Physical abuse...?!
Question: Thought I was over this. Happened just a few nights ago but I am really struggling. I left him but I'm really hurting. No family, friends to confide in.
Answers: Thought I was over this. Happened just a few nights ago but I am really struggling. I left him but I'm really hurting. No family, friends to confide in.
"A few nights ago" is just too short time to be over abuse of any kind. You need time to heal, both your body and your feelings.
Sometimes it helps to move from the place where it happened. If you can, try to take another job, move to another neighbourhood or even another city.
If you have no family and no friends it may be helpful to try to talk to somebody else: a doctor, a counsellor, a priest or even a stranger that you feel comfortable with.
If you have a wound, take care of it. If you think the abuse took place because of your self-esteem, you may need some help to learn how to deal with it. Sometimes we allow people to hurt us because we fear the loneliness, or not to be loved or liked, or we think we are worthless.
Believe me, you are not. You deserve a better friend and a better life. There is no need to allow abuse, unless you really like it.
Don't answer him, don't go back with him and move on. Time will heal the things. People mature, grow and change, that's the good thing of being humans. There is always a way out and a way to change and be happier.
Good luck and take care
well stay srong i was in an abusive relationship for too long. i thought i loved him and everytime he hit me he said oh im sorry u know i love u and u just pissed me off.
dont fall into the trap i did. u need to stay gone find a place to stay and dont talk to him it will only get harder.
u need to this for yourself. dont let him controll u. i know its hard but u have to stay strong and if it gets too bad call the cops if u dont feel safe.
Do not go back and look to your own childhood to find out why you lean towards violent men,was your father violent, there is much confusion between male strength and the ego of the bully, go to assertiveness classes which will teach you the psychology of where you are coming from.