What are the steps that people go through to cope with death?!
Question: I remember hearing that there are various steps that people go through after the lose of a loved one. I know that Blame is one of them, but what are the rest?
Answers: I remember hearing that there are various steps that people go through after the lose of a loved one. I know that Blame is one of them, but what are the rest?
Its called the Grieving Process:
Denial and Shock
At first, it may be difficult for you to accept your own dying or the death of a loved one/classmate. As a result you will deny the reality of death. However, this denial will gradually diminish as you begins to express and share your feelings about death and dying with other students or friends.
Anger
During this stage the most common question asked is "why me?". You are angry at what you perceive to be the unfairness of death and you may project and displace your anger unto others. When given some social support and respect, you will eventually become less angry and able to move into the next stage of grieving.
Bargaining
Many students try to bargain with some sort of diety. They probably try to bargain and offer to give up an enjoyable part of their lives in exchange for the return of health or the lost person.
Guilt
You may find yourself feeling guilty for things you did or didn't do prior to the loss. Forgive yourself. Accept your humanness.
Depression
You may at first experience a sense of great loss. Mood fluctuations and feelings of isolation and withdrawal may follow. It takes time for you, the grieving student, to gradually return to your old self and become socially involved in what's going on around you.
Please note that encouragement and reassurance to the bereaved student will not be helpful in this stage.
Loneliness
As you go through changes in your social life because of the loss, you may feel lonely and afraid. The more you are able to reach out to others and make new friends, the more this feeling lessens.
Acceptance
Acceptance does not mean happiness. Instead you accept and deal with the reality of the situation.
Hope
Eventually you will reach a point where remembering will be less painful and you can begin to look ahead to the future and more good times.
I have just went through the same thing... I lost several family members in 2007. I lost 2 in the same day and then it seemed like every few months I was in loss of another family member. The person whom answered above me is soooo correct. It takes alot of time for some and less for others. It depends on how you cope. God Bless and I wish you the best.
I have just lost both my parents and my cat in the last 20 months .
Everyone grieves differently , guilt and blame are tearing me apart .
Anger is another one this is because you feel they have gone and left you .
There are many emotions you go through and the pain in you're heart is undescribable .