Can u share any real life experience of a husband's life with a wife who is !
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U will be sick as well
I know a man who lived with a mentally ill wife. They were both professional people who were educated and well-respected. She had numerous breakdowns. At times, she was violent. She often threw out money, his clothes, furniture and expensive household items when she had her episodes. He suffered through it for years but finally left her when the kids had grown up and he could no longer handle the constant stress and trauma. It seemed like an unfair burden for a spouse to tolerate for that many years.
I can share what it is like to be the child of a mentally ill mother and have witnessed the effect her illness had on her marriage. It is like living with a stranger from another world half the time.
Dad didn't know how to deal with it, he reacted to things Mum did or said as though she was in control of her thoughts and behaviour, like any other rational person, but of course, she wasn't. At times he felt like he was losing his own mind, because he just couldn't find a way to communicate with her whether she was ill or even those times when she seemed to be doing OK.
Nothing seemed to make sense, nothing seemed to make a difference. He felt so powerless and only wanted to help and protect her and us kids, but it seemed beyond comprehension.
He told me that he was sure sometimes she was doing really bad stuff just to act out. He had begun to learn the difference between a true psychotic episode and plain old bad behaviour. But she was like a spoilt, unmanageable child and he needed a wife, a partner.
Their social and family life simply crumbled under the strain. His work suffered because he was always having to stay home or sort us out when she was sick. He was an intelligent man with a gift for photography but he spent his life in one dead-end job after another until retirement.
Eventually they broke up, but he stayed in close contact especially when we were still young. Even after 45 years apart, neither of them ever remarried. He passed on 3 years ago. She is still as mad a box of frogs and every one of my days is spent wishing she was dead because she can find no peace in this world and it breaks my heart just like it broke my Dad's.
She should seek mental health help on her own. If she's unable or unwilling,the husband should do the footwork for her. Look up a reputable psychologist. There are often clinics at the University or Community Outreach Programs that deal with mental health issues.
Some let you pay by a sliding scale based on income.
There are mental health forums on the net with help for families & spouses of persons living with mental illness.
The husband should be in counseling.
Don't feel ashamed,guilty or helpless.
You didn't create this.
You're not alone.
It's difficult & frustrating trying to maintain balance in a marraige when a partner is unable to hold their own.
If the wife is violent, harmful to others &/or herself get the authorities involved.
She may 'snap' and do something dreadful & then it will be too late!
Prayer helps!