25 and lonely ... grown-up answers only, please?!


Question: I am 25 and I live in downtown Chicago. Surrounded by people, you'd think loneliness was impossible, but I am very lonely. My boyfriend goes to school in Ohio and I am not in a job field that I feel will be my future career; because of the hours I work, it is diffcult to find time for friends, and I spend at least one weekend a month in OH, so many weekends are out, too. A lot of my old friends seem to have moved on without me and don't want to spend much time with me, but I don't have much opportunity to make new ones.

What can I do to relieve some of this overwhelming loneliness? I try hard to enjoy time on my own and fill the void until the next chapter of my life, but I feel as if I am wasting my youth.


Answers: I am 25 and I live in downtown Chicago. Surrounded by people, you'd think loneliness was impossible, but I am very lonely. My boyfriend goes to school in Ohio and I am not in a job field that I feel will be my future career; because of the hours I work, it is diffcult to find time for friends, and I spend at least one weekend a month in OH, so many weekends are out, too. A lot of my old friends seem to have moved on without me and don't want to spend much time with me, but I don't have much opportunity to make new ones.

What can I do to relieve some of this overwhelming loneliness? I try hard to enjoy time on my own and fill the void until the next chapter of my life, but I feel as if I am wasting my youth.

I went thru the exact same thing in San Diego....... eventually
I realized that my happiness and cool do not depend on the presence of other people

as a result I found very cool hoobies I would enjoy like going to the movies by myself when I had free time.

Go to an exhibition, museum, bookstore

you'd be amazed at the amount of people you always meet in these places.......... stop looking back for at your friends......... there are also many new people out there who are potential friends for u!!!

you're not wasting your youth by the way.......... is not like you're gonna live like this for the next 15 years or so!!! in a couple of months this will be over I bet

if you feel like you don't have the type of career field u like.... simple!! visit a counselor or some of those agencies that help you find the type of job you like, learn what u need to do to get there and simply go for it!

I am 28 and have done a long distance relationship for 3 years. It has been tough. I too have been in a job where I feel I am not going places. I see my guy even less than you do (once every 4-6 months).

I have not made many friends either but I decided to volunteer my time even if it was one hour a week. There are always things going on where they need help. While I did the volunteering I met new and interesting people, some in similar situations. it was a good way to get involved, feel good, meet new people and fill some time.

Good Luck!

find a job you love and will enjoy doing

I'm 31and single and lonely too I live in the country side which makes it worse sometimes. I have a number of online friends including one in the Chicagoland area

i know how you feel. hang in there. give me some details on a typical day and what you like to do.

If you don't like your life then change it. It can be done. If you feel your relationship is not working then break it off- start with a clean slate. Also start looking for a job in some other area that would interest you. You can change your life if you put your mind to it.

I understand completely I am 25 year old female in the DC metro area and I recently separated with my husband. All of my friends have children or moved away during my pointless relationship that I can not wait to be over with, I must say it is really lonely sometimes even so close to the city. I just find other things to do to keep me busy. I volunteer to work extra hours, I am also taking on-line classes (working on my degree), I take myself shopping, out to eat, to local bars, and exercise every now and then. I also got two kittens and a lizard, LOL. So my days are always full of adventure even if I am not dealing directly with people.





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