just the way I cope.
Awww...
I'm so sorry for your loss. It must be so hard for you.
Don't feel pressured to get over the death of a loved one - time is the only thing that helps. God has taken your friend away for a very good reason. Perhaps she had done so much good in the world, that she deserved to be taken to a better place. remember, God put you here for a reason, and he will take you as soon as the right time comes.
god bless you and I will pray for you
aw im so sorry for your loss i to have felt the pain of letting go of a loved one, although this is a very hard question i just dont know how to put it but it will take time to move on. But you should realy talk to someone about it.
you don't get over it but you have to just live with it and the thought that they wouldn't want you to be so sad ------in fact I often feel that my friend is still looking out for me even after all this time. Music is still a problem but maybe a very sad time is balanced out by recovering. You just survive hourly and at first try not to remember how it was. Save this for later when you are better able to deal with it. It takes time to get used to and accept the fact that our loved one is no longer physically with us. Try to keep busy doing things you might enjoy. Exercise---- bike riding is good or just walking---fast ----you can get so tired that it can give you some relief. Learning about and eating healthy is also very important to becoming stronger. So go to it you do not have time to waste.
Dan,
the misconception that you have is trying "to get over this".....................why should you have to rush yourself in "getting over a friends death" ??????????.................I dont think you should expect yourself to just be over this so quickly ?????
There are no tips that a person can give you to make this easy, it isn't easy !! I realize that in our country / the way we are raised, we are expected to be strong and move on But, it shouldn't be that way. You sound like you need to process this and take time to accept your heart ache..................................mo... is okay, feeling heart broken is okay, confusion and loss...these feelings you have are okay........
roll with all that you feel Dan ..........your not expected to just "let this go"
"Dont let it go"............this girl was special to you and your free to hold onto that as long as you need to................and of course you will hold onto that forever and keep her close to your heart
You will work thru this in your own way, its okay to cry over the loss of your friend (all day if needed) ...................
Dont be afraid of what you feel or how long it will take you to live a normal day ...............god bless you !!!