How do you get yourself out of a funk? Have you ever been in one?!
Question: Long story short: I have worked my whole life & was recently laid off. At the same time, I was preparing to move in w/ my fiance & also arranging for my Mom to move in with us. I had to organize both moves & then my Fiance's Mom was given bad news that she would be passing soon. I figured it was all a blessing that I got laid off so that everything could be dealt with.
I moved then I moved my Mom, was in & out of the hospital everyday (long story) until Fiance's Mom passed. Then came memorial services, estate sale for her belongings, storage units for everything else. Then I had surgery, gained a few pounds and now . . . I can't seem to get back into my life.
I need to get back to work & I need to get outside & not be on the computer all day. I can't seem to get motivated about anything anymore! Has this ever happened to you? I went from being cute to not caring, from up & out to never leaving. How do you get out of that? I feel completely uninspired.
Answers: Long story short: I have worked my whole life & was recently laid off. At the same time, I was preparing to move in w/ my fiance & also arranging for my Mom to move in with us. I had to organize both moves & then my Fiance's Mom was given bad news that she would be passing soon. I figured it was all a blessing that I got laid off so that everything could be dealt with.
I moved then I moved my Mom, was in & out of the hospital everyday (long story) until Fiance's Mom passed. Then came memorial services, estate sale for her belongings, storage units for everything else. Then I had surgery, gained a few pounds and now . . . I can't seem to get back into my life.
I need to get back to work & I need to get outside & not be on the computer all day. I can't seem to get motivated about anything anymore! Has this ever happened to you? I went from being cute to not caring, from up & out to never leaving. How do you get out of that? I feel completely uninspired.
I have been in an emotional funk on and off for 24 years of my life of 33 years. I've had moments of joy or happiness, but they have been surrounded by long occurances of depression. I know why I feel the way I feel, which is ultimately rooted in my childhood.
I hear sad songs, and I want to listen to them over and over. I have trouble getting up in the morning, not because I'm "lazy," but because I can't face the day. Depression for me has been more painful than any form of physical pain that I have ever experienced, and that is by no means an exageration of the truth. When I was a kid, I always wondered why my grandfather drank so much, and now I know why - - people with real depression have few options in an opinionated society that places a "cast system" upon those with mental illness or emotional changed individuals.
When I lost my last full time job 4 years ago, it was the day after xmas. I heard the song "Hard Candy Christmas," and ever since that time, Christmas has never been the same. Now, at 33 years old, I'm a full-time college student, and I feel so emotionally drained. Most of my fellow students are 18-21 years old, and they don't accept me because I'm older than them. So I have few real friends at school, no full-time job, and no social life. And few women are going to date a man with no job.
So, although its hard to be in a funk, things always can be worse. I suppose that I have a lot to be thankful for, and perhaps I should be more thankful. Still, it seems like every day is a struggle, in a negative way. And with every passing day of my life, I feel less inclined to try - - what's the incentive? What's the point? As a person ages, it seems like there are fewer and fewer "big breaks" available, because today's society is based upon the idea of Eternal Youth.
I wish I had a clear answer to this question, but I do not, unfortunately.
It sounds like you might be mild to moderately depressed, and with good reason with all the stress in your life. It would be a good idea to check with a psychologist or social worker in your area. Just look up Mental Health in your area.
Personally, I've found that "faking it until you make it" can help. If you act 5 times happier than you actually are, sometimes you actually start to get happier.
Also, to-do lists are great. Think about everything you could or should be doing, write it down, and just move.
Good luck!
I am sorry to hear what you have to say. I don't know how it feels because I'm still 16 and haven't been involved in society and its troubles yet. But recently I've been in a "funk" as you call it. This girl I really cared about told me she didn't have "special feelings" for me. I tried to hang out with her. But she would just pretend I wasn't there, even flirt with other guys with me watching. It made me feel horrible. So, I stopped trying.
I got myself out of the funk by vowing to be successful when I grow up so I can laugh at her. It's not very admirable, but it makes me feel better and gives me a push when I need it.
Only you can help you! Believe it or not, I know exactly how you feel. There are days when I do not even want to get out of my bed. I have been through a whole lot (just like yourself: long story) and have found that only you can help you, and believe me you have to WANT IT. I mean, really want it! If your fiance is still with you, remember that she does not have to be! If you let yourself change to the point where you are unrecognizable, you will lose her! Get out of bed, go to the gym, apply for jobs, apply for assistance, make an effort. You have responsibilities still and you need to live up to your name. Leave a mark on this earth when you go! Don't just be another nobody! Turn off your computer right now and go! Set goals for yourself and achieve them, even if you kill yourself trying. If you do this, I guarantee you that you will become the man that you once were, and you will begin to recognize yourself again. Assure you fiance that you do want to spend the rest of your life with her, happy, and healthy. Let her in on your feelings and tell her what you are prepared to do about it. If you need to, make an appointment with a licensed psychiatrist (a doctor, not a counselor), but that should not even be necessary. You are capable of accomplishing this stuff on your own. Remember, you are a competent man!
This is a tough one. From what you are saying, to me you need a diversion which will lead to the things you now know and want to happen.
To get out of the house and away from the computer, pick a movie, get out and go see it. But don't just see the movie, look at everything around you on the way in and out. Depression is an incidious thing, sneaky and quietly drilling into your psyche. So, combat it by countering it. After the movie, go have a coffee in a cafe somewhere, anywhere, make that small effort.
Again, look around at the people in your line of sight. Guess what, they all have problems, many like yours too probably.
Sometimes the best way to beat depression is to realize that the way you feel is only temporary, and that for you, feeling as you do really isn't the end of the world.
Perspective is important when you suddenly realize that others share depression too, but that they too have beaten it. Have a look in the yellow pages for organizations that might help you. The only thing I know is that depression is called 'the black dog'. So try that for a name.
Main thing is get out of the house, and you will find when you do you change the environment that depression flourishes in. Try to be constructive in your thoughts and actions, force yourself to care about the small things, and the big things will follow.
Hope this helps.