Help! I feel so confused, don't really know who I am.?!
Question: Well this is more of an issue i have, looking for some advice. I'm a 17 y.o. guy and i just feel so lost. I feel like i don't really have a personality, at least not one i like. I constantly rely on other people to make decisions and don't feel like i can ever be just me. I don't have any feelings of self-worth, i really only feel good when someone else validates me. I can't enter social situations without following someone i'm comfortable with. And well, i'm pretty awkward. The only girlfriend i've ever had was because she liked me first, and i don't think she ever even like ME more like the idea of me or what she had in her mind as me, well that is until she dumped me 2 weeks later. I'm just tired of being inferior and wish i could just have a set in personality not some awkward guy who adapts to who i'm around to try desperately to get them to like me. I'm pretty short about 5'6 and i don't have a whole lot of things going for me to boost my self esteem.
Answers: Well this is more of an issue i have, looking for some advice. I'm a 17 y.o. guy and i just feel so lost. I feel like i don't really have a personality, at least not one i like. I constantly rely on other people to make decisions and don't feel like i can ever be just me. I don't have any feelings of self-worth, i really only feel good when someone else validates me. I can't enter social situations without following someone i'm comfortable with. And well, i'm pretty awkward. The only girlfriend i've ever had was because she liked me first, and i don't think she ever even like ME more like the idea of me or what she had in her mind as me, well that is until she dumped me 2 weeks later. I'm just tired of being inferior and wish i could just have a set in personality not some awkward guy who adapts to who i'm around to try desperately to get them to like me. I'm pretty short about 5'6 and i don't have a whole lot of things going for me to boost my self esteem.
It is normal to not know who you are at age 17. But it does sound like you may have social anxiety disorder and/or depression. Please seek a therapist to speak to. When you find the right one, it helps a lot. Hold your head high though. Your height has nothing to do with it, but your confidence has everything to do with it. Good luck. You seem really smart btw, and that is more appealing to girls than anything else.
sounds like your codependent. this is a mental illness that can be treated. so go to a doctor for somethings you can do at home to help.