Running Away?!
Question: I'm so sick of my life right now. My college classes are challenging and I'm behind on my work. I'm getting nowhere with my part-time job in a kitchen. The area I work in doesn't have that many employment opportunities. I live at home with my parents and will be turning 24 this year. My boyfriend lives with me and things with him are going downhill. It seems like nothing is going right. My health isn't so good...I don't eat as much as I need to when I get depressed. I feel like dropping everything and just drifting and being free from hassles and responsibilities. Has anyone ever ran away before? If so, how did it turn out? Any suggestions on what to do?
Answers: I'm so sick of my life right now. My college classes are challenging and I'm behind on my work. I'm getting nowhere with my part-time job in a kitchen. The area I work in doesn't have that many employment opportunities. I live at home with my parents and will be turning 24 this year. My boyfriend lives with me and things with him are going downhill. It seems like nothing is going right. My health isn't so good...I don't eat as much as I need to when I get depressed. I feel like dropping everything and just drifting and being free from hassles and responsibilities. Has anyone ever ran away before? If so, how did it turn out? Any suggestions on what to do?
I keep $40.00 and a full tank of gas at all times. I don't run away..but I like to know I could if I wanted to.
Things always get better...I hate when people tell ME that..but it is true.
Who cares about the kitchen job. Unless you are studying to be a chef or hospitality expert...it doesn't matter. Even if you are...you are in school right now..so "getting nowhere with my part-time job" is not a problem.
Living with your parents at 24 sounds great to me! AS long as they are okay with it.
If things are going downhill with the boyfriend..tell him..you need a break. Why stress over a guy at the age where there is a thousand of them everywhere you turn?
Keep a food diary and set the alarm on your cell phone to remind you to eat. Even if it is just an apple and a slice of cheese.
Now...school...that is your biggie here. Face your demons here. Make an appointment with each of your professors and your counselor. Tell them that you have had some undue stress that has distracted you and that you know you need to catch up.
Ask each of them what you can do to catch up and bring your grade up.
In another month and a half...school won't be an issue then you can go back to stressing over the other stuff.
Good luck....don't run...turn around and face it straight on!!!!!
What is the worse thing that can happen in each of these scenarios? None of them are life changing. They don't involve death, i.r.s or children..so don't fret.
ill come with you. iv been thinking about it for a while. go for it
Just get right with everything
Keep trying no matter what
No matter how hard things end up keep being optimistic and things will get better
sometimes sooner
sometimes later
you just need to keep your head up
Where would you run away to? With what money? Where would you stay and what would you eat? How would you survive?
And most importantly of all, what on earth are you going to do once you have to come back and face what you're running away from?
what good will running away do? whatever you are going through isnt as bad as what you will face on the road, and it may sound cruel but its true, youll be broke so you will end up doing god-knows-what, doing drugs, drinking, maybe even robbed,raped,or killed. Cmon, ask for help before doing anything drastic
my friend has and i did when i was a teenager. youre a girl and i would suggest going with someone else because my friend was sleeping in dowtown LA for 4 months and got raped a couple times. i suggest backpacking asnd going to the grand canyon, yosemite etc. and maybe watch the movie into the wild. its about a guy who graduates college and runs away and backpacks for therest of his short life. he burned all his identity and money and left with nothing. i would reall suggest you watch it if you are planning to run away.
What the great Harry Chapin said in one of his songs "You can travel near 10,000 miles, and still stay where you are" , If you got problems running isent going to make them go away. You are in control , you have the choice, get a new job, kick your boyfriend to the curb, move out of your parents house, its in your hands.
I think you need to move out of your parents' home and start building your own, with or without your boyfriend. I'm sure you love your parents but you are at an age where you need to be more independent and responsible and provide for yourself. Running away might help for a while, but it's not the solution, and may bring more problems at the end of they day.
I don't think you should run away because that can turn out to be quite selfish - your boy friend, friends and your family will get scared if you just disappear, the police will get involved etc.
I think you should have a week or two concentrating on your college work to get that over and done with, quit your job for a bettor one or talk to your employer on how you are feeling, they may be able to change what you do, what you get paid and make you feel more comfortable. This will mean you get money so sort things out with your boyfriend, discuss, then get some money together and buy a flat.
Not eating also will MAKE you depressed, consult a doctor for help and try to eat more without thinking about actually eating it. You will become less depressed along with a nicer/more comfortable job and it is important speak to your parents. Remember, they have once been in your position and if you get them to understand they can support you, money wise and physically. Good luck and don't run away!
Take a deep breath, and relax. It is a phase and everyone has and will go through this one way or the other. The best thing to do when you are in this situation is have complete faith in the Supreme Personality and try to understand that God makes us go through things like this to get us to realize Him and make us come closer and closer to Him for shelter and help. You should too, it is your chance to take shelter of the Supreme Lord. I went through the same thing for a very very long time and I am glad I found a way, which is accepting the Supreme Lord as my guide. I hope you do not mind me say"Please chant Hare Krishna Hare Krishna.... Krishna Krishna Hare Hare...... Hare Rama Hare Rama... Rama Rama Hare Hare" and be happy, and by the grace of God all will work out just fine. I hope the above does not offend anyone. thanks
The 1st thing that you need to do is to talk to someone whom you can trust about your problems. What you need is focus and setting your priorities. But keeping them inside you will not solve any of your problems at all.
I assume that you might have problem talking to your parents on the above. I have a 25-years old son and I know how it is like.
If you are looking for someone who has the expertise to bring you through your current difficulties is to consult a psychologist in a government hospital. They would be able to guide you through the proper process and who knows, you will get out of your crisis.
well running away isn't a cool choice-. i understand that things get really overwhelming at times, so for now the best advice i can give you is, don't run away, lose the boyfriend for a while , focus on your studies, and talk to your parents about supporting your choice to concentrate soley on school, and maybe not have to worry about a job for a bit...if you have to work try to find something else that better suites you.
Yah. you can get rid of this through a way. you have to prepare yourself that you are not a sick. If you thought that you are sick, you will be felt more sick. Just keep yourself in joy and take the advice from a doctor. And at last lead a happy and enjoyable life.
Running away is a quick way to program yourself how to drop out every time the going gets too tough.
College is meant to be challenging. It's sometimes painfully so, but challenge, when met head on, produces growth and maturity. My classes are challenging and I'm WAY behind in Algebra. There's a good chance I could fail that class. The only job opportunities around here are hotel/motel housekeeping and restaurant work.
Unless you have a genuine physical ailment that prevents you from eating, there's no reason why you can take charge and make yourself eat more. Depression is real, but there are at least two types. One is chemical or hormonal. There are medications for that. The other is brought about by spending too much time in negative thought processes. That's something we have control of.
My suggestion: Every time you hear those negative, self-defeating thoughts come in to your mind, stop them. Replace the thought immediately with the opposite. It won't feel natural at all, but after a while you'll develop the habit of positive thinking, and with it, you will actually begin to see more positive things happening in your life. We draw to us what we think and believe. We can allow our thoughts to defeat us or we can change them to strengthen ourselves.
Do what you can to help yourself right now. Talk to a counselor at school or to your teachers, have a heart to heart with your boyfriend. Ask about work-study programs at your school.
Remember, all of the things you are struggling with now, will become your strength later if you face them.