Loosing hope in finding love?!
Question: I'm starting to loose hope in finding love. most of my past relations have not worked well. can anyone give advice as to what to do? I suffer in self worth because of it (both work, love life, and school life are suffering). My family life is ok though.
Answers: I'm starting to loose hope in finding love. most of my past relations have not worked well. can anyone give advice as to what to do? I suffer in self worth because of it (both work, love life, and school life are suffering). My family life is ok though.
Hey don't give up. I strongly believe that it is all about timing and fate. For some people, it takes longer to find 'true love'. You don't want to rush into something just for the sake of it and end up getting hurt or disappointed.
In the meantime, you could try to widen your social circle, make new friends etc, not for the sole purpose of meeting 'the one' but also to surround yourself with people who care and make your life meanigful. Sometimes it's friends who make a difference in our lives and not lovers.
Good luck and cheer up :)
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I guess the first thing I'm wondering is how old you are, since you mentioned school. I don't want to assume you're a teen, or college aged. If you are, you should give it time. Work on being who you are, especially since you say your self worth is suffering because you aren't finding someone. Work on being the someone you'd want, you know? I know it sounds dippy, but think of it like this. Someone who is confident and happy with who he or she is tends to be attractive to others.
If you're older, I think my advice would be similar, although obviously you've had more time "in the field" and so you are probably feeling like you've given it many shots and aren't getting there. In that case, (a) work on yourself and (b) try meeting people somewhere you don't usually. It could be that you're just hooking up with the wrong type for you, and changing the pool you're drawing from might help.
(updated) I'm sorry, I know it was presumptuous to use a generalization/typicality for ages and school. Of course you're right that there are older students at college, but the very large number of undergraduates tend to max out at about 25 at the more "traditional" campuses - not so for satellite campuses and for more flexible universities.
And yeah, I know, teens can find love. To me there's a distinction to be made in advice to give to a teen who hasn't found love by 17 and to a 34 year old who's worried because s/he has never had a relationship that lasted past 1 month.
I went thru a phase like that during my early discoveries of a type of mental illness. u can apply for SSI (or social security) and work on urself before u go back to the work field. Of course u cant really live off of that but it might help u.
As of LOVE....omg.....love urself! believe me that is the key to everything!