Couple with the same problems, help?!


Question: Well, a few years ago I started to develop some problems. I turned to cutting myself to get out depression, hitting myself to take out anger, and overdosing when it became too much. I'm working on it and I've made a big break through with all of them, but that's aside the point.
Hitting is one of my biggest problems right now because I do have anger problems. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years and we love each other so much. He told me yesterday he had a history of hitting himself, then he started football which he could take his anger out on, so he stopped. Lately, since he hasn't had football or wrestling or anything, he had no way to take it out. He has a very bad temper, and there's a lot of perverted guys around here that are.. Erm, doing stuff to me, and it's infuriating him so bad. He started to hit himself again, and I'm so scared he'll really hurt himself. He's so strong and he could really do some damage. I told him we'll work through it together..


Answers: Well, a few years ago I started to develop some problems. I turned to cutting myself to get out depression, hitting myself to take out anger, and overdosing when it became too much. I'm working on it and I've made a big break through with all of them, but that's aside the point.
Hitting is one of my biggest problems right now because I do have anger problems. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years and we love each other so much. He told me yesterday he had a history of hitting himself, then he started football which he could take his anger out on, so he stopped. Lately, since he hasn't had football or wrestling or anything, he had no way to take it out. He has a very bad temper, and there's a lot of perverted guys around here that are.. Erm, doing stuff to me, and it's infuriating him so bad. He started to hit himself again, and I'm so scared he'll really hurt himself. He's so strong and he could really do some damage. I told him we'll work through it together..

You really need to make sure he knows how it feels for you. And for the record I recently started cutting and am trying to stop... i told some of my friend and they were so shocked. they told me that they were really scared and if something were to happen they would kill themselves because they wouldn't be able to live with it. Tell him that. Speak from your heart. Offer as much support as you can, but do not push him.

What exactly do you mean when you say 'there are a lot of perverted guys round here, that are erm doing stuff to me'
what does that mean? i really dont get it! sorry!

You both must give up anger.
anger=judgment=Pride/ego.
Essentially you are playing God and angry when the world does not obey your will.
Every religion and all the Sages and philosophers agree that "Pride precedes a fall", it is the source of all human problems except the weather (and if you resent that, it's obvious that the human doing that clearly thinks s/he imagines they are God, or should be).

How do you give up anger?
Below is a free exercise which does the trick. but only if you are willing to look at yourself objectively. If you really want to get past this and find happiness, check it out.





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